u/Few-Rough2182

I was seeing one of my brother’s friends in 2024. We never slept together, and we couldn’t make things official because my brother was strongly against it. At first, I thought he was just being protective, but later I found out he knew the guy had a lot going on with other women.

I eventually discovered that while we were talking, he had a child on the way and I had no idea. We ended things after that, but stayed friendly.

Last year, there were two occasions where we all went clubbing and I invited my sister along. While drunk, he kept asking for her number. I told him not to disrespect me like that, and he apologized. Later, my sister told me he had called her while I went to the bathroom, but she blocked him. She never mentioned anything else.

Today, I found out they actually kissed on two different nights we went clubbing, not just once.

I honestly feel really hurt, disrespected, and betrayed, but part of me feels like maybe I shouldn’t because we were never officially together. At the same time, I had already expressed discomfort with how he acted toward my sister, so this feels deeper than just “a kiss.”

I don’t even know if I should ask her about it because I’m scared she’ll get angry or I’ll come across as insecure. I just don’t know how to move past this or if my feelings are even valid.

So we have this dog. Small dog. Mix of Japanese Spitz. Full-time menace.

I’ve been sick all week and finally had enough energy yesterday to help feed him because our house manager is still new and this dog does NOT respect her at all. He plays too much, jumps around, fake bites, just pure nonsense.

Usually we feed him from the back veranda, but he was too distracted, so we decided to let him into the compound to feed him there instead.

Tell me why this dog walks out calmly like a civilized member of society. Goes to the garden. Stops to pee. I’m watching him closely because I already know this little man wants freedom.

The SECOND he finishes peeing, he switches directions and starts sprinting around the compound. I tell the house manager to block one side while I block the other so he doesn’t run out the gate.

She was not swift enough.

This dog escaped.

Now here’s the problem: our neighbor has TWO gigantic dogs. Foreign neighbor. Those dogs are built like horses. I’m 5’4 and those dogs genuinely look my size.

So now this tiny dog runs toward their side of the fence barking like HE’S the dangerous one. Meanwhile I’m running after him at full speed trying not to die.

Mind you, the gate is locked. So I had to run BACK to the house, grab the keys, open the gate, and continue the chase.

I was running so hard. As a thick girl, let me tell you, I discovered athletic abilities I didn’t know I possessed.

And then…

I tripped.

BADLY.

I fell so hard I literally heard the ground make a sound. There were kids around the estate riding bikes and playing outside and they all just stopped and stared at me with genuine concern and sadness 😭

The embarrassment was so intense I didn’t even feel pain immediately. Two hours later both my knees were swollen and bruised.

AND THIS DOG DIDN’T EVEN NEED TO BE CAUGHT.

After I fell, he casually ran back home by himself. Straight into the compound. Then he went back to where he was supposed to be eating and sat there innocently like nothing had happened.

Meanwhile I’m outside injured, fighting for my life and dignity.

So today I made an executive decision,

this dog will now be eating while on a leash!!!

Also can someone explain something to me because I genuinely need answers.

Are dogs supposed to be begged to eat???

Because this one acts like a toddler.

Every mealtime is:

“Come eat.”

“Come.”

“Come eat your food.”

“Do you want to go for a walk?”

“Okay come first eat.”

Like sir??? This is YOUR food 😭

I thought dogs were supposed to see food and immediately attack it. But this one needs motivational speeches and negotiations before every meal.

Did we spoil him or is this normal dog behavior???

Has anybody seen my man?

I'm 25 and I’m looking for my man. He's a bit older, ideally late 20s to late 30s, roughly 27 or 28 up to 38.

Physically, I’m attracted to someone with a masculine or athletic build, taller than me (I’m 5'4), dark or chocolate complexion, and well groomed. Neat hair, no dreadlocks, just my preference.

More importantly, he's kind,loyal,patient,consistent ,chivalrous, yes I like effort and intention. Emotionally mature,a good communicator, this is big for me. Has a job or some stability,knows what he wants and is actually ready for something real, and please have a functioning shtick,please 🥺.

Please don’t come with “let’s just see where it goes” or “go with the flow” energy. I’m not in a rush to settle immediately, but I am looking for someone intentional and serious about building something meaningful.

About me, I’m thick,chocolate, affectionate, I value communication a lot, and I can be a bit clingy, so I know my man is patient and emotionally grounded enough to handle that without feeling overwhelmed. Oh, he's also dominant in a healthy way.

If this sounds like you, feel free to reach out. If not, that’s okay too, just don’t waste either of our time.

Sorry if this sounds harsh, I'll delete the post if I do find him.