u/Frequent-Muscle-3159

We’ve known each other for a couple of months and see each other regularly through different friend groups.

He’s quite touchy, even when there’s no clear reason, flirts with me, gives compliments and does unexpected kind gestures. He often mirrors my gestures, but it could be just friendly behaviour.

At the same time he’s really social and a genuinely nice person. I noticed he's quite open even with those who he met for the first time. He does compliments for others as well, with me it turns more into playfully bullying each other. Seems to me.

We often end up walking side by side, but he also randomly took another person and talk a lot with them. Actually as me. Honestly, I often interrupt us and engage the entire group to make my feelings less obvious lmao.

There was a place we'd discussed a few times, and he said he even could make a tour. I took a risk and texted him after a group hang out, if he wants to go there tomorrow. He said yes, and then when I tried to clarify a time, he said maybe next time, when our group would have a break. He even suggested a date, and we decided to think about it later. That date passed, and neither of us brought it up again. I took it as a smooth hint that he's not interested in 1:1 meeting. I felt embarrassed and disappointed. I thought it'll be akward.

But when we met again irl our dynamic didn’t change AT ALL. He was still touchy, still talking to me kindly and flirty, still approaching me out of the blue.

There were moments when he was sharing smt with the group, and I dared to keep looking into his eyes, and he looked back at me for minutes. Also he was telling jokes and looking at me as if I were the only one who could understand. He even said “oh only she gets me” and I was like I don't but thanks haha. Maybe I was just a convenient “target” for his attention or a comfortable person in the group you know.

There’s no clear evidence that I mean more to him than anyone else. Once he sent me his fav songs but didn’t expand the convo. Another time, he invited me to an event I couldn’t attend, and when I asked how it was he ignored the message. He doesn't actually seek for private time with me or ask questions about me. He notices small details in others as well just like attentive person.

I might be reading mixed signals because of my own feelings. If the person likes me I'd know it, but with him I'm just confused and desperate.

(I’ve thought about this a million times, but I can’t stop overthinking)

We’ve known each other for a couple of months and see each other regularly through different friend groups.

He’s quite touchy, even when there’s no clear reason, flirts with me, gives compliments and does unexpected kind gestures. He often mirrors my gestures, but it could be just friendly behaviour.

At the same time he’s really social and a genuinely nice person. I noticed he's quite open even with those who he met for the first time. He does compliments for others as well, with me it turns more into playfully bullying each other. Seems to me.

We often end up walking side by side, but he also randomly took another person and talk a lot with them. Actually as me. Honestly, I often interrupt us and engage the entire group to make my feelings less obvious lmao.

I took a risk and invited him to a place we’d discussed a few times, and he once said he could make it an “excursion.” When I texted him, he said yes, and then when I tried to clarify a time, he said maybe next time, when our group would have a break. He even suggested a date, and we decided to think about it later. That date passed, and neither of us brought it up again. I took it as a smooth hint that he's not interested in 1:1 meeting. I felt embarrassed and disappointed. I thought it'll be akward.

But when we met again irl our dynamic didn’t change AT ALL. He was still touchy, still talking to me kindly and flirty, still approaching me out of the blue.

There were moments when he was sharing smt with the group, and I dared to keep looking into his eyes, and he looked back at me for minutes. Also he was telling jokes and looking at me as if I were the only one who could understand. He even said “oh only she gets me” and I was like I don't but thanks haha. Maybe I was just a convenient “target” for his attention or a comfortable person in the group you know.

There’s no clear evidence that I mean more to him than anyone else. Once he sent me his fav songs but didn’t expand the convo. Another time, he invited me to an event I couldn’t attend, and when I asked how it was he ignored the message. He doesn't actually seek for private time with me or ask questions about me. He notices small details in others as well just like attentive person.

I might be reading mixed signals because of my own feelings. If the person likes me I'd know it, but with him I'm just confused and desperate.

We meet only in a group setting, but there're often conversations between just two of us, walking side by side. I've already got it that he's really social and nice person, but I also had a weird feeling. He touches me a lot, flirts, does compliments and kind acts which I haven't noticed him doing with others. And there was a very intimate moment when he put his hand on my hand out of blue (and now I can't believe that it's really happened or I hallucinated). It could be just friendly behavior, yeah. Maybe the problem isn't his actions, but my feelings interprets everything wrong.

I'm so done with overthinking each detail and I wanted to see him just for a short time. I took a risk and asked him out. For a place I wanted to go for a long time, and he knew it. I didn't mean anything more than just a walk. I though it'd be fine to walk with a person even if it's opposite gender. He replied yes, he wouldn't mind. I said when I can. And suddenly he wrote that it would be better to change the date for next time when "everyone" will have a proper rest. Apparently at first he though I meant to go there with our group Idk that's why he said yes.

Daamn that was so cringe. At least I tried, but now I feel even more pathetic. I mean... if you accept me only as a part of the group then why you're so close to me, why you're so attentive and caring and flirtatious and gentle and touching whhhhhyyyyy This uncertainty is killing me. I don’t even know should I start "mourning" about my unreciprocated feelings or not. And how I can give up if that's the first time when I feel some sort of romantic attraction to someone, and it's not a hypothetical desirable person, but my friend who obviously (for me) enjoys interactions with me.

I don't know how I would act when we'll meet in the future. Honestly, I just wanna him to forget me, dissappear and never again trying to initiate anything with anyone.

Please I need to hear outside opinions

We meet only in a group setting, but there're often conversations between just two of us, walking side by side. I've already got it that he's really social and nice person, but I also had a weird feeling. He touches me a lot, flirts, does compliments and kind acts which I haven't noticed him doing with others. And there was a very intimate moment when he put his hand on my hand out of blue (and now I can't believe that it's really happened or I hallucinated). It could be just friendly behavior, yeah. Maybe the problem isn't his actions, but my feelings interprets everything wrong.

I'm so done with overthinking each detail and I wanted to see him just for a short time. I took a risk and asked him out. For a place I wanted to go for a long time, and he knew it. I didn't mean anything more than just a walk. I believe it's fine to walk with person who you consider a friend. He replied yes, he wouldn't mind. I said when I can. And suddenly he wrote that it would be better to change the date for next time when "everyone" will have a proper rest. Maybe at first he though I meant to go there with our group Idk that's why he said yes.

Daamn that was so cringe. At least I tried, but now I feel even more pathetic. I mean... if you accept me only as a part of the group then why you're so close to me, why you're so attentive and caring and flirtatious and gentle and touching whhhhhyyyyy This uncertainty is killing me. I don’t even know should I start "mourning" about my unreciprocated feelings or not. And how I can give up if that's the first time when I feel some sort of romantic attraction to someone, and it's not a hypothetical desirable person, but my friend who obviously (for me) enjoys interactions with me.

I don't know how I would act when we'll meet in the future. Honestly, I just wanna him to forget me, dissappear and never again trying to initiate anything with anyone.

We haven't knew each other for so long, but we became close with a few meeting. At least I believed in it.

He's really nice. He's kind and supportive to everyone. I even thought what if he's manipulating with these random compliments, but no, he's just really sweet and very touchable person from first meeting. I flirt with him and he replies me with same manner. I'm unintentionally clinging to him physically. So far, we’ve only met in groups, but somehow we always end up walking side by side (though sometimes he randomly changes his dislocation to someone else). One time he invited me to the event, but I couldn't make it, and when I asked how it was he just ignored my text.

Ok well, I would consider us just being friendly if that thing hadn’t happened. Our group was holding each other’s elbows, and he asked to be included in the circle. Then there was a moment when we stopped and I let go of his elbow. We stayed close, and I felt his hand reach mine and gently rest on it. I forgot how to breathe for a moment, but then I turned around, pretending nothing had happened.

The fact is I can't actually remember this moment now. I can’t explain it but it feels like it never happened and I'm just crazy and came up it. Though I have a note on my phone exactly after that happened. But what if that wasn't his hand or I hallucinated or I DON’T KNOW. I couldn't sleep at night, feeling everything inside of me.

So I said let's pretend nothing happened, and if there was something then I'll catch other hints on the next day otherwise I'm just crazy lol. And on the next day... we almost didn't talk to each other. Firstly everything was okay then he moved to other people in our group and talk with them all the time. He was following them exactly as followed me before. He said some phrases to me, but mostly I felt like I didn't exist for him anymore, and I was scary to interrupt him with others.

I know I'm overreactive. You'd know when someone choose specifically you. But with him I'm just confused. In reality he doesn't try to expand our texting or to be next to me. He tries to communicate with entire group and enjoys conversation with anyone. He tells the same stories to everyone and doesn't actually ask question about my life. So the truth is obvious, but I don’t want to believe. Maybe I make assumptions too early, that's the only hope I have or I just overthink everything.

I never felt a poor romantic attraction and I never dated someone. This is the first time I haven’t run away from a person I have feelings for. I tried to initiate our interactions, but not push too hard, trying to make our friendship progress naturally. I wanted invite him to a walk just two of us sometime, but now I feel stupid and embarrassed.

How to stop overthink every detail and just enjoy the time we spent together as friends in a group setting at least?