u/Fine-Cauliflower-131

Hi all. I know p#rn is one of those things where people will argue whether it’s ’normal’ or not so I’m baring that in mind when posting this.
I (25F) gave birth to my youngest last year. I was in a very dark rut for a while after and really struggled, I have 3 children in total. One day when struggling with the children I went upstairs and saw my partner masturbating so I went back downstairs. This triggered a whole new level of insecurity for me at that time. I spoke to him about how him getting off to other women made me feel and he promised he would stop. I’d then find him doing it again, he’s promise it wouldn’t happen again and it was a circle like this for a while. I sat him down at the start of this year and told him it was a no go for me, I admit I know it’s because of the insecurities I have within myself but he could see how much it was upsetting me and it either stopped or I left.
He did stop and I was so happy he’d chosen me over it until yesterday. I had a weird feeling something wasn’t right and lo and behold he’s been watching it again.
I asked him straight out and he denied it of course. I just don’t know what to do, say, or where to go from here. If I ask again he’ll deny again so I’m stumped. I love this man and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him but repeatedly doing something he knows upsets me doesn’t seem like something you’d do to someone you love, especially when you stopped for 5 months.
How do I approach this again with him?

Hi all. I know p#rn is one of those things where people will argue whether it’s ’normal’ or not so I’m baring that in mind when posting this.
I (25F) gave birth to my youngest last year. I was in a very dark rut for a while after and really struggled, I have 3 children in total. One day when struggling with the children I went upstairs and saw my partner masturbating so I went back downstairs. This triggered a whole new level of insecurity for me at that time. I spoke to him about how him getting off to other women made me feel and he promised he would stop. I’d then find him doing it again, he’s promise it wouldn’t happen again and it was a circle like this for a while. I sat him down at the start of this year and told him it was a no go for me, I admit I know it’s because of the insecurities I have within myself but he could see how much it was upsetting me and it either stopped or I left.
He did stop and I was so happy he’d chosen me over it until yesterday. I had a weird feeling something wasn’t right and lo and behold he’s been watching it again.
I asked him straight out and he denied it of course. I just don’t know what to do, say, or where to go from here. If I ask again he’ll deny again so I’m stumped. I love this man and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him but repeatedly doing something he knows upsets me doesn’t seem like something you’d do to someone you love, especially when you stopped for 5 months.