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For all the people here thinking that their parents are going to find them an arranged marriage match you need to come out of your delusions.

It happened to a sister of mine that spent her youth thinking that her parents are conservative and would find someone for her to marry, but when people started asking her about her marriage she realised why are her own parents not concerned and she awkwardly confronted them, her father said “i am not going to anybody’s door to ask for your marriage, you can find someone yourself or stay with us forever”

So there is a chance that your parents are depending on you to find your own match, as arranged marriage market is humiliation ritual for both the families, and some modern parents are not going to take that responsibility.

So at least discuss and take a commitment from them before spending your youth dreaming, and if it is a clear no you can get to work yourself.

Like there is lots of discussion on the internet about what is bare minimum and what men should do to make women fall in love or even stay in love with them.

I want to know what women do to get guys that they like to fall or stay in love? Like there are 5 love languages, so what type of love are you giving out.

I was just talking to a friend of mine that is a total player and hooks up with lots women and lots of them are even married, and he told me that some women have emasculated their husbands so much that even if he doubts his wife is having an affair or gets information about it, they just turn a blind eye and let that happen.

Like once married, men get trapped in a lot of expectations and these women make their life a hell until they stop asking questions about where she is going and what she is doing, most of the times for the kids sake and many times from social pressure these men keep living their lives in suffocation.

These men are mostly emasculated for their pp size and money and lifestyle they provide, or even their own social status.

The other day our friends group got into discussions about rising divorce rates and one of our female friend pointed out that looking at patterns in developed countries, committed monogamous relationships are going to be a minority.

And a women having kids from multiple men and men having kids with multiple women and still being independent of each other and just focusing on the kids needs is going to be future of majority relationships, which is better for evolution also to have more genetic variety.

And looking at the trends we are already at multiple relationships throughout the life, next step will be having kids without caring if parents stay together or not.

In US the number of people having kids with multiple partners is already above 20%

First point i would like to clear is the gaslighting about male issues online is insane, they just have a complete guidebook on how to derail the discussion. But i have some hope as this is a male space, this discussion would not be possible anywhere else.

So 2 recent statistics that reflect the betrayal of men in the promise of dismantling the patriarchy are, young women are making more money than young men, and these young women are still hypergamous and expecting an even higher earning partner, and if they don’t find that they are ok being single. When it was promised that well paid women ment less pressure on men to earn.

And the bigger issue is that this women empowerment is achieved by taxing men and subsidising women, it is not like women just started working harder, government is changing the laws for them, more and more women are being hired by big corporate companies due to equality norms they follow internationally and more and more men are being pushed in informal business where there is lots of bad work practices and also employment uncertainty.

There was a recent incident with me that triggered a thought about this, a female friend of mine that got into good college due to empowerment policies, got a good paying job in MNC due to equality quota, dated around but did not find a “suitable guy” to marry, went to Europe and got pregnant through IVF and was saying to me “women don’t need a man to live fulfilling lives”.

I don’t even understand how we created a system where men are literally taxed to pay for their own destruction.

First point i would like to clear is the gaslighting about male issues online is insane, they just have a complete guidebook on how to derail the discussion. But i have some hope as this is a male space, this discussion would not be possible anywhere else.

So 2 recent statistics that reflect the betrayal of men in the promise of dismantling the patriarchy are, young women are making more money than young men, and these young women are still hypergamous and expecting an even higher earning partner, and if they don’t find that they are ok being single. When it was promised that well paid women ment less pressure on men to earn.

And the bigger issue is that this women empowerment is achieved by taxing men and subsidising women, it is not like women just started working harder, government is changing the laws for them, more and more women are being hired by big corporate companies due to equality norms they follow internationally and more and more men are being pushed in informal business where there is lots of bad work practices and also employment uncertainty.

There was a recent incident with me that triggered a thought about this, a female friend of mine that got into good college due to empowerment policies, got a good paying job in MNC due to equality quota, dated around but did not find a “suitable guy” to marry, went to Europe and got pregnant through IVF and was saying to me “women don’t need a man to live fulfilling lives”.

I don’t even understand how we created a system where men are literally taxed to pay for their own destruction.