I don’t have children, but I do have the sweetest boy cat, and he means so much to me. He’s an Oriental breed with big ears. My NM and GC covert Nsister tell me he is ugly. Who the f**k does that? How can an animal be ugly, and how can you say that to someone who loves him? My NM praises my sister’s cat. It’s only mine that they talk about like that. I can’t believe they say it as if it’s just an opinion and not a big deal.
Hi. My NM projects things onto me like "just like your father’s side, lazy, crazy, manipulative, etc." She says these things to other people behind my back. Whenever I asked her about it, she denied everything, and I only had a feeling, no proof.
Eventually, she slipped up and told my husband what she had been saying and to whom. But when I confronted her, she again said: “I didn’t mean anything bad, you misunderstood.”
What keeps bothering me is: does she truly believe these things and think she’s just telling the truth? Or does she know on some level that I’m not really like that, or that it’s wrong to talk shit about the daughter behind her back? What is your experience with that?
I bought a very beautiful minimalist scarab beetle red jasper pendant. However, every time I wear it, within a few hours, people start attacking me, accusing me of things that aren't true. Why does it provoke drama? Is it because of the symbolic shape or the stone?
My whole family is under the influence of my covert NM and GC covert Nsister. They are both very social and have spent their whole lives staying connected with everyone, while also smearing me behind my back.
I live in another city, I am an introvert, I go to therapy for anxiety and chronic physical pain. My circle of friends has also become much smaller, partly because of my physical pain, and partly because I started realizing some of those relationships were toxic.
A week ago, I went no contact for the first time. It’s very difficult. I’m grateful that my husband understands and supports me.
He has no parents anymore, just a sister. Today, for the first time, he told her about the situation. She is an empathetic and safe person. I hoped that if at least one more person knew my side of the story, I would feel a little less alone. Like it wouldn’t be such a secret anymore.
But she has never really dealt with narcissistic people before, only an emotionally immature father. She’s also religious, so her reaction was more traditional: that parents should be accepted as they are, that I should be patient, and that I shouldn’t label them as narcissists.
Now I regret he told because it makes me feel like most people would believe my mother’s version, and think I’m weak or just trying to blame someone. It feels very sad.
Hi!
I’m one week into NC, and my emotions are changing every day. I’ve been dealing with chronic pain and sleep disorders related to my nervous system for many years, so I’m wondering how much going NC can actually help with recovery.
I’d really appreciate hearing about your experiences, mentally and physically, before and after NC. What were the first weeks, months, or even years like for you? Did things get worse before they got better? When did you start noticing improvement?
Hi!
I’m one week into NC, and my emotions are changing every day. I’ve been dealing with chronic pain and sleep disorders related to my nervous system for many years, so I’m wondering how much going NC can actually help with recovery.
I’d really appreciate hearing about your experiences, mentally and physically, before and after NC. What were the first weeks, months, or even years like for you? Did things get worse before they got better? When did you start noticing improvement?