How to go from VLC to NC?
Hello everyone,
First of all sorry for any typo's or grammatical errors, Englisch is not my first language.
Over the last 10 years I (30f) went from LC to VLC with my mother, due to neglect and abuse is suffered while growing up, everytime I visit her, she brings up very disturbing stuff she did to me as a child or young adult like it was a fun experience ( for example: how she used to ingnore me for 3 to 4 days when she was angry with me, or that she used to give me nipple twisters when I was not wearing a bra at home).
My siblings did not understand until very recently how serious her abuse of me was, they are much older than me ( 15, 13, 12, and 6 years older than me) and did not witness it because they went with my father after the divorce. The divorce was finalised when I was about 6 years old and only the choice of children 12 or older are taken in consideration when deciding custody.
Now to my questions, for those who went NC with a parent, AND had a conversation with the parent before hand, how did you bring it to them? What was the fallout? Would you recommend it? How do you deal with the guilt?
Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read and/or comment