u/Fluffy_Afternoon652

I've been divorced for 2 years. 49m. This may sound cruel but I'm rarely attracted to women my age. I've gone on some dates with women my age and we get along, they are cute but I don't have strong attraction to them. One of my biggest mistakes in my last marriage was that I was never very attracted to my wife. We were best friends before I proposed and I just assumed the attraction would build. So no I'm looking for a strong attraction which has been hard for me to find. I occasionally get matches on OLD for hot 28 to 35 years olds and I'm having a hard time getting the courage to ask them out. The fact their hot and younger is intimidating to me. I worry I won't have much in common to talk to them about. Anyone on here having luck dating younger women after divorce? Any tips?

Anyone know where I can buy dry ice in san clemente?

After my first date she is texting me telling me how bad she wants to make out with me. This is new to me. Feel like I'm in junior high again. I'm not sure if this means she wants to make out or have sex as I'm not used to women saying that at this age. I've date women that say they want to have sex but saying they want to make out is a new thing for me.

Do women prefer making out instead of sex sometimes? And what does making out mean these days? Where are the boundaries? If I make out I'm going to want to have sex.

My second date is set up to meet at a cool restaurant bar with live music 15 minutes from my house and 35 minutes to her place. Since she keeps saying she wants to make out should I invite her back to my place or wait to see if she asks to come over or go to her place? I don't want to come off as creepy asking if she wants to come to my place so soon after date two but she keeps saying she wants to make out. What do I do? Change the plans to dinner at my place?

I've been able to get back my strength on all lifts since my shoulder surgery 3 years ago. I'm focusing on overload. I'm up to 3 sets of 10 reps on over head press at 200lbs using hammer strength machine rather than barbell. I've been getting some pain in my shoulder that I had surgery on so I have recently started skipping OHP and lateral raises out of fear of reininjuring my shoulder.

For others that have had similar surgeries what lifts are you avoiding and what lifts do you recommend for shoulders?

I started lifting weights again about 9 months after my surgery. I'm now 2-1/2 year post surgery. I've been good on avoiding anything behind the neck. For example I can't do squats because my ROM is not 100% on that shoulder so it's too painful. I've gained all my strength back. Through my journey I've had some soreness in the shoulder that tends to resolve after letting it have proper rest. I'm up to 200 lbs on over head press 3 sets of 10. I've been experiencing more pain in my shoulder. Typically after lifting. I figured that since I'm building new muscle that shoulder will be more painful than the good shoulder and that's just how life's going to be if I keep lifting. For others that lift, is it normal to feel some pain 2-1/2 years post op? Should I completely back off shoulder exercises to see what happens? Just confused if this is normal or if I should try to get an MRI to see how my shoulder has healed.

I started lifting weights again about 9 months after my surgery. I'm now 2-1/2 year post surgery. I've been good on avoiding anything behind the neck. For example I can't do squats because my ROM is not 100% on that shoulder so it's too painful. I've gained all my strength back. Through my journey I've had some soreness in the shoulder that tends to resolve after letting it have proper rest. I'm up to 200 lbs on over head press 3 sets of 10. I've been experiencing more pain in my shoulder. Typically after lifting. I figured that since I'm building new muscle that shoulder will be more painful than the good shoulder and that's just how life's going to be if I keep lifting. For others that lift, is it normal to feel some pain 2-1/2 years post op? Should I completely back off shoulder exercises to see what happens? Just confused if this is normal or if I should try to get an MRI to see how my shoulder has healed.

Divorced for 2 years now. Pay $7k a month in alimony and child support. This is for life unless my ex gets a job or gets married or my income changes. Son graduates in 1 month (reduces my monthly payment to my ex by $2k. And she is already bitching and complaining that now she needs me to step up and pay for everything for him. She is doing nothing to get a job and expects me to keep providing for everyone. I pay for medical insurance, car insurance, cell phones and college expenses for my son and daughter. While I struggle to pay rent and have no disposable income. It never ends. People say when the divorce is final you can move on but the truth is the ex never goes away. I am so pissed of and angry. I've been going to therapy every week for the last 4 years and really don't think it's helped other than the fact I'm still alive. I've wanted to end my life for so long. Every day I wake up I don't want to be alive. I am so sad, bitter and angry I have a hard time dating or making new friends because nobody wants to be around someone this depressed and angry. I don't even want to be with myself. Does it ever get better? I just want this life to be over. I'm sick of just being a source of money. A financial slave.