u/Full_Barnacle219

Hi everyone,

I have posted this in a few other groups but because I'm Irish I thought I would post here too 😊

I'm not really sure what my post is going to be about exactly, but I feel like I want to put my thoughts down amongst like-minded people.

I am 42 and have pretty much been single my entire life. When I was in my 20s I recall telling an acquaintance that if I was still single when I'm older then I would go and have a baby by myself. Obviously I never imagined that it would actually become my reality, but here we are.

3 years ago I decided to get some basic fertility testing done, and my main reason for not going ahead with solo IVF at the time was because of my financial situation. After telling a male friend (who I was starting to be interested in romantically) that I had the testing done with the view to using donor sperm, he made a "sure I'll do it for free" comment and then after further conversation we decided to see if there could potentially be something between us. Long story short, I invested a lot of feelings in him but things didn't really progress and he eventually just ghosted me. I had started to save money in the meantime anyway and I am now in a much better financial position to pursue the idea of solo IVF.

I have an appointment next Friday for a repeat nurse consultation/bloods. 3 years ago my AMH was 8.4 pmol/l and a few weeks ago I paid to have a home AMH test done and my AMH was 9.29 pmol/l. I'm relieved to know that my AMH has stayed steady in the last 3 years but I also know that my chances are low, considering my age.

I have told some members of my family, who are supportive, but perhaps a bit cautious about encouraging me. For some reason I have found it incredibly difficult to tell my younger sister that I am closest to, and also my parents. Not really sure why this is, maybe I'm worried that they will be 'sensible' about the idea, and discourage me. For some extra context, I still live at home with my parents. My mum has incurable lung cancer and has treatment every 21 days, and my dad has been diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment which is showing up as memory loss/confusion. I obviously worry about whether me trying to bring a child into the home is a ridiculous thing to do, but I also know that I will regret it if I don't at least try to fulfil my dream.

Sorry for the incredibly long post, and thank you if you've made it this far! As I said, I'm not even sure what/if I am looking for advice, or just somewhere to try and process my thoughts amongst like-minded people!

Hi everyone,

I'm not really sure what my post is going to be about exactly, but I feel like I want to put my thoughts down amongst like-minded people.

I am 42 and have pretty much been single my entire life. When I was in my 20s I recall telling an acquaintance that if I was still single when I'm older then I would go and have a baby by myself. Obviously I never imagined that it would actually become my reality, but here we are.

3 years ago I decided to get some basic fertility testing done, and my main reason for not going ahead with solo IVF at the time was because of my financial situation. After telling a male friend (who I was starting to be interested in romantically) that I had the testing done with the view to using donor sperm, he made a "sure I'll do it for free" comment and then after further conversation we decided to see if there could potentially be something between us. Long story short, I invested a lot of feelings in him but things didn't really progress and he eventually just ghosted me. I had started to save money in the meantime anyway and I am now in a much better financial position to pursue the idea of solo IVF.

I have an appointment next Friday for a repeat nurse consultation/bloods. 3 years ago my AMH was 8.4 pmol/l and a few weeks ago I paid to have a home AMH test done and my AMH was 9.29 pmol/l. I'm relieved to know that my AMH has stayed steady in the last 3 years but I also know that my chances are low, considering my age.

I have told some members of my family, who are supportive, but perhaps a bit cautious about encouraging me. For some reason I have found it incredibly difficult to tell my younger sister that I am closest to, and also my parents. Not really sure why this is, maybe I'm worried that they will be 'sensible' about the idea, and discourage me. For some extra context, I still live at home with my parents. My mum has incurable lung cancer and has treatment every 21 days, and my dad has been diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment which is showing up as memory loss/confusion. I obviously worry about whether me trying to bring a child into the home is a ridiculous thing to do, but I also know that I will regret it if I don't at least try to fulfil my dream.

Sorry for the incredibly long post, and thank you if you've made it this far! As I said, I'm not even sure what/if I am looking for advice, or just somewhere to try and process my thoughts amongst like-minded people!

Hi everyone,

I'm not really sure what my post is going to be about exactly, but I feel like I want to put my thoughts down amongst like-minded people.

I am 42 and have pretty much been single my entire life. When I was in my 20s I recall telling an acquaintance that if I was still single when I'm older then I would go and have a baby by myself. Obviously I never imagined that it would actually become my reality, but here we are.

3 years ago I decided to get some basic fertility testing done, and my main reason for not going ahead with solo IVF at the time was because of my financial situation. After telling a male friend (who I was starting to be interested in romantically) that I had the testing done with the view to using donor sperm, he made a "sure I'll do it for free" comment and then after further conversation we decided to see if there could potentially be something between us. Long story short, I invested a lot of feelings in him but things didn't really progress and he eventually just ghosted me. I had started to save money in the meantime anyway and I am now in a much better financial position to pursue the idea of solo IVF.

I have an appointment next Friday for a repeat nurse consultation/bloods. 3 years ago my AMH was 8.4 pmol/l and a few weeks ago I paid to have a home AMH test done and my AMH was 9.29 pmol/l. I'm relieved to know that my AMH has stayed steady in the last 3 years but I also know that my chances are low, considering my age.

I have told some members of my family, who are supportive, but perhaps a bit cautious about encouraging me. For some reason I have found it incredibly difficult to tell my younger sister that I am closest to, and also my parents. Not really sure why this is, maybe I'm worried that they will be 'sensible' about the idea, and discourage me. For some extra context, I still live at home with my parents. My mum has incurable lung cancer and has treatment every 21 days, and my dad has been diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment which is showing up as memory loss/confusion. I obviously worry about whether me trying to bring a child into the home is a ridiculous thing to do, but I also know that I will regret it if I don't at least try to fulfil my dream.

Sorry for the incredibly long post, and thank you if you've made it this far! As I said, I'm not even sure what/if I am looking for advice, or just somewhere to try and process my thoughts amongst like-minded people!

Hi everyone,

This is my first ever Reddit post. I'm not really sure what my post is going to be about exactly, but I feel like I want to put my thoughts down amongst like-minded people.

I am 42 and have pretty much been single my entire life. When I was in my 20s I recall telling an acquaintance that if I was still single when I'm older then I would go and have a baby by myself. Obviously I never imagined that it would actually become my reality, but here we are.

3 years ago I decided to get some basic fertility testing done, and my main reason for not going ahead with solo IVF at the time was because of my financial situation. After telling a male friend (who I was starting to be interested in romantically) that I had the testing done with the view to using donor sperm, he made a "sure I'll do it for free" comment and then after further conversation we decided to see if there could potentially be something between us. Long story short, I invested a lot of feelings in him but things didn't really progress and he eventually just ghosted me. I had started to save money in the meantime anyway and I am now in a much better financial position to pursue the idea of solo IVF.

I have an appointment next Friday for a repeat nurse consultation/bloods. 3 years ago my AMH was 8.4 pmol/l and a few weeks ago I paid to have a home AMH test done and my AMH was 9.29 pmol/l. I'm relieved to know that my AMH has stayed steady in the last 3 years but I also know that my chances are low, considering my age.

I have told some members of my family, who are supportive, but perhaps a bit cautious about encouraging me. For some reason I have found it incredibly difficult to tell my younger sister that I am closest to, and also my parents. Not really sure why this is, maybe I'm worried that they will be 'sensible' about the idea, and discourage me. For some extra context, I still live at home with my parents. My mum has incurable lung cancer and has treatment every 21 days, and my dad has been diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment which is showing up as memory loss/confusion. I obviously worry about whether me trying to bring a child into the home is a ridiculous thing to do, but I also know that I will regret it if I don't at least try to fulfil my dream.

Sorry for the incredibly long post, and thank you if you've made it this far! As I said, I'm not even sure what/if I am looking for advice, or just somewhere to try and process my thoughts amongst like-minded people!