Bridesmaid drama
So its been a while... I'm the one who had posted about the maid of honor dress drama who had ended up removing her from the wedding party.
Its one month out from our wedding and I thought I would give everyone an update on the horror story that is *This*
Well I ended up apologizing *IN PERSON* to her some months later taking her out for a drink and asking if she would consider attending the wedding as her friendship means too much to me to ruin it over dresses. I did ask that she keep negative comments about things that don't effect her to herself.
She informed me that if she was going to come to the wedding she was going to be *IN* the wedding.
I agreed that this was ok and boy was that a mistake.
She put off ordering her custom converse until the color and design were no longer avaliable. My other bridesmaid found some knockoffs that match color that she put off ordering until I had to confront her about why she hadn't ordered the shoes yet and it being only a month left to the wedding.
She didn't order her dress in her size and it needs to be altered and she is dragging her feet. like its 3 inches too long and pooling on the floor. It's also loose in the chest but she doesn't want to have it altered incase she bloats so she doesn't get uncomfortable but you don't bloat in your chest? Maybe I'm wrong but a dart on each side under the armpits would leave the stomach area completely uneffected?
She will not show me how the dress and the shoes look together.
She is in another wedding also and posted on facebook a whole rant about do brides think about the colors they "force their bridesmaids to wear". It was right after I found out about the converse so it wasn't immediately obviously not about me but she is also facebook friends with the other bride. She then went on this long private disgusting rant about how she ccan'tbe supportive of the couple because she has to wear "mustard yellow" (its marigold but i'm a color snob). And how can she fake being happy for her friends when she looks ugly.
And here I am. Trying to finish wedding planning. Our best man and his wife who was a bridesmaid dropped out one month before the wedding because he lost his vacation time with a promotion and she was doing the floral arrangementsso now I have to do the floral arrangements. I was already baking the cake. The wedding is in hawaii. We had to move. My health isn't great and I've been having seizures so the added stress really isn't helping.
I have brought up my frustration to the bridesmaid (Were one month out from the wedding and your dress doesn't fit and you don't have shoes we should be worried about these details this close to the wedding) and her response was she has spent too much money to back out of the wedding. I'm feeling like it wouldn't be unreasonable at this point to tell her. to wear a different dress and her own shoes and just be a guest.
edit: a word
Edit 2/Update: I have told her since the post earlier that I need alterations to be started by friday and if its not possible then I would love for her to attend as a guest.
She will be attending as a guest. I am thrilled for this outcome truly.