u/Federal_Tradition_63

I was a heavy smoker for about 12 years**,** around 5 joints a day, every day. I’ve spent roughly 380 CHF per month on weed, without exception.

It was just part of my life since I was 14. For years it didn’t even feel like a “choice” anymore it was automatic. Wake up, smoke. Bored, smoke. Stress, smoke. Everything revolved around it in some way.

A couple months ago, a friend of mine lost his driver’s license for driving under the influence. Switzerland is extremely strict with cannabis and driving (basically zero tolerance). That was a wake-up call for him, he quit that same day.

I stopped a few days later.

After a few sleepless nights and sweat-drenched sheets, something finally clicked. Clarity hit in a way I didn’t expect.

Why was I so careless with my life?

I have a dog I need to be there for. I have a job I don’t want to lose. But when I was high, none of that really crossed my mind. It was always just “it’s only weed.”

I don’t want to say weed is bad, but anything becomes bad when it’s too much.

Looking back, I’ve probably spent over 40,000 CHF on weed over the years and smoked well over 11,000 joints. I’m only 26.

And honestly, I never really felt in control of my life. Everything revolved around weed, where to get it, when I could smoke, how I’d have it for trips. Even on vacation, I wasn’t really present because part of my mind was always thinking about weed.

Now that I’ve stopped, I feel different. Not perfect, but clearer. More present. I actually have time for my dog and for myself again.

Still early days, but I’m starting to see what I was missing.

AITA?

this is a long one...

I lent my sister my car so she could save mileage on hers, since she drives around 170 km every day for work. This started because she called me one day asking how much longer she could keep driving her car, as it was starting to have problems. I asked a few friends about it, and they told me my car would be much better suited for doing that many kilometers per year.

Since I barely use my car anyway, and I still needed to reach around 50,000 km before the end of my lease, I offered to let her use it. I gave it to her at around 16,000 km, and it’s currently already at about 30,000 km.

Now here’s where the problem starts:

A few weeks ago, I caused a small parking damage to her car. I’m currently taking care of it. The garage appointment is already booked and I’m paying 100% of the repair costs because she refused to let me go through her insurance. She said her insurance premium would increase and she would lose her safe-driving bonus.

That was fine with me. It hurts financially, but I wanted to handle it fairly. The repair is costing me around 2500 CHF, and that also includes fixing scratches that were already on the rear door before I damaged it. So in the end, her car will actually come back in better condition than before.

Then on Tuesday, she asked me if I could arrange a tire change appointment with my friend because he does it for free. At her request, I even asked him if he could also check the tire pressure so she wouldn’t have to go to a garage and pay for it.

I organized everything and got an appointment for Sunday. The issue is that my friend only has time this weekend. Otherwise I’d have to pay for the tire change myself, which I’d honestly rather avoid after already paying for the repairs.

Today she suddenly called me and said she “can’t be bothered anymore.” She refuses to bring the car or pick it up. Instead, she expects me to:

• drive her car to her place,
• take my car back home,
• do the tire change,
• drive my car back to her place,
• and then drive her car back again.

Honestly, I found that pretty unreasonable, especially because I tried offering multiple compromises.

My suggestions were:

1. She takes 20 minutes and brings the car herself.
2. I pick up her car, leave mine at her place, and she brings my car to the garage while I drive her home afterward.
3. I cancel the appointment with my friend, but then she pays for the tire change herself.

None of those options were acceptable to her. Instead, she accused me of damaging her car, “trying to keep it,” and acting unfairly.

About the “keeping it” part: I once jokingly told her I liked her Mini more than my little Kia with 70 HP and that I wanted to keep it. It was obviously a joke, and a week later we switched cars back anyway because she needed to take hers in for service.

I genuinely thought I was helping her and trying to be fair throughout all of this.

So… AITA?

AITA?

this is a long one...

I lent my sister my car so she could save mileage on hers, since she drives around 170 km every day for work. This started because she called me one day asking how much longer she could keep driving her car, as it was starting to have problems. I asked a few friends about it, and they told me my car would be much better suited for doing that many kilometers per year.

Since I barely use my car anyway, and I still needed to reach around 50,000 km before the end of my lease, I offered to let her use it. I gave it to her at around 16,000 km, and it’s currently already at about 30,000 km.

Now here’s where the problem starts:

A few weeks ago, I caused a small parking damage to her car. I’m currently taking care of it. The garage appointment is already booked and I’m paying 100% of the repair costs because she refused to let me go through her insurance. She said her insurance premium would increase and she would lose her safe-driving bonus.

That was fine with me. It hurts financially, but I wanted to handle it fairly. The repair is costing me around 2500 CHF, and that also includes fixing scratches that were already on the rear door before I damaged it. So in the end, her car will actually come back in better condition than before.

Then on Tuesday, she asked me if I could arrange a tire change appointment with my friend because he does it for free. At her request, I even asked him if he could also check the tire pressure so she wouldn’t have to go to a garage and pay for it.

I organized everything and got an appointment for Sunday. The issue is that my friend only has time this weekend. Otherwise I’d have to pay for the tire change myself, which I’d honestly rather avoid after already paying for the repairs.

Today she suddenly called me and said she “can’t be bothered anymore.” She refuses to bring the car or pick it up. Instead, she expects me to:

• drive her car to her place,
• take my car back home,
• do the tire change,
• drive my car back to her place,
• and then drive her car back again.

Honestly, I found that pretty unreasonable, especially because I tried offering multiple compromises.

My suggestions were:

1. She takes 20 minutes and brings the car herself.
2. I pick up her car, leave mine at her place, and she brings my car to the garage while I drive her home afterward.
3. I cancel the appointment with my friend, but then she pays for the tire change herself.

None of those options were acceptable to her. Instead, she accused me of damaging her car, “trying to keep it,” and acting unfairly.

About the “keeping it” part: I once jokingly told her I liked her Mini more than my little Kia with 70 HP and that I wanted to keep it. It was obviously a joke, and a week later we switched cars back anyway because she needed to take hers in for service.

I genuinely thought I was helping her and trying to be fair throughout all of this.

So… AITA?