12 yo daughter asked to babysit - disclose dx?
Hello everyone!
My daughter is going in to 6th grade next year. This year, she got to know the young daughters (6 + 8) of a deaf classmate’s interpreter, and towards the end of the year I got a text from this woman asking if I’d be interested in my daughter would be interested in babysitting for short periods of time over the summer. (No longer than 2 hrs at a time.)
My daughter was ecstatic and wanted to say yes immediately. She gets along better with kids a bit younger than she is from a social perspective (something that started to be more apparent in the last couple of years; in some ways she is so much more mature than other kids her age but in others she she is so much younger.)
Anyway, she is really driven and responsible when she cares about something, and I trust her enough to stay home by herself for up to ~3 hr at a time. As long as she has all the rules physically written down, I know she can follow any that the mom might have. Knowing how much she wants to do this I have every confidence she will do a great job.
My question is basically summarized in the title of the post. Should I disclose to this mom that my daughter is diagnosed with level one/mild autism? I hate the idea of her diagnosis already causing bias and issues in her life if it doesn’t have to, but I can also see a world in which it would be dishonest not to disclose. Her main teachers are the ones who were quick to agree when we asked if they believe she should be evaluated for ASD but most average adults just find her a lively (extremely fast-talking and single minded young lady.) her ADHD is more evident to those who know her casually and I know there’s much less stigma attached to that as a diagnosis.
Any advice or similar stories/experience is greatly appreciated. Thank you for reading!