u/Fun_Abalone_7536

Hi, I’m M22.

I was in a relationship for almost 2 years. Everything was going well—we were happy, and it felt stable.

Out of nowhere, a small misunderstanding turned into a breakup. It was a minor fight, but after some arguing, she suddenly said, “Stop loving me.” I was shocked. I told her that if she really wanted that, I’d respect it, but we could still fix things. After that, we stopped texting.

The next day, she sent me a long message explaining everything. The main issue is her family—they’re strict and don’t want her to marry someone outside their caste.

Even before we started dating, she had initially rejected me for the same reason. But later, she gathered the courage and said we could try to convince them. Now, after 2 years, the same issue came up again, and she decided to end things.

I tried talking to her and convincing her, but she wasn’t willing to try anymore. She says she still loves me and always will, but her parents won’t agree, and she doesn’t want to put them in that position. She thinks it’s better to end things now rather than later during marriage.

What hurts the most is that she doesn’t even want to try or take a stand.

I even suggested that we stay together at least until the end of college and internship, and figure things out after NEET PG. But she refused, saying there’s no chance her parents would accept.

In the end, I told her I respect her decision. I also told her that if she ever feels she made a mistake and wants to come back, I’d accept her without question.

We agreed to stay friends, and I said I’d be there for her whenever she needs me. I genuinely want her to be happy.

But honestly, it’s killing me.

It’s been a week since the breakup, and we still have to see each other every day for the next 2 years. I can’t focus on anything—studies, gym, nothing.

The worst part is the timing. The breakup happened just 2 days before her birthday. I had so many plans, but all I could do in the end was wish her.

I don’t know what to do. I still love her, and I said I’d wait for her… but at the same time, this is really affecting me.

How do I deal with this?

Hi, I’m M22.

I was in a relationship for almost 2 years. Everything was going well—we were happy, and it felt stable.

Out of nowhere, a small misunderstanding turned into a breakup. It was a minor fight, but after some arguing, she suddenly said, “Stop loving me.” I was shocked. I told her that if she really wanted that, I’d respect it, but we could still fix things. After that, we stopped texting.

The next day, she sent me a long message explaining everything. The main issue is her family—they’re strict and don’t want her to marry someone outside their caste.

Even before we started dating, she had initially rejected me for the same reason. But later, she gathered the courage and said we could try to convince them. Now, after 2 years, the same issue came up again, and she decided to end things.

I tried talking to her and convincing her, but she wasn’t willing to try anymore. She says she still loves me and always will, but her parents won’t agree, and she doesn’t want to put them in that position. She thinks it’s better to end things now rather than later during marriage.

What hurts the most is that she doesn’t even want to try or take a stand.

I even suggested that we stay together at least until the end of college and internship, and figure things out after NEET PG. But she refused, saying there’s no chance her parents would accept.

In the end, I told her I respect her decision. I also told her that if she ever feels she made a mistake and wants to come back, I’d accept her without question.

We agreed to stay friends, and I said I’d be there for her whenever she needs me. I genuinely want her to be happy.

But honestly, it’s killing me.

It’s been a week since the breakup, and we still have to see each other every day for the next 2 years. I can’t focus on anything—studies, gym, nothing.

The worst part is the timing. The breakup happened just 2 days before her birthday. I had so many plans, but all I could do in the end was wish her.

I don’t know what to do. I still love her, and I said I’d wait for her… but at the same time, this is really affecting me.

How do I deal with this?

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Hi, I’m M22.

I was in a relationship for almost 2 years. Everything was going well—we were happy, and it felt stable.

Out of nowhere, a small misunderstanding turned into a breakup. It was a minor fight, but after some arguing, she suddenly said, “Stop loving me.” I was shocked. I told her that if she really wanted that, I’d respect it, but we could still fix things. After that, we stopped texting.

The next day, she sent me a long message explaining everything. The main issue is her family—they’re strict and don’t want her to marry someone outside their caste.

Even before we started dating, she had initially rejected me for the same reason. But later, she gathered the courage and said we could try to convince them. Now, after 2 years, the same issue came up again, and she decided to end things.

I tried talking to her and convincing her, but she wasn’t willing to try anymore. She says she still loves me and always will, but her parents won’t agree, and she doesn’t want to put them in that position. She thinks it’s better to end things now rather than later during marriage.

What hurts the most is that she doesn’t even want to try or take a stand.

I even suggested that we stay together at least until the end of college and internship, and figure things out after NEET PG. But she refused, saying there’s no chance her parents would accept.

In the end, I told her I respect her decision. I also told her that if she ever feels she made a mistake and wants to come back, I’d accept her without question.

We agreed to stay friends, and I said I’d be there for her whenever she needs me. I genuinely want her to be happy.

But honestly, it’s killing me.

It’s been a week since the breakup, and we still have to see each other every day for the next 2 years. I can’t focus on anything—studies, gym, nothing.

The worst part is the timing. The breakup happened just 2 days before her birthday. I had so many plans, but all I could do in the end was wish her.

I don’t know what to do. I still love her, and I said I’d wait for her… but at the same time, this is really affecting me.

How do I deal with this?