u/GentooBirb

I already have done one semester of open studies and completed 3 classes and finished with a 3.9 gpa. I was told by an advisor that I only need one more class in order to be able to apply as a transfer student. My question is should I just take one or two classes in order to keep my gpa high or take another 3-4 classes in the fall so I make more progress in my chosen degree program when I eventually get in, but risk dropping my gpa.

Also i'd love to explore more classes that are considered gpa boosters if anyone has any recommendations!!

For context, I dated my second girlfriend for 2.5 years, she cheated on me with my oldest friend, not literal sex but exchanging nudes and she went to her house and apparently they cuddled and it was borderline sex. I worked really hard to forgive what she did, cut my friend out of my life. I found out this happened a little over a year after it happened. After I found out I was completely distraught and in the worst mental state I'd ever been in. 6 months after I knew the truth she broke up with me because she said she felt intense guilt. It was a shock to me because we never talked about how each other were really feeling regarding what had happened. So for her to just come out of nowhere with that really didn't sit well with me.

After about 3 weeks of no contact being on and off (she always broke no contact) we just kept seeing eachother, to the point that it was like we were in a secret relationship (not publicly dating, largely removed from eachothers friend groups) But I was holding on to hope that maybe one day we could make it work. We had boundaries during this time, no seeing anyone else and exclusivity, and I told her if she ended up liking someone else again I would have to leave, and she had the same expectation of me.

This May, I went on vacation and she reconnected with some highschool guy friends, I was fine with it but felt really weird based on how much time they were spending with eachother, I told her how I'm feeling a bit self-conscious about the whole situation but she'd keep reassuring me, telling me everything was fine.

I caught her lying one night about how she was busy talking to her mom, I'll save the details but her behaviour leading up to this conversation with her mom was very suspicious, so I drove to her house and waited a while, and here comes one of the guy friends she has been hanging out with and they were in his car.

I went over that night and confronted her about it and she really had nothing to say, I asked if she's done anything not-platonic with this guy and apparently she hasn't. I was still hurt because why lie then. Her reasoning was that I am too self-conscious and she knew I wouldn't like it if she went to see him that night.

It was awkward for a few days until I eventually told her I've had enough and she's gotta tell me how she's feeling and she confessed to having feelings for this guy. I explained through text a day or two later how I can't stay with her if she's going to continue seeing this guy that she confessed to me that she has feelings for. She did tell me when she was upset that she's not even sure if she likes this guy or wants to continue what she's doing. Although she agreed that it's not fair to me and doesn't want me to feel this way.

We've been in no-contact for 10 days and some days I feel okay, some days are really bad and I miss her so much that it hurts. I sometimes regret making that decision and I'm convinced I'll never have a connection that strong ever again. Sometimes I feel like I'm free and I can be myself again and prioritize friendships and self growth. It's all so confusing and I've been so close to breaking no contact a few times.

For context, we dated for 2.5 years and we were dating in private for another year. I went on vacation, when I came back she was acting really weird and told me she had developed feelings for one of her guy friends, after she confessed she said we probably shouldn't talk anymore. I didn't argue, it hurt but I just agreed. As she was leaving she asked if we could talk again a couple days from now. And I agreed. The day came, we talked, it was a classic emotional "final" conversation. We both didn't want it to end permanently and I think we were both so sad so next thing you know I spent the night at her house and slept with her. Even hung out the next day. After all this I just felt so emotionally drained and disconnected I eventually sent a long text how I'm done and I can't do this anymore. We didn't talk for about 3 days and I was doing everything I could and all things considered I was doing decently well at the time. But she broke no contact and we texted for an hour and the next morning she texted me again asking if I could see her again that night and I did. Same story as last time, she did tell me how she's unsure of her feelings for this guy. Anyways, I slept with her and the next day we hung out and we've remained in contact ever since, but it's much more distant and kinda awkward because we don't follow eachother anymore on any social media and we've both told everyone in our lives about how we're not talking anymore but it's like again, we secretly are.

I don't know what to do because I feel like I'm spiralling, I think I NEED to be alone, but I feel like I don't have the strength to say no to her. We're both so dependant on eachother but we've both already acknowledged that this is unhealthy and can't go on, but then we still just make the time for eachother.

I caught her in a lie a few days ago, told me she needed to study and had me take her home in the middle of us hanging out at my house. I was supposed to sleep over at her place that night and I asked her if I still should come over. She told me she'll see how much work she gets done and she'll text me between 11:30-12:00 if I can come over. I felt really weird about the whole thing, having me take her home early, the super specific window in which she will text me back. It's all strange and out of character for her.

I do feel bad about this, but I acted on my suspicion, when she stopped texting me back I drove to her house and waited until 11:30 and texted her asking what's going on. I didn't get an answer until like 12:05 after I called her and she said sorry she's talking to her mom. A few minutes later I see that one of her guy friends that shed re-connected with while I was on vacation dropped her off and I confronted her about it that night. She admitted to lying and told me she lied because she doesn't like how insecure I get when it comes to her guy friends. I told her this is exactly why I might feel insecure, because now you're lying to me about seeing them, how am I supposed to feel MORE secure?

The days after this, she was very emotionally distant, not texting me back very fast, showing zero affection whatsoever.

The final straw for me was the night before last, she told me she was going for a drive with another one of these guys she'd reconnected with between 10:30-12, I waited until 11:55 to go to her house (I was supposed to spend the night again) and called her, no answer she didn't update me even from before she left with this guy, and didn't tell me when she was home (if she ever made it home)

I got upset, went home, woke up to a text from her at 2am saying she fell asleep and she was still asking if I'd pick her up to take her to school in the morning. I went to get her, asked once and for all what is actually going on because I can't handle this distance that she's been creating and I need to know what she's feeling. She admitted she'd caught feelings for one of these guy friends and wanted to tell me but what postponing it until after her school was over. She told me we should stop being in this limbo and how it's not healthy for either of us and we shouldn't talk anymore. But the last thing she said to me was that she wanted to talk about this again the night after tomorrow, which translates to after I get off work today. I don't know if I want to because I don't want to fall back into the same cycle, but I also feel like I really really want to see her one last time and I don't know what to do, It's already over, I know that, but it's so fresh and I don't know if I can trust my own judgement.