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I just had a 1:1 with my manager at work. It was actually really nice because we both discovered DND as common interest and we kept talking/joking around and it felt like a really nice meeting without any pressure. We ended it a few minutes early. Now that the call ended (and I’m off the clock) all the anxiety post-social is creeping in about it. I always have that after positive social interactions, doesn’t matter with whom. What if I came across as ‘manic’ because I don’t know how to regulate into being ‘normal excited’? What if I said something weird or off in excitement? What if I overdid it again and acted too familiar without realising? What if this wasn’t the right place to actually talk about casual things? And so on.

Even when social interactions are successful (?) I still feel like I failed them and it’s so tiring🥲

Recently started inline skating again and i just happen to be really bad at it and also quite shy. I tried going to the Donau but besides the fact that its about 45min away from my flat, it’s also very crowded and doesn’t have a lot of good places to quietly practice without running into (judgmental) skaters or families watching me stumble over myself.
Anybody has recommendations for good inline skating places (flat cement road, open, beginner friendly, very quiet/not crowded) near the 23rd district?😅 or tips when the least amount of people will be at x place, since i wake up at 5/6 am most days if that helps.

Thank you!

I’m a voracious reader. If it has a good plot and cool premise I’m reading it, doesn’t matter what rating, genre or length, I’m reading this shit. I absolutely love wuxia and action manhwas, fighting-plot webtoons are fun af, and really good violent survival stories used to be my entire childhood obsession.
And i stopped reading pretty much all of them since I discovered otome/shoujo manhwas. Reading much more of female centered plots made me realise how normalised sexist, homophobic and plain shitty (morally seen) MC’s have become to me, and how bad some of the “normal” plot points in male centered manhwas is.

*Sexualisation of Female Characters*
I’m so sick of rooting for a character that I really like and then he meets a female character as opponent and half the plot is her in various stages of being half-naked and the MC thinking how ‘slutty’ or ‘whorish’ she is because she has the nerve to have bigger tits and wear something that shows it off like the male character don’t run around worse and without top half the time. Or every female fighting/political opponent or character always being reduced to some sort of dumb, sexy bimbo who bows down to the character and he humiliates her. Meanwhile the male opponent characters get treated shitty, but still as capable opponents. There are almost no platonic female x male interactions, and if they are then they quickly degrade in ‘will they wont they’ romance that is just the MC being absolutely without respect and constantly making the female character look like a dumb bitch for daring to have romantic feelings? EVERY female character gets constantly degraded, sexualized or infantilized (‘loli’ /‘innocent’ archetype🤢) in some way, and if there are ‘strong’ female characters they always get reduced to it without having a personality with comedic moments where she ‘beats up’ everyone easily like she’s being unreasonable when the reason she does it is because she keeps getting harassed or sexually assaulted/groped by characters.

*Normalisation of Sexual Assault*
The MC constantly sexually harasses female characters and it gets written off as ‘funny’ character setting because he’s such a ‘perv’ and the female characters get made fun of by the narrative to reacting in anger to LITERAL SEXUAL ASSAULT?

*Unacknowledged Traumas*
one of the things that drives me the most crazy is that there is almost never EMOTIONAL character growth for the male MC. Even when he experiences trauma, the trauma is just a ploy excuse to enact aggression on others without reason or be cruel. at the same time he never experiences PTSD, nightmares or gets some sort of emotional counseling, aside from the ‘naruto talk’ moments hyping him up. Or when he gets traumatized by a women (in most cases deservedly because he was an absolute asshole or did something majorly wrong to her or others too) he turns violent against all women and sees them as ‘enemies’ and it’s written as reasonable reaction? 🤢

*Either Bromance-Bait or homophobic*
What also drives me crazy is the lack of healthy PLATONIC male x male relationsships. The Mc is either an asocial lonerc or a sociopathic manipulator who uses everyone or has ‘underlings’ or he has some sort of bromance with another character that never gets acknowledged as such and seen as inferior relationsship even though friendship is part of any healthy human relation. When he does interact with male characters there are very often homophobic remarks and sentiments conveyed to the reader, like making fun of male characters that dress like women or look pretty, making fun of male characters for being weaker than a woman like its humiliating (🫠) when they get defeated by a woman, treating physical affection as gay, every ‘sus’ action being seen as negative character trait like being feminine is disgusting, and so on.

*Racism*
Don’t even get me started on the racism against darker characters that are always villains or if they are female they are some sort of vile, exotic temptress. Or the ugly’ characters having darker skin and the MC of course being pale as snow because he’s the one who we are supposed to root for.

I dunno about yall, but I read shonen manhwas because I love world building and cool characters and fighting scenes/actions with OP MC’s but all of that can’t be good if the MC itself never actually interacts with the world around him and instead just treats it as disposable playground. How am i supposed to be emotionally bound to the narrative when not even the MC manages to actually interact with the world around him? Everything the mc is surrounded with is his prop, and even cool side characters get sidelined because go beware other males come and steal the MC’s harem, because of course money, power and sex are the most important thing in life for a male/human?🥴

*It’s not that female readers don’t like ‘shounen’ style plots, it’s that ‘shounen style’ plots don’t like female readers.*
Why would anybody continue reading in a genre that constantly proves how much it hates you? That’s the same logic as expecting POC to appreciate books written by blatant racists.

So instead of being sexist and just assuming women dont like action and fighting manhwas because ‘its not girly enough’: The next time you read a shonen try to notice all the small off-putting, disgusting and vile things said and done against women. Look at the way they draw women and their body, and compare it to the male characters. Of course women aren’t liking shounen as much. Sometimes the first chapters of a manhwa are just sexual assault of a female character as ‘joke’ - this is not hyperbole🥴. Would you read a story that constantly tells you that men suck constantly even when it’s not even relevant to the action or plot? And try to think about all the ‘shonen’ manhwas that got popular in the female audience too and what they all have as difference in plot, morals and MC character. (Hint: Look at how the female characters get treated there)

Y’know all those father-daughter stories where the FL comes from an insanely abusive environment and then meets the father/ML, miraculously recovers and doesn’t have any PTSD symptoms at all, and nobody brings it up or acknowledges how traumatising it is for a small child and when they do bring it up it’s for plot purposes and then there is a time skip and it’s like it never happened? 🥴 IM SICK OF IT GUYS

I would love a manhwa that takes the ‘angst’ point of itself seriously, and doesn’t gloss over it. It doesn’t need to be about abuse necessarily but about whatever angst aspect there is. Like ‘Katrina’s Last Days’ ‘How to win over my husband’ level of emotionally intelligent plot. I especially loved how the misunderstanding about Ruby got resolved and the abuse was revealed because it felt so well written and was treated as the traumatic thing it was by other characters! Even in ‘Villains are destined to die’ the fl’s hurt and the resentment because of the abuse was so well done and written out for example.

***TLDR: Tropes I would love: hidden terminal illness, unreliable narrator, big angst misunderstanding about the fl’s past or character, misunderstanding/miscommunication if well done, abuse recovery with characters that don’t treat it as harmless thing, unrequited love, unreliable narrator about her own life-fl(like ruby in HTWOMH!)***

Would love some recs guys🙈, im desperate for a good written whump/angst plot. Anything goes, i just need the reading to devastate me for the fl😂

Thank you in advance!

Because I see so many mixed information online, from 10 to 25 years, I really want to know what the actual average lifespan of a (pet) lovebird is normally? Especially for paired ones eating pellet+veggie diet🙈

What’s the minimum/maximum in your experience? Appreciate it if the species is mentioned too, since mine are both fischers.

I need to mentally prepare 😭 (absolutely will not be anyways)

Thanks!!🙏