Am I crazy?
My (29M) wife (28M) has bipolar 2. It’s rough. I made the decision to separate from her last May due to the boundaries crossed, verbal abuse, and mind games. One big problem was that she always called me an asshole and a piece of shit. Eventually enough is enough.
Well, in the last couple months we’ve been attempting to work things out. Over this last weekend, we went to a music event and when we got back to the car there was a boot on my car. $75 to have it removed. I was obviously upset because I don’t have that kind of money just lying around. She told me it’s not a big deal, calm down, why am I so upset, etc. That just made me a little more upset and I got defensive! I realize that. I apologized. However, I feel like when I got upset over something that happened to me she immediately tried to smother my feelings.
This has been a problem in our past.
Another thing… during the night while we were waiting for the company to take the boot off, she said that she spoke to her therapist and “several other professionals” and they said “calling your spouse an asshole or piece of shit isn’t emotional abuse”.
Out of all of that, I think her saying she spoke to mental health professionals and them validating her words towards me made me feel gross and confused. What is going on here?
Tl;dr my wife’s smothered my feelings during a problem. She also said it’s not verbal abuse to call me a piece of shit or an asshole.
TIA