u/General-Track-4654

Not thinking about you.

If you come to my mind I will count to 3 and do push ups, and redirect my thoughts to one of my priorities of the day: looking for a job🥹.

So basically, I’m into someone from the same lesbian friend group. I’m not super close friends with her or with anyone else in the group, but it’s a nice group and we meet regularly.

The thing is, I’m not really looking to date anyone seriously at the moment because life is demanding other priorities. But I do feel touch-starved, and I have a strong sexual attraction to her.

There’s also this unspoken rule about not getting involved with people in the group, because there have already been some splits in the past that disrupted the vibe. But honestly, that’s not always something you can avoid - the best women to date are in this group 😂

Sometimes I wish things were easier, like with gay men, where they can just look at each other and go for sex to relax.

Has anyone ever been in a situation like this?

I need some reassurance and advice, please. I feel a bit silly asking this, so please be gentle.

We’re not very close, but we have some group events planned throughout the year, and I don’t want to disrupt that dynamic. At the same time, I’ve spent the past 5 months thinking about her, and it’s starting to affect my ability to focus on my own priorities.

At this point, I just want to get her out of my head. I feel ready for rejection, and I’m hoping that if I communicate clearly, she’ll still be kind and friendly. I guess what I’m really afraid of is things becoming awkward or affecting the group dynamic or losing her presence in my life.

If anyone have a similar experience to share, please share with me :)

Thank you