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So ever since I started working at this place I have had to deal with crap from others. When I first started there was this one guy (I’ll call him James) who just started picking with me out of nowhere. He’d say stuff to insinuate that I’m dumb, he’d mess with me. It was to the point where this other girl would be telling him to stop. I ended up saying something rude to him and he stopped. But then he started playing victim. One time months later he asked me why I said what I said and I told him cuz he kept picking with me. He asked me how, I’m thinking why is he asking me how when he knows what he did. Then he made a lame excuse as to why what he was doing was normal. The girl that told him to stop started questioning what he does as if she didn’t witness it all the time so it looks like I’m tripping.

He has a friend who is very moody. He’s mad 80% of the time. We’ll call him Lawrence. Lawrence takes the tiniest thing that I do personal. Like not holding conversations with him. I wasn’t doing it on purpose it’s just that I’m introverted. Anyways, long story short, I’ve heard him multiple times talking crap about me. One time I was at home and someone called me, when I didn’t answer they texted me to call them, I called back and they were telling me how they heard Lawrence talking crap about me to a manager and how much I should stay away from Lawrence because he’s not my friend. Someone else told me before that Lawrence talks crap about me and Lawrence hates me and they all talk about how dumb I am. So one day I was trying to clear up a lie that Lawrence tried to tell on me to the two people he was lying to and I mentioned that he hates me. They tried defending him then they changed the topic.

The second guy that told me Lawrence hates me I’ll call him Jake. Jake cares how people feel about him a lot to the point where he’ll act like them to fit in. Me and him would joke around with each other but then he started talking like crap to me when around other people. As soon as there were others around he’d belittle me and say things that are in agreement to whatever the others would say about me. He even got mad at me before in front of others. It got to a point where one day he was joking around with me and I told him not to talk to me because he pissed me off from the day before. In the moment it looked like I got mad over his little joke but no he tried to make me seem like I’m so dumb and I’m the reason why Lawrence is always mad which is not true the day before so that’s why I was mad. We eventually got cool again weeks later. Then he did something similar and I stopped talking to him then days later I asked him why he did that and he said it was a joke when it wasn’t.

I have another coworker that I vented to named Josia. Josia told me that I should shut stuff down when it happens or he’ll think he should keep doing it. Josia a week later out of nowhere told me I take things to heart. Then they told me again a second time. I played it off instead of arguing about it. I know I’m not tripping. They’re now making me out to be this sensitive person and they’re innocent victims.

Also, anytime new people come there to work, Lawrence and James will immediately start talking crap about me to the newbies.

So I had an item that I was selling on Facebook marketplace. A lot of people were messaging me about it. This one lady asked if I could hold it for two days. Usually I don’t do this because I’ve had people cancel. For some reason I felt like holding it so I did. She texted me the day of and gave me an excuse then asked to reschedule to a time the next day when I wouldn’t be available. I told her I’m not available and she responded asking about the day after. I ignored her then I sold it to the next person that same evening. She saw that I sold it and texted me about how much she actually wanted it. I ignored her because how do I know that she’s not gonna reschedule and try to cancel again? I don’t think I’m wrong but what do y’all think

Edit: This other lady texted me about the item before I sold it. I told her it was available. She asked to purchase it in two days. I didn’t respond. I ended up selling it to the lady who was willing to come the same day. When she saw that I sold it, she texted me “oh lol”.

So me and my bestie have been friends for years. It used to be a trio and I used to be the outsider in the trio. Eventually stuff happened and it became just us. It’s been that way for years now. I notice some things that annoy me.

So I’ll text her now and she won’t respond to me until the end of the week or sometimes two weeks later but she’s actively posting. I got so annoyed one time that I did it back to her and she messaged everyone I knew asking if they have heard from me which annoyed me because take what you dish out.

Another thing, this one is the really annoying one. I flew all the way to her state to see her. She has come to my state multiple times for work and never once came to see me. In fact, I knew about one time when she came because she sent me a screenshot of her traveling on the highway. I asked her why she never came to see me and she said because of how distant the place is that she goes to work from where I’m at. I later on found out there has been multiple times when she has came here. Then one day she had the audacity to tell me that I should hop on a plane and come see her because it’s been so long since we’ve seen each other. Another time she was in a state next to mine and tried to get me to drive to her.

Right now I texted her something super urgent two days ago and she posted today and is ignoring my message. She also has a tendency to respond to my text messages like how a man would when he’s not interested in a girl. She reads one message out of maybe three texts and only replies to that one with the driest response ever. Give me your best, unbiased advice.

And I can’t call her because she rarely ever answers. We’ve probably spoken on the phone twice out of a year. Those calls are me calling her and she randomly decides to pick up.

Last thing, we’ll be having a convo and then months later we’re talking about something in relation to that and she’s like “I thought you said …” and it’s the most negative thing ever that I never said. And I’m like “that’s not what I said and I would never say that”. Like I’ll say sumn so positive and she misunderstands me every single time.

So I was approved for a studio and I’m set to move in a couple weeks. I haven’t signed my lease yet. However, I was on their website and I saw a one bedroom that is $400 more than my studio. I was thinking I could possibly get a two months off special that they have going on if I switch to the one bedroom. If I do, the price works out to be around the same as the studio. My only thing is, I don’t plan to move after one year if everything goes well but the rent increase on the one bedroom might make me wish I stayed with the studio. What should I do?

So I had a set of chairs that I was selling for $150. The shopper said they’re very interested and would like to come look. I agreed. They came and messed around with the items for a while then asked if I can do $100. I said I can do $130. Should I have stuck to the $150? What’s your advice for selling going forward? I feel like coming in person and trying to get me to lower the listed price is kinda rude.

So one of the reasons why I keep gaining weight is because I keep ordering take out, ALOT. I’ll promise myself that I’m gonna stop doing it and I’ll do it again the next day. Sometimes twice a day. I’ve had Popeyes, Chipotle, McDonald’s and right now I’m eating Wendy’s. Mind you, I meal prepped my dinner on Thursday so I got food in the refrigerator. If I don’t have the money to order food I’ll find a way. Like this has become a very serious issue. It’s like I have no self control. It’s also affecting me financially. Any tips on what I can do to curb this appetite issue before it’s too late?