u/Fun_Bar2027

I’m a SAHP to a toddler and on a SSRI. Sex is pretty much nonexistent right now 😅

My husband gets home from work around 5:30. I am typically cleaning a lot during my day, playing with our toddler, watering our garden and outdoor plants, running errands, etc. with a toddler and several pets in our home. Messes happen so often that it’s hard for me to keep up with them all day. Sometimes the dishes do pile up, Toys are all over the floor, or the high chair is still dirty from snack. After my husband gets home from work, I’ve started to notice he will only clean up messes made during the time he’s been home. For example, if my daughter gets out more books for him to read, he only cleans up those. Not the ones that were already out. Same with toys and dishes/plates that were used before he got home. I definitely did a better job of keeping up with the day‘s messes when our daughter was younger. Now that she’s almost 2 it’s been more challenging.

My husband and I got into an argument last night about this. I was cooking dinner while he was sitting on the couch near our toddler. When dinner was ready and I was making her plate, my toddler came over to me and was tugging on my legs. I said to her “daddy is going to put you in your highchair” and my husband let out an annoyed “okay?” and grumpily went to place her in her chair. later on, he said, “you know you could have just asked me to put her in her chair” and my response was “I was in the middle of plating up her food and I needed help, you were sitting on the couch“. Obviously I could have responded better but I’m getting very annoyed by the fact I feel like I have to ask my husband to do certain things vs him taking the initiative to do them on his own.

I finally did apologize to him but when I was trying to explain myself, he said “next time you need to stop at ’i’m sorry’ because now you’re just making it worse“ it’s the next day and I’m still flustered by this interaction.

I have a 20 month old and recently, especially this summer I am struggling to get us out of the house. We have a decent size back yard and front porch and we do play outside a lot. But when it comes to actually getting the motivation to go to the library, a museum, a park, story time, etc just the thought of getting us both ready makes me feel exhausted. I’m just a slower moving person and I hate feeling rushed. It overwhelms me. Any tips?

I’m not really sure where to start, so please bear with me.

I started Lexapro (5 mg) on 5/28 after talking with my doctor about feeling constantly overwhelmed, irritable, having a very low frustration tolerance, and struggling with motivation. I know 5 mg is generally considered a starting dose and that many people need a higher dose to get full relief. I also know Lexapro can take 4–6 weeks (or longer) to reach its full effect, and I’m only about 3 weeks in.

I’m trying to figure out whether I’m actually seeing benefits yet or if it’s too early to tell.

The biggest change has been my sleep. Before starting Lexapro, I would regularly wake up around 3–4 a.m. and be unable to fall back asleep because my mind would be racing and consumed with anxiety. Since starting it, I’m sleeping through the night, and even if I do wake up, I can usually fall back asleep pretty easily. That alone has felt like a huge improvement.

What’s confusing me is that last week I felt like I was handling stress much better. I felt calmer, less reactive, and thought, “Maybe this is starting to work.” But this week I feel like I’m back to square one. My motivation is low, I’m feeling irritable again, and I’m questioning whether the medication is helping at all.

For those of you who responded well to Lexapro, did you have ups and downs like this in the beginning? Did you notice improvements gradually, or was there a point where things became more consistently better? I want to give this a fair amount of time before I request a dose increase.

Because sometimes, truthfully, we can get caught up in the negative, overwhelming, and isolating feelings of being a SAHP. A mindset shift can help me reframe my whole day.

Today I was grateful for the fact that I could sit on my couch, sip my coffee, and watch the song sparrows at our bird feeder while my daughter played solo for 15 minutes. A small win for me. It really put things into perspective and helped me realize it’s okay to slow down and not always needing to be physically productive to feel fulfilled.

Basically what the title says!

Early Thursday morning 4/23 - placed refill order request (I am in a state where an appointment isn’t required) 

Thursday evening 4/23- receipt for $75 sent to my email 

Friday morning 4/24- messaged care team asking questions about pharmacy and my order. 

Friday afternoon 4/24- received response and was told my patient care summary and invoice will be available within 24 hours. 

Friday evening 4/24- received patient care summary

Saturday morning 4/25- received invoice and paid it immediately 

Wednesday 4/29- receipt of payment sent to email

Thursday morning 4/30- email confirmation that my order was sent to the pharmacy.

Thursday evening 4/30 - email confirmation that my order was shipped.

Today 5/2- My order was delivered.

Very happy with my experience, this is the third time I’ve ordered through pomegranate and I have not been disappointed.