i didn’t expect this from my mom
so my mom told me not to touch the achaar (pickle) bottle when I’m on my periods because it would “get spoiled”…it turned into this huge argument that really hurt me. what upset me more is that she’s usually progressive so hearing something like this from her felt strange. i’ve always been disturbed seeing girls being told not to enter kitchens or wear certain clothes and now my own mom said this.
while arguing, i even told her that if you don’t want me near a pooja or something, then fine, i can respect that much but being treated like i’ll spoil things (that too achaar man???) just because i’m on my period feels awful.
then she was like back in the day, when pickles used to be made and dried (?) in houses..girls on their periods weren’t even supposed to let their shadow fall near them because people believed the achaar would get ruined🥲🥲🥲🥲
the conversation spiralled into dowry cases and how women these days and her own daughter argue too much or talk too much (zubaan ladana basically)..people not wanting kids anymore and just wanting dogs and how that’s somehow selfish or wrong..then came the usual comparison about how she managed an entire household, a job, responsibilities, everything but just because someone else can’t handle things the same way you did all your life doesn’t make them weak or wrong.
the worst part is that i love my mom so much..she’s been there for me and has been the only constant in my life…but when conversations like these happen, i genuinely don’t know how much i can trust or rely on her emotionally :/