The L placement
Hi! My name is Charlie, and I'm having a bit of an identity crisis right now about where does my "L" belongs.
I wrote this little analysis for myself:
♠︎; I love arguing for the sheer pleasure of it. Debating, expressing points of view, etc. I also like arguing, even though I get socially tired of arguments and fights.
♤; If I believe I'm right, I'm not going to back down. I find it very difficult to change my mind unless my 'opponent's' reasoning is more valid than mine and convinces me.
♠︎; I like to see other points of view as long as they don't try to impose them on me or go against human rights. Most of the time, when I see arguments against what I believe, I listen carefully and agree with them if they're right, but my main purpose is to refute their point because when think they're wrong.
♤; I think that if everyone shared my opinions, the world would be a better place.
♠︎; I try to remain respectful in debates, saying things like "I respect your opinion," etc., because I'm a polite person and genuinely don't want anyone to feel bad or inferior (because they aren't). But I understand that this is also fueled by the fear that the people I argue with will hate me, because on many occasions I don't respect their opinion and they should have mine (especially regarding social issues).
♤; I like to defend myself and my point of view. In debates, most of the time I'm the one correcting others, and there are times when we both end up sharing the same perspective. Personally, I don't recall a time when someone else's point of view completely changed mine.
Examples:
- I belong to a religion, and in my case, I'm what most people call 'liberal', so my debates with orthodox believers are always aimed at changing their minds or simply presenting my point of view so they can change their minds, since their opinion tarnishes the religion and hurts people.
- Regarding abortion, I'm very clear that I'm pro-choice, but since there are certain limits on this issue that I haven't defined well, I can take bits of other people's opinions and analyze them to reach my own conclusion.
- Once, a friend told me not to use chatGPT because it harms the planet (and so on). I barely knew anything about this topic at the time, so I simply told her I didn't care. But since I was curious, I started researching it, and now I share her opinion.
- When I don't know about a topic, I try not to just jump in debate until I learn about it. However, on topics that don't interest me (like soccer), I simply rely on the opinion of someone I trust who knows about the subject.