u/Fun-Hornet8681

I have found myself in a confusing loop of thoughts. I haven’t dated in a while but have recently found myself crushing very hard on this man from my church. We’ve have only ever talked together when we’ve seen each other at church which is fairly often. This past weekend we had attended a young adults event after we messaged each other about going. We drove separate as I was driving with friends and he had planned to only come for about an hour. When he got there he seemed eager to see me as he didn’t know anyone really at the event besides 2 mutual friends that we have. We had spent the entire night together, sat next to each other and even cracked jokes about his time to exit as he ended up staying the entire duration of event. He even put his arm around me at one point to say he was going to leave but had left it there for a moment before saying he’d actually stay. The next morning I had went to church as we jokingly agreed that I would wake early to see him on our worship team since he had stayed. When I had gotten there he noticed me fairly quickly and came up with a very happy smile and a hug; which isn’t usually uncommon for him when seeing each other at church. After service I was chatting with some friends and he had came over to make sure he had said bye before leaving. I ended up leaving shortly after him and we had caught each other outside. He had held the door for me and we walked to our cars together while conversations about the rest of our plans for the days and our gym schedules since we found out on Saturday that we go to the same gym. When he had asked the times I go he said he goes the same times and will be looking for me now. It’s so confusing because I feel like all of these things could be easily brushed off as a normal Christian guys way of kindness. I just can’t tell if I’m the huge crush I have on him is clouding my judgement of it all.

I (27f) have found myself crushing rather hard for this man from my church. I've been praying very hard over the situation as I want to know if he is someone God wants me to pursue. We met back in march through a worship night through a group I attend at church . We do chat a lot at church; He always looks for me and makes it a point to come and chat with me when leaving his group at our church while I greet for mine. My friends had even pointed out that he makes it a point to be closest to me when in group settings. I feel we've had some interactions that I think show a bit of interest but I also feel I could be thinking too hard over this situations because of how much I like him. I tend to go back and forth with oh that was a sign of interest and he's just being polite and friendly, it's the christian thing to do. He has yet to ask me out or initiate something together outside of church. I do value traditional roles such as the man pursuing the woman but I also don't know if I've even made it clear to him that I am interested. Sorry, I'm rambling but anyways... How do you decern if someone you're interested in is from God when your heart is so invested in wanting a connection with a specific person? I've been praying for clarity and peace throughout the whole situation but keep finding myself unsure, which is unfortunately something I struggle with in almost every situation as I do have an anxiety disorder. I just want to know if the signs are from God or my own desires or fears.

I really like this guy I met a few months back but I have been out of the dating world for 8 years due to being in a longterm, toxic relationship. I have been single for about 10 months now and I'm ready to put myself out there and find the perfect person for me but I'm a little lost on how to do so. So this guy I like is a few years older than me and he lives close to me so we've run into each other a few times but haven't been able to dive into much conversation as every time we've seen each other there has been others around. I finally got the courage to send him a dm last night making a flirty joke about the post he had made a few hours before and even used it as a way to invite him to this event in town. He had responded early in the morning and even asked about when the event is although it has been all day since he has responded to my last message about the details... The message isn't marked read so there's a possibility he hasn't seen it yet or maybe isn't a big phone/social media kind of guy. Is this normal or am I completely over thinking the whole situation?