Passing two heritage languages

Hi everyone! I have a 4 month old daughter who I want to pass my heritage languages. I speak Filipino (born and raised) and Japanese (fluent, raised in Japan and attended university; I also passed N1 test but that was a while ago) although admittedly a little rusty! I left Japan 13 years ago but I have family there and nieces who speak Japanese as their primary language.

I’m based in the US now. I met my husband in Japan and he speaks Japanese but he’s forgotten quite a bit. He doesn’t speak Filipino but knows some words and phrases. He is very supportive and wants our child to be trilingual also.

We speak English to each other. I speak to our daughter only in my heritage languages. I encourage my husband to speak Japanese as much as possible as well. I go on video calls with my family to expose her to other people speaking my languages although to me it’s not ideal due to screen time. I try to limit to 30 minutes when possible and definitely not every day. 

I’m doing a variation of OPOL but I wonder what is the best situation to maximize her exposure to my languages? I will be going back to work next month and she will be in daycare part time (3 days) and 2 days at home with my husband. 

I used to do time based (Monday to Thursday: Filipino, Friday to Sunday: Japanese). But felt it didn’t provide enough exposure to both so I switched to using both everday except I would have a “focus” language that I use the most during that day. I thought this set up would work better once she’s older perhaps but since she’s so young, I’m thinking using both and if switching on a “focus” language I would do MWF or TRS type of switching. 

So for example, I’m teaching her the word for “poop” (for purposes of early potty training). I use both at the same time or I would switch it out sometimes like morning (Filipino) and evening (Japanese). 

Is my approach okay? I could also do morning vs evening but switch it up some days so that she can get exposed to different vocabularies at different times of the day. 

My main priority is Filipino language - she will have more exposure to speakers of this language (my family) but I find less books and media in the language. Japanese she can get exposure through family also but limited but I find more resources in this language. We hope to visit my family in Japan sometime next year so she will have exposure to both. 

For input, I utilize the following resources:

  • Books: I translate English books but also have a few books in Filipino and Japanese. I have the hungry caterpillar in Japanese and some vocabulary books. I’m hoping to get more story books so she can hear the rhythm of language. But I do my best to use vocabulary words into sentences. 
  • Songs: I sing to her, play music in heritage languages. She recognizes a lot of the songs!
  • Narration: narrating what I do, pointing out colors, shapes, lots of adjectives and verbs. 
  • I live in a diverse area and can find Filipino and Japanese events and speakers. Community building is on my to do list as she gets older.

 

I want to have minimal screen time but thought about just playing something like Bluey (in Japanese) in the background or playing podcasts in heritage languages. For the most part I just have a playlist of songs I know and like and play those or I sing or narrate what I’m doing to her. But I would like to expose her to multiple vocabularies - any feedback is appreciated!

A side note: do you tell people that you speak to your child in your heritage language? 

Thanks for reading this post! So excited to be on this journey with our family.

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u/GigiBear808 — 23 hours ago

Girasol mysol fitcheck

Hi everyone! Practicing front carry with meh dai, girasol mysol. I’m petite, 5’2 short torso. Baby is 4 months today, likely 24-25” and between 15-16 lbs.

Concerns:

- top tunnel, apron style, padding hits when I tie on back so I cross and tie wais strap on front: should I use bottom tunnel? Try waterfall style? I may have too much bulk in front by wearing apron style + tying waist strap on the front.

Also, panel is below LO’s ear. Hits near top of her shoulder. She’s a bit off to the side chewing on the fabric… She has good head and neck control but I don’t feel it’s supportive enough so I tried using the hood to extend the panel and looped the strings to the straps. Any tips appreciated!

- crossed straps over thighs and twisted over bum for support then tied on the back. I tried tying on front but seems to be loose, like she keeps moving down and away from me and I have to crane my neck to kiss the top of her head. Are straps ok like that or should I place them under the knee? I’m experimenting different ways but don’t know if over or under makes a difference for her age and weight.

- I do the pelvic tilt but seems like the straps get loose when I do. I shimmy her up before I cross straps and then after crossing, pulling at a 45 degree angle. Fabric seems to slip or my knots suck! lol Definitely needs more practice to put this on correctly.

- finally is the panel at the appropriate width? Is the fabric supposed to hit knee pits or no? My understanding is no, but when I cross the straps they kinda hit them? I’ll have to watch more videos.

The shoulder pads are comfy but I just feel my shoulders never fit well with these kinds of straps. I have wrap mysol coming in the mail too so gonna see how that one is like!

TYSM!

u/GigiBear808 — 1 day ago

Please help me decide: mei tai vs half buckle

Hi everyon! been lurking this sub for a while but still can’t made a decision so I’m creating a post.

My baby is 4 months next week and weighs around 15 lbs, probably about 25 inches now. She’s a tall baby while I’m 5’2 and about 116 lbs, small frame. Looking for carrier that will suit me and husband who is 5’10, muscular build. I had a traumatic birth and needed a c sectio - I’m healing more now and was able to carry baby with my ergobaby 360 for short walks (10 mins). However, the ergo feels so bulky and such a pain to put on and off around the house. I prefer a cross back wear so makes it a little extra. I also have a short torso and the padding around the waist is uncomfortable.

I also had a stretchy wrap from kea babies but couldn’t use it because of my c section. My OB advised not to wear til 6 weeks pp but my wrists were still pretty bad then!

I have carpal tunnel and tenosynovitus on both hands. My wrists are gradually improving but I still have pain sometimes. This is the main thing that is preventing me from buying for now. Eventually I want to use woven, but for now I would like a comfy carrier for me and baby.

I looked into many brands (I’m in US) and really like:

- Didytai: no velcro, tie waist, can do no waist back carry

- lenny lamb hybrid: buckle seems more comfortable than didyklik and I like the color selection available to me more than didyklik. Seems to be faster with buckle?

- lenny lamb light pro: full buckle but seems to be comfy despite this. Might purchase it if the mei tai doesn’t work out.

I’m leaning towards didytai and half buckle. Anyone who has tried both?

Thanks in advance!

edit: please excuse typos! my wrists are limited 🥲

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u/GigiBear808 — 7 days ago

Just need to vent before colposcopy

2026 has been a wild ride. I gave birth 3 months ago and had a traumatic experience, basically almost died. During my six week visit, my OB did a pap and I tested positive for HPV when I was negative for it about nine months ago because they tested me during the early weeks of my pregnancy. I just feel like I’m spiraling. I just need a place to vent. I also don’t have childcare so I’ll be bringing my 12 week old with me to the appointment tomorrow nervous about driving with her and just being away from home for close to two hours. I don’t know what to expect, and the not know when is killing me…

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u/GigiBear808 — 1 month ago