u/Firsttimeroverhere2

I recently moved directly above a fast food. I’ve been in a couple of times, and the last two times the same employee asked where I live. He started by « do you live around here? I haven’t seen you before. » to « where do you live exactly, upstairs or down the street ». It made me uncomfortable enough that I promised myself to never go there again.

I see him outside smoking constantly. He always finds my eyes. It’s not a polite smile, it’s a look, and he makes a point of holding it. I’ve started planning my exits around not crossing paths with him. I don’t know how to describe the uneasy feeling I get when i see him.

Tonight at 3am there was water damage in the shop. Firefighters knocked hard on my door first, came in, looked around, found nothing, and left to check my neighbor’s place. I pushed my door mostly shut, then opened it again a minute later, and here he was coming up the stairs. Not rushed, not worried, just wandering the building looking around. Our eyes met right as he reached my door and he gave me this small smile, like oh, so you’re here. I shut the door immediately.

I know the leak probably came from above and he had a reason to be up there. But he now knows exactly which apartment is mine, and I’m now terrified.

And also I think he owns the place, and yet didn’t look in any way worried… could he have provoked a leak ??

I want to report him but my friend says I am overreacting, am I? I can’t get this gut feeling out that he’s going to do something to me. I’ve never felt this scared and I’ve lived on my own in multiple appartment for about 10 years and I’ve never been this worried. Ahhh sorry for the long post, thoughts?

EDIT: I think he owns the shop, not the building! Also entrances are separate but it’s within the same big building.

(28F) with (28M), official for 1 month, seeing each other for less than a year

Has anyone ever started a relationship and had a gut feeling of, this will eventually end and it’s going to hurt more than anything I’ve experienced before?

I got into a new relationship after a long and bad one (where there was never real love but more attachement and yet it hurt so so much), and I’m approaching things with a much healthier and calmer mindset. But this one feels different, and for the first time I can see myself really falling in love.

I think part of what’s scaring me is that the future is never guaranteed. Sometimes I feel like I’m holding myself back from fully diving in because I’m already scared of the potential heartbreak. But at the same time, I don’t think I could have walked away from this relationship either.

Has anyone else felt this way? Not that something is wrong, but that your gut is telling you this one will really break your heart? Not sure if I’m looking for advice or just ranting but it’s been bothering me a lot and I’m not sure how to feel or how to make the though go away.

TL;DR: New relationship feels different from any I’ve had before, and for the first time I can genuinely see myself falling deeply in love. Nothing feels wrong, but I have this gut feeling that it will end, and it could be my biggest heartbreak. Has anyone else been scared by how much a relationship meant to them, even when things were going well?

Hi everyone. I (F28) ended a relationship four years ago partly because we completely ran out of things to talk about. The last year was rough — forced conversations, nothing in common, staying together longer than we should have. Ending it was for the best.
Now I’m nine months into something new (with M29) and things are genuinely going well, but the more serious it gets, the more anxious I feel. That little voice: What if this happens again?
Instead of just being present, I catch myself actively thinking about what to say next rather than just… talking. It’s becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy and I hate it. We never ran out of things to talk about but as we just made it official, I started to overthink this and now I can’t get out of it.

Has anyone dealt with anxiety like this carrying over from a past relationship? How did you get past it? (Note I can no longer afford therapy)