u/FridaMercury

My teen just entered high school and he's begging me for Snapchat. I say no, dad says sure why not.

I've had Snapchat, I know it's reputation (at least back in the day) is used for sending nudes and disappearing messages. Ofc my son swears he won't use it for that, but I just think the temptation is too great.

He already has tiktok but he claoms everyone - the girls, specifically - are using Snap.

I monitor his TT use and probably won't be able to with Snap.

My husband says it's time to loosen the grip. Am I being too strict or paranoid?

I've noticed that in the past several years, so many people have become flaky with very little excuse or care. Is it just me? Is it just my friend group?

For example, a friend has spent weeks planning a birthday party for her child, then the night before in the group chat one of the friends gives a "heads up" that she might not go after all, depends on how she's feeling. Of course, being sick is always a good excuse to not go somewhere, but this friend has been up and down everywhere lately and suddenly "might" not feel well. The birthday party means a lot to our friend, so why is the other friend so nonchalant about canceling?

Another time, I co-hosted a bbq, got a head count, bought food and drinks, then the day of a bunch of people didn't show up. Their excuses ranged from a last minute invite to something else, a guy they're crushing on asked them out, felt like sleeping instead, just didn't feel like it.

Another time I was hosting a social meet up at a bar, it was a big deal to me as it took a lot of planning and effort to organize. A close friend didn't show up and her excuse was that she felt like staying home to craft instead.

So many other examples. Not just my events, but friends events as well.

My point is that people just seem so careless. When called out, I've noticed that the stance people take is that they're setting boundaries and if you question it or push back then you're not respecting their boundaries.

What happened to the days of sticking to your commitments? If you say you'll be somewhere, you go.