I would say that I can afford starting a family, not the most well off around, at around 70-80k na sahod. That said, I do not live in Manila, work online and have already started a mortgage. It's cheaper here in this part of the Philippines and my standard of living is not high and I can choose to not spend in any more luho.
How much would it be for you?
Drones are small, agile, fly low, and are easily mass-produced. I would think that we wouldn't need Mechs to get close to them. Just spam them with drones, then they should be done. By flying low, drones shouldn't be shot down so easily.
Not to mention modern AI? With AI, drones can identify which is which, no need for hands-on human input. No human input has already been done in Ukraine.
Thoughts?
When satellites first look down on earth for photograph, did they ever discover new islands? Or is every island to that point already discovered?
So I have this close friend of mine, matagal kami na kilala, pero ngayon lang talaga kami naging close. Different meaning nang "close" nang mga tao, pero siya mismo nagsabi na ako pinaka close guy friend niya. Anyways, she's getting scared sa friendship namin, kasi we are getting close as in talaga. She's says that she's scared of our situation, but not scared of me daw.
We hang outs more often na, she confides a lot, and she cares sa small details medyo. Like may volunteer work kami, hindi pa kumain, nagtanong kumain ka na ba ganun. DId you had a drink? I have female friends na hindi ganyan, na feel ko na different siya. Pero being friendly lang naman yun I think.
I think she had a really bad break up a few years back, so she's being careful with guy friends I guess that it could turn out to be more and she'll experience it all over again?
She values the friendship that we have. She likes that she can really trust me, share to me her thoughts without being judged, and having a guy's perspective.
I think the question now is, since she's scared of the situation, not me naman, pero I think layuan ko parin siya? Ayaw ko naman nang babae na takot makipag friend sa akin. Parang kawawa naman siya. She says she likes the friendship, so backing off would ruin it, but that's better than her being scared I guess?
Edit: I did tell her that she can say NO whenever. Whenever she's scared of me or the situation, she can voice it out so that I'll know. Better I know than hitting it suddenly. I told her it's okay to confront me too.
Not necessarily just for mental health, but just spaces to hang out that are men exclusive. It used to be that men exclusive clubs are common, like talking about politice, current life issues, philosophies, and stuff. Not to purposely exclude women, but just a space for men to cultivate our specific traits.
Are you open to that idea? Or do you think that's kinda sexist.
Not necessarily just for mental health, but just spaces to hang out that are men exclusive. It used to be that men exclusive clubs are common, like talking about politice, current life issues, philosophies, and stuff. Not to purposely exclude women, but just a space for men to cultivate our specific traits.
Are you open to that idea? Or do you think that's kinda sexist.
So may nakikitang akong post, not always, but sometimes, nagrereklamo about kulang sa updates. Sabi naman daw mabait and consistent, pero hindi nagupupdate.
Pero tanong ko lang, why do we always desire for consistent update? Kasi, noong unang panahon, men used to go out weeks on a hunt or wars then write letters to home. Yes, circumstances lang talaga, that's just how it is, they get worried, but not anxious. Now, but parang deal breaker na.
I feel like, social media in general, have rewired our brains into liking the dopamine rush of notifications. Every time mag light up phone mo, feel agad nang utak mo na may reward incoming. It's an instant gratification machine. Companies have designed their social media platforms, even chats, to cater our brain's reward system.
I'm not disregarding your need for updates. What I'm saying is how do you balance in your perspective whether this need for an update is an actual need versus your brain just wanting a dopamine rush and masking itself as need?
If the guy has genuine character, consistent, pero hindi ma chat. Which ones holds more weight? If someone is really making headway in dates, which is real life interaction, but barely speaks in chat, what does that speak of their character?
And no, I am not saying not to ask for updates either. But where and how do you strike the balance?
Sa toto lang, the talking stage doesn't make sense for me. Gets ko na where it should be going, pero parang kulang na kulang sa label. For me, important yung label para sa akin. I'll start with romantic intention no, if she says friends muna tayo, I would prefer that kaysa sa talking stage muna tayo.
Gets ko na talking stage kasi baka hindi compatible from the get go like in dating apps. Pero kung may possibility, I would really like to cut off short yung talking stage and start as friends muna. Friendships, meron kang commitment, and yes, some friendships are deeper than others, pero at least may label.
Also, sa talking stage, parang you're putting up a good persona, not being your real self. Sa friendships, both parties are at least slowly easing in. May pace na trust is slowly earned, so mas less ang romantic anxiety.
Yes, may possibility na ma friendzone, pero at least it's more purposeful kaysa sa talking stage.
These are just some of my thoughts. Kasi yung mga nagustuhan ko past few years, were always friend or friend of a friend.
I've known her for a while, but its only recently we got close, the start of the year. These days, we keep engaging in eye contact? When I do a sound check, she would look at me, then I notice her gaze, she would then nod then back to whatever she was doing. Happens a couple of times, whenever I look at her direction, being busy or not, she sometimes notice and she would then either smile, nod, a hi gesture, or nod.
Even when I am not specifically looking at her, she makes sure I notice her with a head movement, and she nods again. Also, we also make gesture conversations across the room. Like "join in this conversation group" but I gestured too busy.
She also asked me to help her move her things to a new place and treated me dinner. Also, when I happen to mention me needing some house plants, and she being a fan of plants as well, she gifted me some. When I mentioned coffee, she would recommend some.
She would also ask me purchase decisions? Like things to buy for her new place and what not. Even sent pics of her new room. Frequently confides in me too, and sometimes her finances? I sometimes told her to have a filter sometimes. She also doesnt mind when I confide to her, doesnt judge at all.
Am I her safe place or is there something more? I grew to like her, and will ask her out. Just asking if I have a chance of simply a bestfriend.
Na discover ko recently na malala pala yung teasing and flirting ko. The more closer ako sa babae, napapalala yung teasing ko.
Yung one time, may isa nagpalpitate siya konti dahil sa coffee. Sabi ko naman "Baka kinabahan ka dahil sa akin." Natawa naman siya and I think she didnt mind it. Nakailan na ako nagawa neto, natatawa naman, pero not sure sa long term consequences neto.
May serious conversations naman ako, pero at some point, lumalabas nga talaga. Another time may nakawan sa amin, na mention to each other ano strategies namin para matago nang valuables. Sabi ko na "wag ka punta sa amin, alam mo na saan nakatago" Sabi niya hindi naman siya magnanakaw, then sabi ko maynanakaw na siya, sabi niya ano? Then nag send ako nang heart emoji 😅.
Ma bad shot ba ako neto or dont mind kayo? I'm not saying I should stop being me, pero drawing bounderies lang ba.
So there's this very close female friend of mine that I am fond of. We've just gotten close these past few months, for some reason a bit too quick compared to my previous friendship closeness experiences.
At first, in a crowd, while I was drinking water, pretending not to see her, she stops, really makes that head tilt that makes it obvious to me that she is looking my way, we make eye contact, then gives that confident smile. Not at all nervous, then goes her way.
The second time, in a crowd again, I was looking for someone specific, too busy. Then I glanced her direction, then she once again makes that head movement to really catch my attention, we make eye contact, she smiles, I can't see her specific facial expression if it's a coyish smile or not, I have a bad eye sight. We exchange smiles like the other time, then I go my way.
Even with my other female friends, I have never seen anyone do like that. She's the closest friend I have now actually, confiding to me several times. Even sometimes mentioning what she purchased? Not really asking my opinion, just telling me.
So why does she do that?
I never flirt and tease this much to anyone ever. I had crushes before, but now, for some reason, I am currently in my most brazen state. Does that come with aging? I am in my mid twenties, so I guess I matured a bit?
If opportunity arises, I flirt and tease her a lot. Like that one time she made me homebrew coffee, and I told her she can make this coffee everyday for me. Naturally, she rolled her eyes off and playfully hit me.
I just love teasing her and guaging her reactions.
The cliche of finding her first among the crowd, hovering around her, my torso turning towards her, opening up to her a whole lot. Every body language cliche that's been mentioned, I've probably done that, except acting nervous.
Kinda amazing that she's not turned off by now. I know she's not turned off since we are really close. Well I guess she doesnt see me that way and is simply disregarding the obvious signs so perhaps that's why she's not putting a distance just yet.