u/Glass_Importance3515

I’m hoping someone can make me feel better or share an instance that something like this has happened to them so I can stop beating myself up.

I’m a college student and decided to get a gym membership this summer while I was home. I’ve never gotten a gym membership in the past because it was so expensive, but I got a good deal on it for the first few months. I tried to cancel it a couple weeks before I went back to school to save money, but I found out there is a 30-day cancellation window, where you’re charged for any payments that fall into that window.

I go back to college next week and have to make another $37 payment when I won’t even be home to use it. I have rent and tuition due, and have worked so hard to save money this summer. I’ve worked two jobs, never ate out, skipped out on money-costing activities with my friends, and did everything I could to help me make ends meet this semester.

I know it’s only $37 but I feel like I’m watching all my efforts to save money this summer be in vein, and now have to spend $37 unnecessarily. I can’t stop crying, and am just hoping someone can relate or has been through something similar.

Thank you guys in advance, and thank you for just reading if you made it to this point!

To people who had serious relationships in high school- do you remember your relationship well/think about it now?

I’ve been feeling really upset with myself for not dating in high school because I feel like by the time I had gotten to college everyone had been in serious relationships except me, and I felt really behind. My current boyfriend had girlfriends in high school. One of them he dated for 3 years (freshmen-junior year), and the other one for almost a year (senior year). They both lost their virginities to him. Do you guys remember these?

My dad says nobody remembers high school after age 30 but I don’t know if he’s just speaking from his own experience. TIA!!!

I never had a boyfriend in high school. I always wanted one, but the guys I talked to never seemed to workout.

I felt really behind for all my friends being in relationships/having sex and not me. I wanted to be cool and fit in so I started drinking with my friend senior year and I regret that so bad. I feel like if I had a boyfriend I would’ve felt less inclined to do this.

Now that I’m a freshmen in college I’ve started dating my current boyfriend. It was always really important to me to lose my virginity/experience my firsts with someone who was also experiencing those things. However, my current boyfriend had 2 serious relationships in high school. He dated one for three years from his freshman-senior year, and the other one his senior year, and had sex with both of them (they were also both virgins). I’ve been really struggling with some retroactive jealousy, and I can’t help but wish so badly that I had a relationship in high school. I’m even looking back on a guy I could’ve dated and I really wish I had, since he would’ve dated me as well but I was too to start talking to him.

I also had a feeling when I was in high school this would happen by the time I got in my first relationship, so it’s not even like I can be like “well how was I supposed to know.” This has been bothering me so much, and I wish so badly I could go back in time. The first time my boyfriend and I had sex I cried, because I wanted so badly to lose my virginity to another virgin. Every time we’ve had sex since or even talk about it I just get this horrible pit in my stomach, because I can only think about how much sex he had with his other girlfriends.

I also want to clarify that I don’t even wish he didn’t date in high school. I really believe that those experiences made him appreciate me more and turned him into the person I love. I just can’t get over the fact that I wish I had a boyfriend in high school. It doesn’t help that I now know of a guy who would’ve dated me and we could’ve had a good relationship, which makes it even worse.

Any advice would be helpful, TIA!!!!