r/Stress

I have been doing everything I can on my end, but I am experiencing both work-related burnout and autistic burnout (which has been a long time coming). I am genuinely asking for those who have been through this, how the heck did you heal from it? Especially when I don't feel like I have the option to stop working for a prolonged period of time, I am just wondering how I can rest and heal my mind and body to the degree that I feel is genuinely necessary. I know I can't keep going like this. Part of the solution is finding a new job, because I feel very constrained and like an outsider in my workplace which contributes to the mental load/tension, and I'm working on that in this difficult job market. But what are your strategies for dealing with this when you're going through it? Any daily habits that made a difference? Specific treatment that worked for you? If you did have to take a prolonged period of time off, how much time did you take and do you feel that it was genuinely beneficial? Please help! I just feel at such a loss

Hey y'all! New to the reddit. I'm curious what coping strategies are most effective for y'all. Hoping that this can turn into a list for anyone else that ends up struggling in the future.

Hello Everybody,
I am a (F) 25 y/o, I am struggling a lot with my anger issues. Can anyone give me suggestions/advice/help etc to help me to regulate my emotions better? I’ve struggled with it my entire life it feels. I grew up around angry parents & angry siblings, but for some reason mine seems to be the worst to deal with. I don’t know what to do anymore, i don’t want to be put on medication, i have stopped marijuana use and i never drank alcohol.

My first post here and I'm sorry if this is not allowed by how are we supposed to not "bring work stress home with you" and "don't let it get to you." How?! I've never understood that. I can't do it. I'm searching for a new job, but until that happens, I'm in a high-pressure job, 50 hours a week. I'm not a robot. I don't have an on/off switch. Can anyone actually do this? If so, how? Because the only answers people give me are "just let it go" and "you're not trying hard enough."

Hello everyone. I’ve been going through a difficult time for the past 2 years. I developed some medical issues and because of them I somewhat withdrew from life. Although my medical problems haven't completely resolved yet, I've made a lot of progress in my recovery process.

During this time, I was in a highly tense state of mind. Throughout the day, I frequently felt overwhelmed and like I couldn't breathe. I constantly felt as if something bad was about to happen, and these feelings gradually intensified over this period. Over time, I first started struggling to fulfill my responsibilities. After that, I slowly started to drift away from my hobbies. Eventually, I became unable to do any of my hobbies and turned into someone who lives at the bare minimum and it's been like this for a while. Although not exactly for these specific reasons, I saw multiple psychiatrists regarding this issue but none of the medications truly helped me.

Getting to the point, this specific thing has been happening for the last half-year especially. The simplest things I do have started giving me incredible peace like i have never felt before. While my hobbies and the things I used to enjoy doing most before this period still bring me no peace, the simplest, most meaningless things like drinking water or sitting on the couch fill me with an unbelievable sense of tranquility.

What could be the reason that in such a restless period, the things that should actually bring me peace don't, while simple things that hold no meaning for me give me peace with an intensity I've never felt before in my life? Has anyone experienced a similar situation before?

I never thought that the body has a rhythm of its own until I learned about Pendulation technique. When we are in stress or trauma, our body gets locked and stay in that state for long or sometimes permanently. External issues breaks the rhythm of our body and forgets to get out of that tensed state. Moving between tension and relief is crucial, so body can learn getting out of the tensed state is also possible.

I’m hoping someone can make me feel better or share an instance that something like this has happened to them so I can stop beating myself up.

I’m a college student and decided to get a gym membership this summer while I was home. I’ve never gotten a gym membership in the past because it was so expensive, but I got a good deal on it for the first few months. I tried to cancel it a couple weeks before I went back to school to save money, but I found out there is a 30-day cancellation window, where you’re charged for any payments that fall into that window.

I go back to college next week and have to make another $37 payment when I won’t even be home to use it. I have rent and tuition due, and have worked so hard to save money this summer. I’ve worked two jobs, never ate out, skipped out on money-costing activities with my friends, and did everything I could to help me make ends meet this semester.

I know it’s only $37 but I feel like I’m watching all my efforts to save money this summer be in vein, and now have to spend $37 unnecessarily. I can’t stop crying, and am just hoping someone can relate or has been through something similar.

Thank you guys in advance, and thank you for just reading if you made it to this point!

I am genuinely pissed off with everyone and everything. I get so easily irritated and I don’t know why. Nothing makes me happy I’m impatient annoyed whatever it is.

I am trying to find the cause and or maybe ways to help and SIGNIFICANTLY reduce this level or irritation because 1. It’s draining 2. It’s pushing ppl away and such.

To preface I was once on SSRIs and according to others it helped but I felt good enough to get off of them and also I did not want to become dependent on them and felt good on them but a lil off.

Anyways anything and everything annoys and irritates me my relationship with my partner irritates me, the current place I’m in rn in life irritates me I’m exhausted and don’t want to be angry anymore.

Any suggestions

كيف اتعامل مع مستويات التوتر المرتفعة. . . صار لي فترة على هذا الحال . . . خلاص تعبت أفضل أن اختفي من أن اكون موجود في الحياة . . .

I get stressed quite easily when things don’t go according to plan. I planned ahead excessively to avoid things going wrong and hold myself and other a high standard in doing everything. This led me to become excessively overbearing to people around me and stress them when I occasionally lose my cool. Can anyone share how you learn to let go and remain calm? I know I need to let go and be carefree but it’s so hard…

hello! I’m 15 F and have done this sport since I was 4 and I really enjoy this sport, but I’m getting extremely stressed out playing rep / trying out for rep teams. ( Been playing rep for 4 years) I’m just at the point in my life where I want to focus more time on grades and have less stress in my life. The thing is my mom has been playing this sport since she grew up and it’s a really big part of our life’s year round. But I just feel like playing house this year because of stress and I want to focus more on grades. When I tell her that she says “your too good for house” or “you will be so bored” and I’ve tried talking to her about it nicely and she gets angry at me. I really don’t know what to do looking for genuine advice. (I typed this up quick and know my grammar is horrible)

Everyone always says 'do something for yourself' when you're stressed and it never actually specifies what. Tried the bubble bath, tried the face mask, tried journaling, none of it touched the actual physical wound-up feeling in my shoulders and chest.

What weirdly works for me is really boring and specific: I sit on the bathroom floor for like ten minutes with the water running warm over my feet in the tub, lights off, phone in the other room. Sounds silly written out. But it's the only thing that gets my breathing to actually slow down instead of just distracting me for a few minutes.

There's a good breakdown on why baths actually do something physiologically instead of just being a nice-to-have, and it kind of explained why even just the water-on-feet version works without a full bath.

What's your actual, unglamorous stress reset? Not the Instagram version.

Recently ended up in A&E with suspected appendicitis. They planned on admitting me but after several hours in a&e having IV fluids, antibiotics, blood tests, CT scan, they were happy to send me home with two courses of very strong antibiotics. I had what they called a grumbling appendix that was grumbling but not severe enough to need surgery or further IV antibiotics.

They discharged me with a weeks course of cephalexin and metrodizanole antibiotics and advised me to come straight back for admission if I felt no better or became worse.

I stayed off work for a couple of weeks as I felt really rubbish with it and the antibiotics caused pretty bad diarrhoea too. I went back to work not feeling 100% but better than I was.

Fast forward a couple of weeks after returning and I found out my managers didn’t believe I’d been in a&e with suspected appendicitis. They believed I was off due to mental health.

I have a history of mental health problems (depression, complex ptsd) which resulted in significant time off but despite all that, I got better, I’m still here. The last time I was off, it was a stomach bug which I realise now was related to grumbling appendix. The first question my head boss asked was “were you off with your mental health issues?”.

I’m getting fed up with them assuming any absence is mental health related and now finding out about they don’t believe me has really upset me.

I'm ready to be judged like shit, and I don't care.

Background:

1988-2000: Immigrated to Canada. My parents are true grinders and built a great life for me.

2000–2011: My family moved back to China, and I graduated from one of the top colleges there.

2011–2019: I moved back to Canada and built a career. I'm 31, living in Canada with my stay-at-home wife and our two toddlers. I'm making around $180K a year. Then COVID hits. I get laid off, but I've saved around $400K.

My parents suggest that we move back to China and see how things go.

2020–2024: COVID lockdowns in China are brutal. My wife starts working full-time in a different city, leaving me to take care of the kids. I work remotely and make around $60K a year, enough to cover our basic expenses.

It's extremely stressful. I start cheating on my wife with escorts.

2025–2026: I'm 37. My wife finds out I've been cheating and wants a divorce and custody of the kids. I give her all my savings and promise I'll change.

I don't.

I'm not making enough money, so I decide to work for my father. He runs a "successful" real estate development company and is thrilled that I'm finally ready to "take over."

After working there for a year and going through the numbers, my projections show that the company will go bankrupt in two years. I'm fairly confident in my calculations.

My father doesn't believe me.

Now I'm stressed as shit. For myself, and for the 400 employees working for us. I know what it's like to get laid off.

So here I am.

I'm working full-time while raising two kids with some part-time help. My wife works in another city and is only home about seven days a month.

I still cheat on her with escorts.

I'm stressed and lonely almost every day. I'm basically an expat and don't have the time or actually friends to connect with.

Then my body starts breaking down.

A tumor grew in my head and I had it removed this year. I get tired easily now, but I still work 10–12 hours a day.

I love my wife. I wish she were here with me every day.

I love my kids, and they love me too. To them, I probably look like a model father. I go to all their school events. I read to them every night. I take them on summer vacations. I'm always there for them.

But I don't know how I'm supposed to face them someday, when they find out their dad was a broke, cheating mess who couldn't get his shit together.

Fuck me.

I am so stressed Idk why I am having chest pain

I often find myself making decisions based on what people around me want , rather than what I myself want , I want to make others happy but I often do it at the expense of my own thoughts and feelings what do I do , any help ?

What is the best thing i can do to calm my angry issue?

We’ve been noticing how easy it is for stress to build up during busy days, even when everything seems normal on the outside

Curious what small things help you create a little space for yourself after a stressful day

it could be a routine, a quiet moment, a hobby, going outside, or anything else that helps you slow down

What has actually worked for you?