Who was wrong here... and communication lapse
Was I wrong here to say this to a head doctor for saying "I am disappointed in you" to the head orthopedic doctor of the hospital
TLDR:- Repeated medicine reaction forced me to say I'm disappointed in you to the head orthopedic doctor.
I am 33F and my mom 57F was diagnosed with Pott's spine last year and she underwent surgery for it 3 times. For the first and second time the doctor removed the abscess (pus) from her body and gave her medications to control TB, pain which results from the collapse of spinal cord. Also she has a history of severe acidity and the medicines wrecked havoc on her stomach resulting in vomiting and nausea. This was the first time and I kept my patience because I forgot to tell this.
The second time it happened after the major successful surgery in which doctors fitted 13 implants in her spinal cord. But there was an open wound from which they removed the abscess (pus) the two times I mentioned above which got infected after few months and pus started coming out. For which they prescribed Tab Linezolid 600mg as an antibiotic to kill the infection but resulted in my mom getting chronic diarrhea going to loo atleast 9-10 times a day.
I called the hospital to speak to the head doctor but unfortunately the doctor was away from the city for a medical conference for 5 days. I spoke to the RMO and he said to continue the medicine at any cost but also suggested Tab ViBact DS as a counter but it was all in vain. He was also shocked to hear that the head doctor didnt give any counter medicine to control the side effects. When the head doctor came back I got an appointment and told him everything and my conversation with the RMO. He said that I should've stopped giving medication. I told him that you say one thing and your RMO says the other so to whom should I listen and what about my mom who suffered the most but he said it happens. This was the second time.
The pus was coming out of the infected site for months then the head doctor suggested local ultrasound which uncovered that my mom had sinus track infection for which he gave nasal spray to kill infection. For 1 month we continued the treatment but the pus never stopped coming. Also I was doing dressing and changing bandages everyday ever since the pus started coming out.
The condition worsened and my mom was diagnosed with osteomylitis which required immediate surgery. Before surgery my mom's acidity had also spiked up. The surgery happened successfully but when the time came for discharge I was horrified to see the same medicine that gave my mom chronic diarrhea prescribed to be taken at home and once again the doctor failed to give to counter medication. I spoke to the assistant doctor and she gave me the counter to it. But alas it was deja vu all over again. This is the third time.
Disappointed with the outcome the next day I went to the hospital to meet the head doctor and decided to speak my heart out. The receptionist the kind lady saw me distressed and ushered me and my mom in the cabin. I said that the past 1 yr I have been visiting hospital for my mom and my dad ( I lost my dad last year's July) and it's taking a toll on me and I'm very disappointed in him. He said that it's not my problem...imagine my shock at his brazen reply. I said to him why did you prescribed the same medicine and failed to give counter to it he said that it's best medicine for TB and diarrhea is a part of it. I said to him how could he expect my mom to cope with the side effects of it after having a surgery when body is weak and recovering he gave the same reply. But I stood my ground firmly and he gave me another medicine. Disappointed or my stupidity or because of the tiredness and overwhelming emotions in me I said to him that I should've changed the doctor the first instance and he said that he did not force to get treated in the hospital you came here not that I called you.