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is it done between me (F19) and him (M18)

so i met this guy in the gym and we’ve known each other for five months. we are really physically touchy, would be in the gym together all the time and leave the gym together all the time. we would hold hands, be really close, text every single day. he was so caring and would always check on me, I would always say I miss him because I seriously do.

we just had this instant chemistry that I’ve never felt with anyone in my life.

he would also ask me out often outside of the gym despite his mom not letting him and would make time to travel to see me.

we’ve had really bad arguments where I have personally thought there’s no coming back from it but we still have persevered. he would literally fight for me and our connection.

so this is where the story starts. i opened up to him after he ghosted me for three weeks and was in an urgent, vulnerable situation and he had absolutely no empathy and didn’t reassure me. he even went as far to say that he just didn’t care. I always felt like he’s rude over text but irl he isn’t like this at all. this really made me upset so I blocked him for my own peace of mind.

then about almost two weeks later I unblocked him and send him messages apologising for some bullshit and saying I didn’t mean to block him despite the fact that I was justified in blocking him. he then soon unblocked me two or three weeks later and messaged me.

i told him about this drama I was experiencing in the gym where I was getting bullied and harassed by people in the gym, he told me I was lying and playing the victim card when I wasn’t. he then asked me how exactly im getting bullied and I answered, I said im moving gyms too and I made a typo saying “I dated the people on their burner accounts to try me”. I meant “dared”. I don’t think he blocked me because of this but he blocked me right after and im so confused as to why because I basically tell him everything.

four days later he then went to the assistant manger and said that he needed to report me for making him uncomfortable when I’ve done nothing but respect his boundaries and prioritise his comfort. we even bad a conversation about boundaries and we were on the same page, i wish he communicated this with me first. it’s never my intent to make him feel uncomfortable and he knows that.

i just need advice because im so confused as to why he blocked me. is it payback because i blocked him first? is it ego? or is he simply done with us and we’re over. i think im in love with him which makes this whole thing more difficult.

so i met this guy in the gym and we’ve known each other for five months. we are really physically touchy, would be in the gym together all the time and leave the gym together all the time. we would hold hands, be really close, text every single day. he was so caring and would always check on me, I would always say I miss him because I seriously do.

we just had this instant chemistry that I’ve never felt with anyone in my life.

he would also ask me out often outside of the gym despite his mom not letting him and would make time to travel to see me.

we’ve had really bad arguments where I have personally thought there’s no coming back from it but we still have persevered. he would literally fight for me and our connection.

so this is where the story starts. i opened up to him after he ghosted me for three weeks and was in an urgent, vulnerable situation and he had absolutely no empathy and didn’t reassure me. he even went as far to say that he just didn’t care. I always felt like he’s rude over text but irl he isn’t like this at all. this really made me upset so I blocked him for my own peace of mind.

then about almost two weeks later I unblocked him and send him messages apologising for some bullshit and saying I didn’t mean to block him despite the fact that I was justified in blocking him. he then soon unblocked me two weeks later and messaged me.

i told him about this drama I was experiencing in the gym where I was getting bullied and harassed by people in the gym, he told me I was lying and playing the victim card when I wasn’t. he then asked me how exactly im getting bullied and I answered, I said im moving gyms too and I made a typo saying “I dated the people on their burner accounts to try me”. I meant “dared”. I don’t think he blocked me because of this but he blocked me right after and im so confused as to why because I basically tell him everything.

four days later he then went to the assistant manger and said that he needed to report me for making him uncomfortable when I’ve done nothing but respect his boundaries and prioritise his comfort. we even bad a conversation about boundaries and we were on the same page, i wish he communicated this with me first. it’s never my intent to make him feel uncomfortable and he knows that.

i just need advice because im so confused as to why he blocked me. is it payback because i blocked him first? is it ego? or is he simply done with us and we’re over. i think im in love with him which makes this whole thing more difficult.

Does he like me?

in the beginning, he texted me good morning and goodnight, we left the gym everytime we were together, we were very touchy and physically affectionate. like from the outside in, we looked like bf and gf. we used to text all the time, he always asked me out, he gets jealous when im w other guys, he’s shy around me, all that.

so he didn’t text me for three weeks and I broke contact because I was in an emergency situation, I was gonna be homeless due to my dad being abusive,

i confided in him and texted him and he replied after three weeks, the messages i sent him checking on him he just didn’t answer and in person he said he wasn’t ignoring me but wasn’t even answering.

i opened up to him abt my dad and he said “do u think ur from a white family”, “it’s normal in Asian/black families” and “ive seen worse”.

i then told him i felt like he was minimising or normalising my abuse, i wanted him to reassure me and tell me it would be okay or even ask me how i am but he didn’t do any of that.

i told him how i felt and was met with dry responses like “ok”, and when i asked him why he didn’t text me for three weeks he just didn’t answer. i told him why he’s acting nonchalant and he said “nobody is acting nonchalant, i just don’t care”. and that made me feel like absolute shit. i said to him that i regret opening up and unsent all the vulnerable messages I sent him and he removed me as a follower and i blocked him, he did the same as I unblocked him.

now im getting bullied at the gym and these girls said that he apparently said I follow him around like a creep and that hurt because I don’t.

he’s telling others that “what is there to talk about” and that “I have nothing to tell her” and that im pissing him off.

i just feel so hurt because we’ve known eachother for almost five months now and ive never liked a guy as much as ive liked him and i felt that he felt the same way.

i dont know what to do now and just need advice