u/Glittering-Fault-278

Hi everyone, I’m sitting here with my chest feeling tight because I’ve been sitting on this for a few days. There’s been a lot of red flags in my relationship the past 3-4 weeks and it’s making me very anxious.

We’ve been together for almost a year, we live together already and have had many disagreements but we agreed to work on it and make our relationship work

Last weekend I woke up around 4 in the morning to hearing a TikTok audio replaying over and over again on my boyfriends phone, I wanted to go through it but he turned my way once I grabbed his phone so I quickly shut it off. He stayed asleep but my curiosity got the best of me. I couldn’t go through his phone since he changed his password (🚩) so I went through his Notification Center. Nothing interesting, until I kept scrolling and say a CVS notification saying his DOXY is ready for pick up…. I work in the medical field so I’m aware of medications and their uses and this threw me off badly. I took a photo of it just to have as proof I guess.

I got even more curious because I noticed he had 0 notifications from any of his social medias on his Notification Center (🚩). I decided to send him a snap and Instagram message and they didn’t pop up, indicating he has those notifications off..

About 3 days ago he went to see his friend who lives an hour away, he came back home with white stuff on his shirt (I’m not joking at all🚩). I don’t remember if it was there before he left and it kinda looks like the stuff that gets left on clothes when you use too much detergent, but at the same time it looked like bodily fluids.. unsure, I asked him he said he doesn’t know what it is

Some more red flags that previously happened, about 2 weeks ago he left in the middle of the night, leaving his phone at our apartment to go to his dad’s. He said he left it because he didn’t want me questioning him and stuff about him being at his dad’s so late(🚩). I don’t care about him being at his dads late, I can see his location because we have Life360 but him going extreme lengths to make sure I couldn’t see his location(🚩) threw me off insanely bad.

So now I’m sitting here, a pit in my stomach, wondering why is he on doxycycline which is commonly used for STI’s/STD’s or acne. When I have a feeling it’s not for acne, I forgot to mention but he went to the doctors before getting that RX and he was only there for 10-20 minutes, the length of a typical private area test. Ask me how I know (reoccurring yeast infections I’m sorry for the TMI).

Idk, I do wanna jump straight to the he’s cheating thing but I don’t know, I want to talk to him about it. I don’t know how to even approach a conversation about all this but most importantly the prescription, how would any of you approach this situation?

I want to keep it short and simple but of course with plenty detail. I (F) and my boyfriend had a situation where our relationship just got really hard and he broke up with me one night. It wasn’t anyone’s fault, we both just weren’t happy and things weren’t working for us. I don’t remember which night because we were broken up for 4-5 days but I’ll just say the first for this, I had called someone who used to like me. My partner knows about this person and he actually was a problem when we first got together, he tried to get back in contact after a year of not speaking, kept calling me, texting me from random numbers etc. I blocked him of course on everything whenever he reached out because I wasn’t interested. Well that night I had messaged him on Instagram asking did he want to still speak and we ended up talking on the phone for about an hour, nothing came about the convo, we just had mini updates, I wasn’t as talkative (very upset and hurt about my breakup) and we made it known that this conversation was more like a rebound in a way, not sexual but in a “I’m just talking to you because I’m lonely” kinda thing.

He ended up messaging me like the next day, I didn’t text him back for a while, kept it extremely short and vague. I was trying to get back with my ex. I never met up with this boy, i ended up blocking him 3-4 days later because me and my boyfriend got back together and I haven’t heard from him since.

Now im just a little worried and i feel bad that i even reached out to somebody for comfort. I know it isn’t cheating because we were broken up and that was the first time i ever reached out to anybody (we’ve broken up before and I knew we’d get back together but this time i thought it was truly over).

I really feel like I cheated even though technically speaking we were broken up and thought it was done for good, he was telling me to move out I said the same, I was apartment hunting and everything.

I’m even more worried he’ll think I was disloyal by doing that. I wasn’t over him in the moment. I was crying, eyes puffy and needed to talk to someone for comfort, I didn’t eat for days when we broke up and I just needed to feel something. I only spoke to this guy on the phone once, and we only messaged (no more than 10 messages all together) the day after than and nothing since.

By the way me and my boyfriend are back together as mentioned and apologies were said and everything is all good

Please give me your thoughts as I’m stumped, feel bad, and worried.