u/Fragrant_Lettuce_892

Hi everyone,

I'm still in university, so this post is a little premature, but I wanted to ask about how people move out post-uni?

I save and have big plans for my future (inc. grad school), but the financial state of the world means it always seems better to live at home to save money. My main concern is to what end? First job? I live in a pretty run-down area with very conservative religious parents who force me to go to church, and I already anticipate that living there post-grad will require church attendance weekly as well (despite no rent) and a lack of social freedom. I ask here because the people of this sub understand my context more than other general financial subs, who typically advise staying at home if you have the means to.

I've always been a big planner and pretty frugal so I ask whether it is better to save to anticipate moving out, to be more in the city with more independence, or focus on just keeping my head down there until I can buy this ''house'' that every young person seems to be saving for.

TLDR - Do I plan to remain independent post-university or stay in my parents' home to save money? What would/have you done? Do you plan to stay until you can afford your dream home, or do you plan to move out by a certain deadline? Any advice would be useful!

Hi everyone, I’m a first year university student (F) who has never had any physical experience with anyone (no not even kissing), however, as most young people I am really horny. Also using a throwaway account for obvious reasons. I’ve tried the apps (no one normal really on there/not my type), gone to clubs and societies ). I really want some sort of fun hookup before the year ends and I return to my conservative, dull neighbourhood and just wondering if anyone had any tips for me?

I’ve wanted this since the beginning of the year, since deconstructing religion but found it hard to really make anything happen. My uni has a kinda nerdy standoffish culture and when I venture into clubs further away I get hit on, but it doesn’t feel safe enough to explore. Also at the beginning of the year, I really expected everything to come to me and didn’t think I’d have to play any part in making connections (how naive!)

Finally, a guy that I was quite comfortable around platonically-ish, that I wanted to make a move and potentially hook up with, told me he’s dating someone a few weeks ago.He was pretty shy and inexperienced too, so I low-key thought he was perfect to kind of start this journey with. Just thinking about making a move on him really reinvigorated my suppressed like desire, if that makes sense?

Being a minority in university it’s been hard to deal with my community’s conservative nature (yes even on campus) while being quite sexually positive and really wanting to put myself out there.

TLDR - inexperienced girl (who reads a lot about sex and sex positivity) wants to gain some physical experience with someone attractive before uni ends. How could I go about this? Any advice or life experiences from being in my same/similar position. I am bi asw! I will make sure I am safe and vet people. I just want to increase my likelihood, since it seems nothing seems to happen for me “naturally”or when I put effort in.

Hi everyone, I’m currently a first year in university and as the year is coming to an end I am having several realisations about my experience so far. For one, I was excited to have more romantic options and finally have more experience. I tried apps for a few days, and clubs, societies, and just hanging out but nothing really seems to happen for me.

I don’t have low self esteem (may have more of a main character complex if I’m being honest) and honestly out myself out there, by reaching out and talking to new people.

Additionally, I had a guy I hung out a few times with platonically-ish, and just as I was about to express some sort of feelings, bam, he gets a girlfriend.

I try quite hard, in all aspects of my life but seem to not get anything out of my romantic life. I understand “trying hard” isn’t everything in romance/hooking up but I just feel like it’s not an aspect of life I’ve ignored. Like I work two jobs, mentor, get good grades etc and I’ve always been like this. With only a few weeks before I go back to my boring (rundown) hometown, I’m feeling nervous that second, this and fourth year will all be this dry romantic desert. I’ve only allowed myself to stop feeling guilty for wanting this kind of stuff in the last two years.

As I thought my romantic inclinations were frivolous, and I was the only one of my friends who really seemed to care about stuff like this. I know teens' hormones are all over the place but idk I feel as ready as anyone, and a lot of weird people i know have romantic connections. Why not me? I’ve often struggled to understand how these things work (prob due to my sheltered Christian upbringing) and just want to explore a different side of myself.

As a black women in a pwi with some black population, I just wanted advice from black women on my situation, their own stories and what I could do?