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My coparent has started being passive aggressive recently about not notifying him of every single award or report that comes home with our child in what he deems a "timely manner".
I decided to reward her because she got test results back (that were emailed to both of us). She told her dad she was getting rewarded for some progress report (which was not true). He texted me upset that I didn't share the report card with him, which I had no idea what he was talking about. I went and checked in her backpack (which I had not opened) and there was some report card thing in there, which I hadn't seen, and I let him know immediately. He accused me of intentionally withholding it from him and not letting him know immediately. (This was maybe 24 hours after she got to my house, and had gone to his house for a family event, so outside of the normal routine).

Following this, her teacher sent home several awards in one day, for various things like meeting different milestones, which were backdated to when she accomplished said milestone. I sent them within hours of getting home, and he responded telling me I need to be more prompt sharing those things (as if I had been sitting on them for weeks), which was not the case.

At this point I told him it was not beneficial to automatically assume I was intentionally keeping information from him as I had never done so in the past. He rebutdtaled claiming there were awards on my mantle he had seen in a recent call with her that I failed to share. I stated this was untrue and the current awards on the mantle were in fact ones I had shared months earlier and even provided the proof.

Is it reasonable to expect I need to notify him of every single thing that comes home from school, every day? Should I be expected to send updates for all tests, grades, etc. sent home? I rarely get pictures of stuff she is taking home over there on his weeks, so I don't even know if there's items he hasn't shared. I find it hard to believe every award, report, thing, is being sent home on the weeks I have her solely.

It's not that I intentionally keep stuff from him, but it just seems so minuscule. These are not like required assessments or report cards. These are like "read 10 books" and stuff like that.

Recently they had some race thing at school and she got a medal, which didn't even say what the medal was for. I didn't even think about notifying him, but he's now angerly texting me about "intentionally keeping things from him" and i couldn't even get her to explain to me what the medal was for other than "running fast in a race" but she's too young for track so I really have no idea. We didn't get any information sent home from the school or anything.

Please let me know if I'm being out of line.

Hello, so my daughter (7) has come home recently talking about how her dads gf has been letting her wear mascara at their house. I didn't think it was my place to say anything to her dad at the time. Today was a dress up day at school and they sent pictures of her and I noticed she's wearing mascara in those photos.

1)how do I have a conversation with her dad about how I do not think this is appropriate for her age?
2)do I even have any room to say "hey don't do this, I'm not ok with it"?
3)any advice on how to navigate?

Thank you!

Hello
My sister is trying to figure out how to leave her husband of 2 years. They just recently moved to a new state (he got a new job) and she is really unsure what to do or where to go. She had to leave her line of work because her license was state specific and have been unable to find her own employment. She recently started a part time job, but he is micro managing her finances and she doesn’t have the ability to save any extra funds for a lawyer or a place to go.

She also said that she is worried about the debt situation because prior to relocating, while she was getting licensed, he became unemployed and they accumulated debt. He currently is making a healthy salary at his new job, but she is worried she can’t get out.

What are her options, where should she look for help, what is realistic. I don’t know how to help her as I live on the other side of the country.

Hello all! I am applying for my child's passport this weekend and wanted to clarify some things.

My child's name has two last names per the amended birth certificate and court order in our custody agreement. The other parent had agreed to go to the passport appointment as required since this is a first time application.

Childs name is Jane Doe Smith Anderson. The name on the birth certificate reflects smith Anderson as both last names.

On the passport application if we want the child to have one last name and use the other as a middle name, are there additional forms needed to file with the DS-11?

If they request a different birth certificate reflecting smith be reflected as a second middle name, does the other parent have to sign anything again?

Just want to be prepared!

Thanks!

Hello all! I am currently looking to buy a new primary residence (and rent out my previous residence as a long-term rental). Several of the new houses I am looking at have ADUs which could be used as STR. I'm curious how/what all could be deducted as STR related deductions when it comes to closing costs, furnishings, expenses etc.
I am thinking I would flip the ADU to a long term rental eventually but want to take advantage of as many of the tax benefits as possible especially when purchasing. I am meeting with my CPA in the next two weeks to really dive into the numbers but was curious what information/thoughts you guys had. Thanks!!