u/Feeling_Attempt6851

AITAH? I feel completely lost and guilty over what happened.

Last weekend my boyfriend (25M) and I (23F) went to my hometown festival with friends. He was already in a bad mood and spent most of the night being cold toward me, leaving me behind in crowds and barely talking to me. Eventually the night got better. We went to a concert, got food and drinks, and even got permanent bracelets together.

Later we went to one of his friend’s houses, then around 4AM got a hotel instead of driving home because we had both been drinking. Everything seemed normal until I got in the shower.

A few weeks ago my ex and I exchanged a few texts and TikToks. It wasn’t romantic, but I know it was wrong and hurtful.

While I was showering, my boyfriend went through my phone. He suddenly opened the bathroom door screaming at me. I got out confused and still drunk while he yelled and grabbed my wrists, ripping off the permanent bracelet and several others. He threw my jewelry, Apple Watch, and rings into the toilet and flushed it. Some of those items were from loved ones, including people who have passed away.

He dumped out my backpack and purse and started destroying my belongings. Every time I tried to stop him or protect my things, he shoved me onto the bed or floor. I grabbed his shirt at one point trying to get him away from my stuff and tore it. I tried kicking him away from me, and then he put his hands around my neck for a moment. It honestly terrified me.

He eventually left, then came back telling me I had to leave. Outside, I found more of my belongings thrown into the road. My mom found me through Life360 because I was too shaken up to explain where I was.

When she saw bruises and cuts on me, she told me we should call the police. I agreed because I was scared. The officer told me that regardless of what was on my phone, nothing physical should have happened. He photographed my injuries and asked if I wanted to press charges. I said yes.

Now he’s been arrested, and all of his family and friends have blocked me. I feel like everyone thinks I deserved what happened because I hurt him emotionally first. I know texting my ex was wrong, but I also feel like things should never have turned physical.

I still love him, which makes this harder. I’m trying to focus on studying for my NCLEX, but this situation is consuming my thoughts.

AITAH for calling the police after things became physical?

AITAH? I feel completely lost and guilty over what happened.
my boyfriend & i have been together for a year.
Last weekend my boyfriend ‘25M’ and I ‘23F’went to my hometown festival with friends. He was already in a bad mood and spent most of the night being cold toward me, leaving me behind in crowds and barely talking to me. Eventually the night got better. We went to a concert, got food and drinks, and even got permanent bracelets together.

Later we went to one of his friend’s houses, then around 4AM got a hotel instead of driving home because we had both been drinking. Everything seemed normal until I got in the shower.

A few weeks ago my ex and I exchanged a few texts and TikToks. It wasn’t romantic, but I know it was wrong and hurtful.

While I was showering, my boyfriend went through my phone. He suddenly opened the bathroom door screaming at me. I got out confused and still drunk while he yelled and grabbed my wrists, ripping off the permanent bracelet and several others. He threw my jewelry, Apple Watch, and rings into the toilet and flushed it. Some of those items were from loved ones, including people who have passed away.

He dumped out my backpack and purse and started destroying my belongings. Every time I tried to stop him or protect my things, he shoved me onto the bed or floor. I grabbed his shirt at one point trying to get him away from my stuff and tore it. I tried kicking him away from me, and then he put his hands around my neck for a moment. It honestly terrified me.

He eventually left, then came back telling me I had to leave. Outside, I found more of my belongings thrown into the road. My mom found me through Life360 because I was too shaken up to explain where I was.

When she saw bruises and cuts on me, she told me we should call the police. I agreed because I was scared. The officer told me that regardless of what was on my phone, nothing physical should have happened. He photographed my injuries and asked if I wanted to press charges. I said yes.

Now he’s been arrested, and all of his family and friends have blocked me. I feel like everyone thinks I deserved what happened because I hurt him emotionally first. I know texting my ex was wrong, but I also feel like things should never have turned physical.

I still love him, which makes this harder. I’m trying to focus on studying for my NCLEX, but this situation is consuming my thoughts.
AITAH for calling the police after things became physical?

AITAH? I feel completely lost and guilty over what happened.

Last weekend my boyfriend (25M) and I (23F) went to my hometown festival with friends. He was already in a bad mood and spent most of the night being cold toward me, leaving me behind in crowds and barely talking to me. Eventually the night got better. We went to a concert, got food and drinks, and even got permanent bracelets together.

Later we went to one of his friend’s houses, then around 4AM got a hotel instead of driving home because we had both been drinking. Everything seemed normal until I got in the shower.

A few weeks ago my ex and I exchanged a few texts and TikToks. It wasn’t romantic, but I know it was wrong and hurtful.

While I was showering, my boyfriend went through my phone. He suddenly opened the bathroom door screaming at me. I got out confused and still drunk while he yelled and grabbed my wrists, ripping off the permanent bracelet and several others. He threw my jewelry, Apple Watch, and rings into the toilet and flushed it. Some of those items were from loved ones, including people who have passed away.

He dumped out my backpack and purse and started destroying my belongings. Every time I tried to stop him or protect my things, he shoved me onto the bed or floor. I grabbed his shirt at one point trying to get him away from my stuff and tore it. I tried kicking him away from me, and then he put his hands around my neck for a moment. It honestly terrified me.

He eventually left, then came back telling me I had to leave. Outside, I found more of my belongings thrown into the road. My mom found me through Life360 because I was too shaken up to explain where I was.

When she saw bruises and cuts on me, she told me we should call the police. I agreed because I was scared. The officer told me that regardless of what was on my phone, nothing physical should have happened. He photographed my injuries and asked if I wanted to press charges. I said yes.

Now he’s been arrested, and all of his family and friends have blocked me. I feel like everyone thinks I deserved what happened because I hurt him emotionally first. I know texting my ex was wrong, but I also feel like things should never have turned physical.

I still love him, which makes this harder. I’m trying to focus on studying for my NCLEX, but this situation is consuming my thoughts.
AITAH for calling the police after things became physical?