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This may be too specific of an area for people to comment on, i just want to know if there any general opinions/information/experiences exist about this area.

I'm looking to rent a place near here and im pretty concerned about getting followed by men or break ins since id be on the 1st floor.

Ive been harassed a decent amount in the city, which is easy enough to brush off, but Im a little anxious about moving into midtown if i cant find a place in an area that is somewhat reputable for being safe

I just showed up for jury duty this morning after talking bout it for the last week and canceling a class I teach for it. Turns out it's for 09/23/2026, which is September, not August.

I cant tell you how many times I looked over the details of it and everything, I just never clocked that 09 was September. I do this crap all the time and I usually just laugh about it, but this feels like a much dumber mistake, or at least more embarrassing than most other things.

I even had to pay $13 for parking just for 10 minutes bc it was supposed to be validated by the court, but only when I actually had to show up. Adhd tax is going to take all of my money one day

Other than my mom who i know gets it 100% and I dont feel judged for this kind of stuff, im going to just say it got rescheduled this morning and I didnt call before to find out.

I hate lying to people, esp those close to me, but it definitely ends up affecting how I get treated later. Like, people dont trust me as much or I feel like I get seen as incompetent. I do make a lot of these kinds of mistakes, but its not everytime

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I really try to compensate for not being super detail oriented and misremembering or misreading things, but this kind of stuff still happens. No matter how much planning or revising i do, theres such a big chance ill mess it up.

Anyone else end up telling fibs bc they just cant deal with telling people how many mistakes they make, bc its a lot? Or do you live by 24/7 honesty, even about that kind of stuff?

We just broke up yesterday after 8ish months and it was one of the most confusing experiences of my life. A friend of mine who has rocd mentioned before that he seemed like he may also have it and so I wanted to look into it more to maybe have a better understanding about why our relationship was so tumultuous for him, but not for me (for the most part). Sorry for the bad grammar and length of this post :]

- he'd constantly switch back and forth with hpw he felt about me. In our convo yesterday, he even said he doesnt know why, but there would be times when he was completely enamored with me and then times he wouldn't want to see me at all, and that really freaked him out. When he would express these things before, I thought he just needed some space to rest because hes a really big introvert. But then when he'd take some time to just be alone, he'd either text me a bunch or end up asking me to hang out.

- he's mentioned before that things will be feeling great when we're together 90% of the time and but would have a weird thought about me or the relationship and it'd give him a pit in his stomach, and that most of the time when he was alone, these thoughts were constant.

- I told him that I had felt really judged throughout our relationship for things that I really didnt think i should be judged for. I felt like he consistently saw my actions and esp my mistakes as ill intentioned and when I told him this, he said he would quickly assume that I was trying to manipulate or act in my own self interest the majority of the time (I have an ocd diagnosis and one of my issues is moral perfectionism. Im by no means morally perfect ofc and ive been working on the obsession a lot over the years, but I dont think I am extremely self interested or unthoughtful, I hope). He said recent experience with someone else in his life being like this amplified those feelings toward me as well.

- he would bring up throughout, but a lot more often over the last few weeks how he didnt feel romantic attraction for me like he did for his past relationships when he fell head over heels. This thing always felt weird to me but ive never been confident that its just not how he feels about me, which is ok. But it felt like he was evaluating me from the start to see if I was the one.

- He randomly broke things off between us twice, and over the last few weeks when we've been trying to figure things out, he kept flip flopping between wanting to try to keep the relationship going and then wanting to end it. He would say that he feels like he was afraid that if I gave too much in the relationship, he wouldn't be able to reciprocate. Also, the not having the gut feeling like he has in the past with exes would be the cherry on top for why he would want to end things. What he would want and how he would feel switched literally every couple days. I would never know where he was at and always feel some whiplash from what he was telling me, until it got so regular. I thought i just needed to reassure him.

- he told me yesterday he wanted to fall in love with me so badly but he just didn't, when I was just talking about caring about each other. I fully realized how much stress he had been putting on that specific feeling.

- every issue and frustration in his life outside of the relationship would end up getting turned into negative energy about the relationship. If work wasnt going well and stressing him out, he'd blame the relationship

- he always needed to tell me if he was feeling something the moment he felt or thought something, but only if it was negative. His core principle was honesty, which in some ways was great, but then he'd bring something up at such a bad time or couldnt stop trying to sort things out, even when I told him im shutting down and need some time to recollect myself and process. He'd say ok and give me a little bit, and then bring it up again.

- he'd say he constantly felt emotionally disconnected or distant and wanted to find a way to fix it asap. I really tried to be open and vulnerable and transparent and I was with him more than anyone before, but over time it felt like I was the only one to ever open up. He'd only be open about how he felt about the relationship, never about other things going on in his life or his past, even when i would try to pry a bit or tell him i felt like he wouldnt open up. I felt like there was a lot I never got to know about him

- for most of the relationship, we felt really different about our compatibility. He thought we were extremely incompatible and I thought we were mostly compatible. I told him I felt like we had strikingly similar core principles, similar general hobbies (like art, we just liked doing different things within art), we live alike, we want similar things in our future but are open to how those things play out, etc. We also agreed that we get along super well and theres a ton of chemistry. He comes from a religious background and I dont, and that he doesnt think I align with those at all. He didnt think we could relate in art bc my style is creepy and his is cutesy (he would appreciate and praise it but thought it was a reason we werent compatible) and there were some movies I showed him that he really didnt like, and one of them he found too disturbing and said that it made him feel really uneasy that I liked it (it was American beauty btw). Regarding the future, we both want to be parents, but I dont want to be pregnant and we were both unsure about raising kids with just 2 parents. We even agreed that if the stars dont align, its ok if we end up childfree. But then in breakup convos, he'd say that he wants biological kids undoubtedly and thats why we wouldn't work. Mind you, we both agreed that we are many years away from wanting to have kids. So idk

- we would work through issues and everything would feel fine for a few days, and then he'd start having those same feelings come up. Like, I told him repeatedly it was ok if he needed alone time and to be inconsistent with how much I see him, hugely because thats something I need sometimes. He'd feel better for a bit, but then go back to feeling like he needed to feed the relationship, getting burned out and then feeling like he couldnt do what he needed to have a relationship. It was really frustrating because he would assume there were things I wanted and expected from him, but I never said any of that, and when I would clarify those things, he wouldn't let go of those initial expectations. He was always worried about things being immutual

- in general, any hiccup made him really doubtful of me and our relationship, and sometimes the was no hiccup, things would be going well even.

Our convo yesterday involved a lot of these topics, but ultimately came down to him not being able to take the ups and downs that came from being with me, and it was the 1st time I could really understand how stressed he has been. It was heartbreaking to see :( he's a really lovely person who really tried to make things work, but his anxiety is worse than either of us thought. i really agree that things havent been working, for longer than I thought and that ive been putting myself through all of this when it would've been better for both of us to just end it. Despite all the good I thought came from our relationship, I wish we would've stayed friends. It would've saved him from so much stress and me from getting so hurt.

Does it sound like rocd? And if so, would it be unwise to tell him I think he has it? Idk, it feels wrong to let him beat himself up for all these things and have no idea that it may stem from a mental disorder, but maybe thats overstepping

Ive been in a relationship with him for 7ish months and the topic of romantic attraction has come up quite a bit throughout. Were each others closest friends and our friendship is extremely strong. We have chemistry, physical attraction, are super comfortable with each other, and are very compatible. These arent my assumptions about his feelings, he has said these things. But he also says that he doesnt feel romantic attraction toward me.

For me, theyve slowly been developing and it takes me awhile to feel fully comfortable with anyone. Ive had my doubts and wondered if this was a slow burn or just not a good match, bc I wasnt feeling the overwhelm of love when everyone expected me to. Ive only ever felt that way about friends who I know for a long time, talk about futures with each other, to and we can connect on a lot of different things. He and I have slowly been getting there and its been complicated and intense, but a really lovely experience overall.

He brought up in month 2 that he was freaked for not having romantic feelings when he had in other relationships by that time (in all his other relationships, they were friends for a long time before dating, and we were only friends for 3 months before, and not close by any means). I responded that I didnt have them either but I didn't expect to bc I thought it was so early and still in the getting to know each other process. There was still so much we liked about being with each other that we kept things going.

When I asked him what romantic feelings felt like to him, he couldnt explain more than that it was a gut feeling. I do understand that and have had those feelings early on with people (which is why I question if im demi) but they were so wrong for me in hindsight despite how passionate it was, I felt so unregulated around him and I was not doing very well mentally (im now at least medicated for adhd, godbless), so I don't believe those feelings mean as much as other stuff, and it comes along by slowly integrating each other into our lives and building trust and bonds.

I find it really confusing bc he finds this as a good reason to not continue things potentially. Ultimately, he wants what he wants, but I feel like this is something I need to understand better, especially because we hope that a friendship can continue, even if we end things romantically. Idk, does this make any sense? Am I being naive and maybe we forced things? Is it fair to tell him that it feels weird that all these other things can be true while not having a romantic attraction and I want to know what that really means for him? Idk, im I lil stressed :D

I just want to preface this with how I feel about people saying others dont know how to critically think. Ive found in my experience that it can be a highly subjective concept. People will talk about how a person doesnt know how to critically think, and it baffles me bc I was just thinking that this person doesnt seem to know how to critically think about whatever we were just talking about (like politics or somethin). Then I go down the rabbit hole of "if this person thinks theyre a critical thinker, but i dont think that they are, then how can I just assume that im a critical thinker." This is just to say in a rambling way that I dont feel like my friend critically thinks most of the time, but also, who am I to make such a harsh judgement.

Anyway, onto what im actually here for. She will often say things like, "its not that deep" or "i think youre making it a societal problem when its just an individual problem" on topics like politics, emotional patterns, life happenings, etc. It can feel really frustrating when she dismisses things that ive worked really hard to come to terms with, like understanding how societal norms can be the issue and its not always something that i need to fix about myself (adhd for example). I kind of do get what shes saying, if I put it into context of taking accountability for my life, but for me, to constantly take things on at such a shallow level by not looking deeper into the philosophy of it or something makes me more anxious and lonely. It feels like an opportunity to discuss a shared experience of humanity and the world were living in at this point in time, or to understand how it differs for us.

Im not sure if this counts as critical thinking, im just frustrated with her lack of curiosity and inability to connect dots sometimes. Weve been close friends for 7 years now and she slowly has gotten better with that stuff, but its feels like such a major point of disconnect between her and I. Having existential convos is my jam but not hers ig.

My brother and I decided that we wanna get coordinating adventure time tattoos before he heads back home out of state, which will be next week. Ive already got quite a few tattoos and id like to keep them in a similar fine line style. Are there any fine line tattoo artists in the area that could do walk in appts?

Hiiii im just looking for some work until at least the beginning of the school year when im trying to work in a eduaction setting, altho if i find a job i really like and is sustainable, id stick with that. Ive got a bachelor's degree and have been slowly working toward a masters. Art education is what im looking into as a career, but would really really love to try to work in a creative industry some. Im interested in most mediums and have a lot of random skills that can be put to use. Im really open to the position type and everything, just want to try something so if you got any leads thatd be great! Or even art communities to look into would be great too!

Hi! Im looking for masters program that has classes in sustainability. Ideally, the campus would be in nature as well 😬 in general, im really interested in more alternative sorts of programs that approach art and teaching it in unique ways. Id love for that to be on the east coast, but im kind of open to anywhere at this point