u/FeliciaFailure

I'm curious because it seems like there's a pretty big range of what people consider to be ghosting, even in this subreddit. I hesitate to assume ghosting until at least a few weeks have passed, but I see some posts talking about being ghosted after a day or two. I've had friends complain about the same, even in situations where I felt like the "ghoster" was just busy.

For my part, the answer is definitely yes. I remember having an acquaintance where I thought things were fine, and then they crashed out on me for not replying to them fast enough (it had been less than a full day, and they messaged and blocked me while I was asleep). I'm often pretty slow to respond (up to a week), not because I don't want to, but because I have very low energy and executive dysfunction issues.

So, people of r/ghosting, did you ever find out you were someone's ghost without having any knowledge of it?

Hey all! Just got my GES results and was pretty surprised to have tested positive (I think something like 22% at 4 hours) because I don't experience a lot of symptoms (ie. almost never vomiting aside from food poisoning, rarely in pain, etc). I have acid reflux and mostly was getting tested to rule GP out as an explanation for my fatigue, which gets DRASTICALLY worse when my stomach isn't completely empty. My doctor's appointment to discuss the results isn't until next month, so I'm trying to brush up on my own for now to see if I can reduce my suffering.

My question is, does everyone benefit from doing the whole works with liquid diet building up to solid? I worry about a lack of nutrients making my fatigue worse, especially since I'm still recovering from a surgery (although I'm at 12 weeks post op now, so I don't feel like I'm putting myself at massive risk by experimenting with food). And if you're mild, what's helped you the most?

Thanks!

Just wanted to make this post to reassure anyone who, like me, felt super uncertain. I had my surgery in February and was scared right up until it was time to go under that I might be making a huge mistake getting rid of the nips. I got some really solid reassurances from here and various surgery subreddits (shoutout to r/reduction and r/TopSurgery), but of course, I didn't know how I would feel until it was done for ME.

For context - I like the aesthetic of having nipples, but chose to forego them for healing reasons and because I didn't want any increase in sensation or for them to become painful. I went from a 38H to nearly-flat (maybe an A cup?) for my NB top surgery.

Here are some questions I had, and the answers to them:

Q: Does your chest look freaky to you, after a lifetime of having nipples but now having none?

A: Absolutely not, I got used to it SUPER quickly. I planned to get nip tats at some point in the future but now I don't even know if I'm interested in those.

Q: Do you miss pleasant nip sensation?

A: Yes, but I've only really missed it like twice since my surgery. Overall I feel like I've gotten more benefit out of this decision than I've missed out on. Baths are so much more pleasant without cold nips peeking out.

Q: Did you keep any underlying sensation?

A: At first, I was feeling things on my left side that felt so similar to nip sensation that I thought my surgeon might have accidentally left them on. I could only know for sure once I got my bandages off after a day or 2. I had more nipple-like sensation at the T-junction while my wounds were still fresh, now the incisions are closed up more and it's not really the same, but still ticklish in a similar way. If I'd opted to keep the nips, I feel pretty sure they'd either be placed too high to match the area I feel sensation in, or they'd look weird because they'd be kind of on the bottom of my chest.

Q: What was the emotional journey like?

A: Most of the emotions I felt around it were prior to the surgery. I was super uncertain and scared and mourning them a little bit. After surgery, I mostly felt chill around it. I don't know if I felt any proper sadness around it since coming out of surgery.

Q: Do you regret it?

A: No!! I would do it again in a heartbeat!! I'm so happy I didn't listen to my doubts because I feel confident that I made the right call for me!!