u/Former_Doubt_9617

When you are dating for a quite a few weeks, everything is going just so well, you have met 3-4 times but not every day will have that high dopamine effect. There will be days when conversations might look forced or there may be a few serious conversations where your opinions may not sync.

As a woman, even when something feels off during this period, I am willing to work through those differences. But for guys, all they say is something changed and they can’t figure it out and the connection ends there.

Ps: Was dating this guy for 3 weeks. It all started with everyday texting (I know it’s a red flag) but it was him who started this everyday and minute texting, kept me hooked. I got invested, we met 3 times and one day we had a serious convo about our interests (from the usual fun and casual talks) and the interests being very different, the vibe was off. We started texting less, did talk about the shift in the vibe and energy and thought of working on it. I did try to work through things but he messaged me today that something felt off and he’s scared that if we meet today (as we were supposed to), it’s gonna get more weird and it should feel easy in the beginning and this feeling is not right. So yeah, we ended it today. Genuinely confused at what guys want and do they even want to work through the things? Not all the time it’s gonna be that fun, low stake convos.

I (27f) met this guy (27M) two weeks back and we had been talking over text continuously over the course of those two weeks and a week before that as well. We have met three times and the dates were super long and on the third date, we kissed too which was amazing. He messaged me randomly out of the blue the next day that he cant stop thinking about the kiss. However, the same day we had a serious conversation about our interests which were really different and the vibe was very off.

So I clarified this with him the next day and he said he didn’t really feel any vibe off and it’s fine. And after that day, we didn’t text for an entire day which happened for the first time because we are great texters. So I started the convo finally and he just talked for a bit and ended it. I finally told him that something is off and we can discuss and handle it like adults (even if we want to end it).

To this, he mentioned that he too feels something has shifted, might be because we text all day and even half a day without texting feels weird. So I asked him if we should slow it down and he said we should text when it feels natural and don’t force it and may tell honestly if we feel different.

I explicitly told him that I value honestly and he can let me know if he is still interested to seeing me more so that we dont waste each other’s time and he said he definitely is and said we can plan to meet by Friday bcs I am going overseas.

It’s been a day now, I received no text from him. I am anticipating if he texts me tomorrow night to meet on Friday, should I end it by saying it’s not about pressure but a normal checkin once a day if you are dating someone? Am I taking it too fast?

I (27f) met this guy (27M) two weeks back and we had been talking over text continuously over the course of those two weeks and a week before that as well. We have met three times and the dates were super long and on the third date, we kissed too which was amazing. He messaged me randomly out of the blue the next day that he cant stop thinking about the kiss. However, the same day we had a serious conversation about our interests which were really different and the vibe was very off.

So I clarified this with him the next day and he said he didn’t really feel any vibe off and it’s fine. And after that day, we didn’t text for an entire day which happened for the first time because we are great texters. So I started the convo finally and he just talked for a bit and ended it. I finally told him that something is off and we can discuss and handle it like adults (even if we want to end it).

To this, he mentioned that he too feels something has shifted, might be because we text all day and even half a day without texting feels weird. So I asked him if we should slow it down and he said we should text when it feels natural and don’t force it and may tell honestly if we feel different.

I explicitly told him that I value honestly and he can let me know if he is still interested to seeing me more so that we dont waste each other’s time and he said he definitely is and said we can plan to meet by Friday bcs I am going overseas.

It’s been a day now, I received no text from him. I am anticipating if he texts me tomorrow night to meet on Friday, should I end it by saying it’s not about pressure but a normal checkin once a day if you are dating someone? Am I taking it too fast?

So I(27F) am seeing this guy from last two weeks and yesterday was my 3rd date with him. We both intend to date seriously leading to long term relationship and commitment.

We kissed and made out a bit for the first time yesterday and then he messaged me today that he can’t stop thinking about the kiss and would want to see me again before I leave for a vacation next week. But his next plans are only going towards night walks, or similar things and I know he wants to have sex or at least something more than the last date.

For me, sex is important but it is not happening before exclusivity and I indirectly mentioned to him that we can meet for a quick coffee during work and he showed disappointment and jokingly blamed my work hours that I can’t meet him at night.

At times, he sends a bit dirty jokes too but they are playful and I play along but I can’t go beyond my boundary. If his only intention is to get into my pants by next date, I don’t think I am down for this connection.

What should I do? Please help.

So I(27F) am seeing this guy from last two weeks and yesterday was my 3rd date with him. We both intend to date seriously leading to long term relationship and commitment.

We kissed and made out a bit for the first time yesterday and then he messaged me today that he can’t stop thinking about the kiss and would want to see me again before I leave for a vacation next week. But his next plans are only going towards night walks, or similar things and I know he wants to have sex or at least something more than the last date.

For me, sex is important but it is not happening before exclusivity and I indirectly mentioned to him that we can meet for a quick coffee during work and he showed disappointment and jokingly blamed my work hours that I can’t meet him at night.

At times, he sends a bit dirty jokes too but they are playful and I play along but I can’t go beyond my boundary. If his only intention is to get into my pants by next date, I don’t think I am down for this connection.

What should I do? Please help.