u/Floo76

See title - not exactly sure what to do now?

I paid around £18 to send this package to Gran Canaria, the Royal Mail staff member completed and printed the customs declaration label, which I signed and then she stuck to the back of my package (see image). But it has been returned to me, with a pink label stating "missing customs declaration" (also see image)

Checking the tracking, it also shows delivered in Spain today (see image), despite the fact it was delivered back to me here in Glasgow! (but also that it was handled by Glasgow mail centre today prior to delivery, so that should clarify that issue hopefully if I show the tracking details🤞)

Any ideas how to get this sorted? I obviously refuse to pay another £18 to send it again, as that was already very expensive 😅 - will Royal Mail refund me do you think? Or just say "nothing to do with us" if they see it as a customs issue? Should I take it back to the post office I sent it from, to discuss with them?

The only possible thing I can think is that:

A) At customs they somehow didn't check the rear of the parcel and therefore didn't see the customs declaration, or
B) They took possible umbrage at the fact that it says £0.00 under 'Value' on the customs form, since what I was sending has no financial value to speak of.

Thanks for any advice!

PS: already checked the RM website and see nothing available to get help with a case like this.

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I’ve been successfully doing ADF for 3 weeks or so now, focusing on finding a routine that works for me and getting into a consistent rhythm with it

I’m really getting comfortable with it now, and enjoy my fasting days almost as much if not more than my eating days.

I do three or four days a week 40-42 hrs fasts, with 6-8 hr eating windows, then usually a 18-6 on a Sunday

I’m finding that - being in perimenopause- it works best for me to have 500 cals on fasting days and I don’t count calories beyond a rough idea on eating days

I aim to eat pretty healthy, getting enough protein fruit and veg, and some treats in there too! I also get walks in, aiming for an hour on eating days and at least 20-30 mins (often more) on fast days

The thing is I never weighed at the start and I don’t want to weigh now either 😝🙄

I really want this to be a long term thing, and worry based on my past experiences that weighing myself will make me hyper focus on the scale rather than the long term goals - which for me are feeling better, more energy, ageing well and yes, weight loss too, but more in the sense of looking fab in my clothes, y’know?

Does anyone else feel the same? Anyone have any success stories with sticking with this way of eating long term and seeing the benefits, without focusing or worrying about the scale?

About a week or so ago I discovered info about BPD online and here, and for the first time in my life felt like I had language to explain my experience growing up with my (late) mother, who died a couple years ago. And it's only now that I'm emotionally processing my grief and also, with the help of this new 'framework' to describe to myself what was previously basically inexplicable and extremely confusing, the trauma of my childhood and adulthood experience with her.

I decided to book in counselling via my health insurance - right away the therapist didn't feel like a good fit, and didn't seem supportive so I've already requested a different counsellor. However I wonder if I'll face the same issues (I'm pretty new to counselling).

Part of the problem was that when i explained I'd only recently discovered BPD info, and that my mum had passed now and was never actually diagnosed (with anything, despite clearly having mental health issues of some kind), but I felt strongly for the first time that I had a description which explained alot of her behaviours, and I wanted to discuss my experiences and trauma in light of that understanding, the therapist was just kind of silent, and then kept asking me to explain what I wanted to get out of the sessions.

Should it matter if she was undiagnosed, but I truly believe she WAS undiagnosed BPD - I mean, do you think (or have experience personally to say whether) any general counselling therapist would discuss my experiences on that basis? Or should I maybe be seeking help via a different route? not even sure what I mean here really, I suppose if the lack of diagnosis is going to be an issue, should I try another route from traditional counselling perhaps; or if I go the counselling route, how should I best approach this do you reckon. **(to clarify to mods, I'm NOT asking you guys to verify anything about whether you think she was BPD or not, I'm only asking if you think her lack of diagnosis will affect my attempts to get counselling about this, and how best to proceed in light of that)

So thanks for any advice - as I say I'm still learning about this, and it's early days, but really I feel like from what I've discovered so far, this explains so much about her behaviour and also my family's and mine. And I feel on the one hand like this is kind of a eureka, at last I get it, moment - but also like where do I go from here to get help processing this so I can let go of / work through so much grief, and self blame and guilt which I've carried for years and years. Like it's good to know why, and what was actually going on there, but of course now alot of stuff I've pushed down and tried to forget is resurfacing, and I think I probably need to find someone qualified to talk to about it.

Thankyou - and I am so so glad to have found this sub. Hearing other people's experiences made me feel not alone in this (which is a really big deal to me), or like I was imagining or exaggerating or even to blame for things (after years of enabling, placating and point blank denials of the problems from other immediate family members)

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Tiny paw reaches out,
Slowly knocks your glass of milk,
Stares you in the face.