u/Future-Agency543

I just recently found out the gender of my baby and have been looking up stuff to educate myself on raising a male baby since we don‘t have any boys in my family and I do not know much about how different it is to having a girl.

This obviously has been affecting my algorithm and I’ve been getting some “boy mom” content. Just mothers talking about them loving their child etc and I noticed a LOT of hateful and judgemental comments from girl moms.

I know boy mums have a bad reputation but I mean this doesn’t go for every mother who has a son. Yet almost every normal(!!) reel posted by a boy mom is filled with some girl moms being angry that a mother is praising her son or that she says she loves him.

They are either competing “I love my daughter as much as you love your son” or saying stuff like “only a boy mom would say this” meanwhile it’s just a women talking about how she loves her child.

I notice those people really sexualise the mother/son relationship. And they also seem to just really HATE boy moms and their content.

Idk if my algorithm just causes me to see these things or if it is really EXTREMELY common?

Can someone tell me if this is a thing in real life too? Like some things are really offensive, some scary… what’s the point of these fights???

For a little context, I am in a long distance marriage so I don’t see my husbands‘ family (who consists of his grandmother and father only) a lot.

His grandmother is like my MIL since my hubby‘s mother passed away years before we got together.

When she found out I was pregnant she was very happy and cried a little.

Then I had to leave the country to give my child a better healthcare for his birth and afterwards. She wasn‘t exactly thrilled.

Living elsewhere than my husband and having to stay with relatives is really hard. Overall I‘m struggling a lot but trying to stay strong for my baby.

My husband is also having a hard time but that‘s bc he is struggling to cook and clean for himself. Men in my country are often not taught those basic skills but he is trying his best to learn and be Independent now and I‘m proud of him. He doesn’t complain or cry like you‘d expect a man who grew up in a toxic culture would.

Now I came to visit my husband and we obviously went to see his family too and throughout the visit his grandmother kept complaining about how much her „son“ is suffering and how „poor“ he is that I won‘t be there until the end of the year and he therefore has to care for himself. Then she tried to convince him to move in with her, which I stopped right away and told her he is taking care of my two cats so he can‘t leave our home.

Between me and my husband it is obviously I who suffers a lot more. I work full time (remote), have to live with relatives and sleep on their couches, am away from home and am all alone throughout this life and body changing experience.

Her crying about her son having to clean and cook for himself like that‘s the only issue in the world pissed me off so bad. Now I don’t like her anymore and I do not want to visit her until i leave.

Am I being an asshole? She is 82, has never been away from home. I don‘t think she realizes how hard my situation actually is? But then again, it‘s not the first time she made such comments. Once she told me not to make him do chores when he worked 12 hours. Btw I never force my husband, he likes to help because he doesn‘t want me to be tired even before pregnancy!

And he always shuts her down with stuff like this. He speaks up and tells her to stop even before I have to. But it doesn‘t help my anger.

Would I be the asshole if I don‘t visit her anymore?

I know we can do it in different positions but this seems to be the most common way. I just don’t understand why if we are told to not lie on our backs all those months…

I’ve had my cat (F, 5) since she was about 10 weeks or something. She grew up as an only child. And I was her entire world. She never liked other people, she will tolerate them and sometimes rub on them for food but overall she doesn’t care about people.

However she is obsessed with me. She is always following me from room to room and never leaves my side even when we are in our backyard.

Despite this, she doesn’t have separation anxiety. She’s a really good girl and adjusts perfectly to any situation without any big fuss.

Now I had to leave the country for 7 months and my hubby is taking care of her and they are doing just fine.

I’m just worried that when I come back she will have either forgotten me or worse…. replace me with my husband 🥹🥹 she started showing him physical affection even when no food is involved.

I’m scared when I come back she will use me for food and then discard me. Her obsession with me was my biggest happiness in life. I loved non stop cuddling with her and am scared that that’s not gonna happen anymore 🥹

Anyone with a similar experience with a cat that was also obsessed with you?

Edit: Re-reading this made me realize I’m the one with separation anxiety LMAOO

It’s a cultural thing in my country. Curious about opinions and experiences on this?

I do NOT want to shave the hair of my baby if he comes out having a full set of hair, I might shave if he is almost bald anyway lol

Wanted to know if NOT shaving is really as bad as many people claim.

Thanks!