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I always had a crush on this guy in my previous office (6 years ago) but we never engaged as we didn't have to work together. We both switched companies since then and we recently reconnected on LinkedIn for something work related.

We ended up switching to Whatsapp and our conversations slowly started shifting away from work and into more casual (and flirty) things over the course of 2 months or so, we would talk on and off (chat and voice). He then told me at one point he would be interested in discussing a topic over dinner once he is in London(city where I live). I said cool yeah! that we would do it once he is back from his trip. he said haha deal.

well 2 weeks later.. turns out he already came back from his trip long ago but he doesn't live in London, he lives in the suburbs. we still talk from time to time and it's light banter etc.. but no follow through from him on going out?

He is a 'reserved' person and doesn't talk much in general and seems a bit introverted. I want to know if I should just stop giving him attention as this feels like it's leading nowhere or am I not being fair on him?

Met this guy a few years back, we started dating until we got to intimacy and he got spooked because I was still a virgin. We stopped dating, he said he wanted to focus on work. I didn't take it personally - I knew being a virgin sometimes spooks some men due to the 'responsibility' of being the first.

Fastforward a year and a half or so, we started interacting on social media and then flirting. He then ghosts after 2
weeks. I didn't understand what happened. I sent him a message saying that it's very rude to do that and that he should just communicate his feelings instead of ghosting like an adult.

He never responded to that. But I am happy I said my bit anyway 🤷🏼‍♀️ Fast forward 6 months, we bump into each other. Turns out he had ghosted me for a girl he met on tinder that he had gone on a few dates with he then dated her for 6 months. She gave him an ultimatum to be gf/bf and he said he didn't like ultimatums so they broke up. We went out and I called him out on how he ghosted me last time... I said look if you would have just said you are dating someone, I would have respected it and been happy for you and that's that. Why be so disrespectful? We did have a great time though.

Well..... after that outing he ghosted me again 😂😂😂 I guess he is back with her but seriously, gave me the ick.

Also - lesson learned, once a ghoster.. ALWAYS a ghoster.

So this isn't a random guy.. we met at work years ago. Instant chemistry, we dated after 6 months of knowing each other. He initiated. He ran away when he found out I am a virgin because he didn't want the responsibility of being my first but we spoke about it before he did.

I was okay.. I didn't feel resentment , I moved on and we stayed on good terms.

I then reach out 5 months ago to reconnect because I remembered him. We flirted.. for a week then he ghosted.

Last week we bumped into each other again, ended up going out, he told me he was dating a girl from tinder and had been on 2 dates with her when he ghosted me.

I told him he needs to communicate that and be honest instead of ghost. I would have been happy for him, it's fine.

It has been since saturday that we went out.... no word from him yet.

Am I being ghosted AGAIN ? should I just close the door completely with this guy?

Hi guys, so I met this guy years ago and we dated back then. He then cut things off as he felt overwhelmed by his new job and he found out I was a virgin so didn't want the responsibility.

We stayed on good terms but vaguely in touc and a few months ago - I reached out because I remembered him and I was feeling flirtatious. We flirted for a week then he ghosted.

We now reconnected. He has let slip that he had ghosted me because he didnt know hwo to tell me that he had started dating someone new.

I don't know how I feel about this.. Is this someone I should considering dating now? My ego has taken a hit for sure 😂