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im 21f but i look pretty young. Since moving to the area i live in, ive been mistaken for as young as 14. I have noticed that many of our male regulars like me. Some go as far as looking for me in particular and only ordering if im there. One guy whose closer to my age ased if i was single. I find it mildly weird but i dont really worry about it too much.

I like remembering regulars. I get excited when i can remember a customers name and order, not necessarily bc of them but bc i find it really satisfying. I’m not that good at small talk so personalizing their experience by remembering them, what they like, and what they get helps give them a good experience without me stressing about what to say to them.

I do this with men and women regulars but for some reason there are more male regulars (particularly middle aged men or older) who openly express that they appreciate me and look forward to seeing me. I have one coworker who always clocks me noticing regulars and for some of them he’ll tell them i said hi, or am glad to see them. Now he told me hes just messing with me and would stop if i wanted, so ik its not malicious or whatever. And i dont think he actively is choosing the male regulars it just turns out that way, but its always so awkward for me. Thankfully he hasnt really been doing it anymore but today a regular came and i was like “ayeee its my man (insert name)”. Now i was talking to myself and didnt say it that loud so i was COMPLETELY caught off gaurd when a different coworker goes “yeah we have your order and (insert MY name) is excited to see you😃” when i tell you my jaw DROPPED. I wanted to hide but shed already said i was there and that i WANTED to see him so i had to be visble. I basically pretended i was too busy to talk and just waved.

I am REALLY hoping he doesnt come back while im around the rest of the week😭😭
I am so embarrassed over something i didnt even say😭. I truly think my coworkers mean well, but imma have to tell them to stop with all that🫩

I am applying to a korean university this week ! I’m super excited and if all goes well I will be in korea next spring for three years. I know how to do my own hair so im not worried about findng someone to style it for me, i’m mainly worried about not being able to find any hair care at all or that the only ones i can find are ridiculously expensive. I know korea is VERY SLOWLY becoming more inclusive in the beauty world but i dont expect their demand is high enough to really invest in hair care for black and brown people. Is there anywhere reliable for good products or do i just need to accept ill be having to pay exorbitant shipping prices to import my producs from home???

the amount of people coming to our store calling horchata whore-racha is truly baffling. As well as the fact that we have a big sign saying its a shaken espresso and people are asking what it is. Like it really solidified my belief that our customers cannot and/or do not read when they come through our store and they do not think at all when they order. Also weve had horchata before and this is starbucks so no its not legit condensed milk hispanic horchata, its a syrup. People keep acting confused about if it can be added to any drink or made hot meanwhile they love to order a hot drink with cold foam. I am TIRED, the incompetence is pissing me off🫩

I feel like there is a lot of gray area of stuff no one in my store has the answer to and i want tk be fully educated before i train a new barista.

- if a customer orders a grande in a venti cup, a tall in a venti cup, ect. we only put the amount theyve paid for in the cup right? we dont fill it up bc they didnt pay for a venti????? I mean if they click extra ice, extra foam extra milk or whatever i will mostly fill it but just a grande cold brew in a venti cup i dont normally fill up

- if a customer asks for no ice on a latte are we filling the cup all the way to the top with milk or just to the line??? Ive heard that with refreshers we fill the cup up if its no ice but that doesnt change the flavor or ratio of the recipe the way dumping in more milk does so idk??

- if a customer orders shots of espresso, add milk, add cold foam and whatever in a venti cup are we filling the cup up like its a latte????

Basically a huge issue at my store is people trying to buy a latte without paying for a latte. I know it doesnt come out if my pay check, its not that serious. But i have ocd and and our store gets checked regularly by managment. The ceo comes to our store sometimes and i just got promoted to a shift so at least for now i really want to make sure i know everything i need to know. I dont want ANYONE saying i messed anything up especially being a black women i want to have all my bases covered cuz the job market is too bad rn for me to mess around and lose this one. I just want to make sure i set my baristas up for success so any advice is appreciated

everyday people ruin there lives over that stuff and i cannot fathom why ANYONE would drink it on purpose, more than once. I thankfully didnt throw it up, most likely due to how little of it i consumed, but im upset that i wasted almost 20 dollars on the drink and the sprite i got to try and mix with it to make it taste better. It tasted exactly how i imagine rubbing alcohol tastes. i have been grossed out by the few alcoholic beverages ive tried and it never fails to confuse me. How do people push past how revolting it tastes???!? i truly do not understand ot

I (21f) recently told my parents i have an actual eating disorder. That my “pickiness” isnt preference its my body literally rejecting the taste, feel, smell, or concept of different foods resulting in physical and mental symptoms. My mom has been doing research and she asked me “how does having this disorder make you feel?” When i tell you i just broke down. I’ve had arfid my whole life, as a kid it was kind of embarrassing but i feel like society views selective eating as a childish thing. Plus as kids when you hang out you play outside, play games, or whatever its never centered around going out to eat bc you rly cant so i didnt feel as much shame around my eating until i became an adult.

The unwarranted comments on how i eat and what i do and dont like wear me down after a while. There are men who like bigger women over skinny women, there are men who like taller women over shorter women, quiet women over loud woment, but i fear ill never find a man who will like a girl who cant eat over one who does. Its crazy how much of a turn off having a bad relationship with food is for most people. I have such a hard time making friends too. I avoid activities that revolve around food and im just so embarrassed and hesitant to share about this struggle bc so many people think its made up and im just being difficult or something. Or my modifications are just too weird for people, or its used as ammunition to constantly make fun of me. It breaks my heart when my sister who has an intellectual disability, bakes something and asks me to try it and i have to tell her no bc ik i wont like it/be able to keep it down.

My arfid wasnt as bad as a kid as it is now. I literally throw up or gag at EVERYTHING. I never used to react to drinks and now they can trigger me as bad as food. I cycle through safe foods so fast now and as a kid i NEVER lost a safe food. I’m not diagnosed or anything but i also think i have some comorbities i didnt have as a kid. Contamination OCD symptoms make it really hard for me to cook for myself and the anxiety and intrusive thoughts about what will happen if i try a food are something that have increased with age. I’m so tired all the time. The physical and mental load i carry due to this disorder are extremely taxing and theres really nothing i can do about it bc there are so few treatment options due to it still be a grossly understudied disorder.

I hope i can get control over my arfid soon, but with how things are looking it doesnt look like thats in the cards for me anytime soon