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Plus I cannot wrap my head around how people love it and what's wrong with me. I love her, don't get me wrong. However, I have a pit in my stomach every weekend. I spend the days just waiting for bed time. She doesn't play with toys...at all. She won't do anything alone. All she wants to do is walk around the house and pull and drag at everything. I spend my days walking around after her trying to do some damage control. She's constantly whining and moaning. I feel so irritated and overstimulated all the time. I don't take it out on her. The worst she gets when I "lose my temper" is "stop moaning now". Or "ok enough making a mess, out now". This morning we made pancakes together and she moaned through most of it. Then moaned and whined because I needed to clean up for 10 minutes. I asked her to help me clean, she refused. I got some toys out so she could play beside me, I kid you not she played with them for 2 minutes and then started following me undoing any tidying I did. It's 10am and I've put on Mickey Mouse because tv is the only thing that makes her quiet and lets me breathe. Putting on the tv makes me feel like a failure and I just want to cry about how shit of a parent I am. Before anyone blames TV for how she acts. Weekdays she gets 25 minutes of tv in the morning and doesn't tantrum or ask for it at all during the day. So it's not that she's stuck in front of a screen all day.

Hi all,

Just looking for advice on how best to help prep my daughter for moving room. She is moving to the other side of the building which is the preschool side. She'll be leaving her favourite teacher who's she very attached to. She'll still see her here and there. The manager approached me and said they plan to move her by the end of the month. She also told me how she is very attached to the teacher. If the teacher leaves the room, she wants to know where she is. She only wants to interact with that teacher. They have started talking to her about moving to the new room and taking her on "visits" but she wants to know nothing about it. She doesn't even want to go into the room. She won't talk to the teacher in that room either. Even today, my daughter told me her favourite teacher was not in because she hurt her leg, and that she was crying for her.

She also bumped her head after she got home and started asking for the teacher. Which I felt a little hurt by, but I think she is carrying a bit of anxiety about this move everyone is talking about and leaving her teacher. My heart is breaking for her. I'm here teary eyed even writing this. Looking for opinions on the best way to handle this for those of you working in this area. The manager asked me to speak to her at home about moving too, which I will, but I don't want to overwhelm her or make her more anxious by talking about it too much.

We are due to arrive 9th July. Looking at the weather, the temps will be mid 30s again. I think if we cancel now we will get refunded, but our flights will be wasted. I'm 23 weeks pregnant and we've a nearly 3 year old. Will it just be miserable?

I love her dearly, but she's 2.5 and I find it really hard. She doesn't sleep very well. For example, last night she fell asleep shortly after 9pm, cried on and off from 12:30am until 2:30am and then was ready to start the day at 6:20am. Our arrangement at the moment is my partner deals with the nights and I put in ear plugs and sleep (I still wake up to her noises) through. Then I get up with her. So I solo parent a lot in the mornings. On weekdays, she starts daycare at 10am. So we still get a solid 2.5 hours of one on one time before getting ready to go. Then I pick her up at 5pm, we spent 1.5 hours one on one time again and then I do dinner and her Dad takes over. Then I do books with her for 30 mins and tuck her in to bed. So even on weekdays, I'm still getting about 4 hours or so of quality time. She doesn't play great alone so it's full on time. It feels like more than enough. I was keeping her home on Fridays when work is quiet, but I kind of want to stop because I find it so overstimulating and overwhelming spending the whole day with her. I was thinking of just picking her up after nap time at like 2:30pm instead and then we can go do something together. Weekends are full on all awake time spent together.

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I feel like an awful Mom because I see so many others saying they wish they could stay at home with their kids. Or SAHMs who say they couldn't imagine not being with their kids all day, and I just don't feel like that. I did when I stayed home for the first year of her life, but I guess I just got used to her being at daycare.

Curious what others would do in this situation.

I'm only 21 weeks so plenty time to decide. My daughter will be a little over 3 when this baby is born. As it is currently, she isn't great for sleeping through the night. She still regularly needs one of us to go in and resettle her. Her room is also directly above my living room so high chance of her waking up. She is also...I don't want to say whiny but I don't know how else to put it. She needs a lot of attention from me constantly. She doesn't let me focus on anything for too long 😅

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She loves my parents. She has slept over at their house multiple times. She doesn't get upset when they pick her up from my house/we drop her off. She barely asks for us 😅 I feel bad "sending her away" for the birth of her sibling though. Especially when I see others saying they wanted their toddler there and I feel guilty for not feeling the same. I just think if she's calling for me the whole time I'll get overwhelmed/overstimulated and it could stall my labour.

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If you had trusted family members who your toddler feels happy and safe with, would you send them there instead of keeping them at home?

During weekdays, we are pretty good at sticking to less than an hour a day with my 2 year (nearly 3) old. On weekend days when we are just hanging out at home, it can easily be 3 hours. I make sure to try tick the other boxes outdoor time, an art and craft and reading, making some kind of food together and playing toys together. She won't really play alone and she's such a whiny child, so without the tv, I can't get anything done without her hanging off me and me getting overstimulated. I can't only step away from her for 5 minutes max a couple times a day if the TV isn't involved. I see people in my bump group and that that say they get loads done at the weekend around the house and do house projects with toddler in tow and I don't know how they manage it.

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Just wondering how much screen time you guys do? Is that pretty bad?

Hi all, Just trying to make the right decision for a last minute trip. Planning a three night trip to Disneyland. We have the option to go the last Thursday of June or second Thursday in July. Would there be a noticeable difference in crowds and hot weather usually? June date is working out about €300 more total, flights and accom for three of us.

Hi all,

My daughter has started asking to go and I thought it might be nice to bring her while she's still an only child. Was thinking end of August, though technically we could try to earlier in the Summer if any months are better? Was looking at 3 nights the last week of August, staying in Hotel Cheyenne. I'll also be around 30 weeks pregnant. We are in Ireland so not really used to hot weather either. Would we be miserable?

I guess it would also depend on your job how clean someone might have their house before you go. Randomly just thought about this since I've a guy coming to install internet. I've a 2.5 year old and we struggle to keep the house very tidy. It's not filthy but random crap around the place, toys thrown around and the floors are all mud where she ran across the floor in her wellies. Counters fairly cluttered with random stuff and breakfast bits from this morning. I'm morto and worried he'll think I'm a minger 😅 Brought me on to wondering are houses generally very clean when you call out?

Hi all,

Me and my partner are finding it really hard to come up with a name for a boy. After trawling through a couple hundred names, one of the only names we both liked the sound of is Ronan. However, I feel like it is quite popular with the millennial generation. Looking at the CSO, it's died off in popularity a lot in the last 15 years or so and is well down the list. So amongst his peers, there won't be many Ronans. I've just always had a thing about not wanting my kid's name to be very common. So I'm not totally sold on it. Any thoughts on it?