Intimacy within marriage
My wife and I have been married for 4 years.
Everything else is great; she makes more money than I do, she cooks most of the time, she cleans well (I do at least half the chores - feel as though it’s necessary to mention that I’m not sitting around doing nothing lol). So simply put, 90% of our relationship is great!
But she doesn’t show intimacy. She pulls away when I go for a kiss, she gives me a single hand hug or a pat on the back, she doesn’t have sexual desire. She says I’m good looking but doesn’t want to have sex.
Note: Before we were married she was all over me like a tiger, and we even talked about how marriages die sexually after and she said over and over “I wouldn’t do that”.
We also hve a child, and she’s a great mother.
Coming from a family where my dad would hug me and give me a kiss on the forehead sometimes, and my mom was smothering me in hugs - it feels like this 10% that were missing is 90% heavier than the other 90%.
I’ve grown resentful after 4 years… I don’t want to leave because I love her and my daughter, but my heart feels empty at times.