u/Glum_Teacher1541

I am a 23 year old man I live in Georgia but am from the Bay Area. I dated a Woman for a majority of my high school life and we recently got back in touch. We broke up soon after we graduated in 2020. We have reconciled, I gave a sincere apology for my immature behavior when we were younger and she apologized as well. She said she was interested in being friends again. This was months ago. Since then, I have unfortunately caught feelings again.

We talk every few weeks, the conversations aren't short or dry she truly engages. Our most recent conversation was simple but very meaningful. I believe that we are genuinely building a rapport again and reestablishing emotional comfort. We have only talked on social media up to this point but was given the green light to text her on her number last week. I will be moving home by the end of this year and visiting in July.

The advice I'm seeking is about whether or not I need to tell her i have feelings again. On one hand i am more that okay with being friends for an extended period of time to regain her trust. On the other it feels like I'm being deceitful because i now have different intentions than when i originally reached out. There's also the fact that we live far away from each other for the time being and how do you even build a relationship that way. There's also the fact that I'm always the one that initiates conversation, but i kind of see that as her being safe because i am the one who hurt her. Yea id love some advice.

I am also worried that it may be too emotionally heavy if i just tell her my intentions. There's warmth and a comfort in our conversations but i dont want to overwhelm her.

TLDR: I am back in contact with my long time ex. She said she wanted to be friends a few months ago. I caught feelings again. Am I being deceitful by continuing the friendship knowing that my intentions are different than when we began?

I am a 23 year old man I live in Georgia but am from the Bay Area. I dated a Woman for a majority of my high school life and we recently got back in touch. We broke up soon after we graduated in 2020. We have reconciled, I gave a sincere apology for my immature behavior when we were younger and she apologized as well. She said she was interested in being friends again. This was months ago. Since then, I have unfortunately caught feelings again.

We talk every few weeks, the conversations aren't short or dry she truly engages. Our most recent conversation was simple but very meaningful. I believe that we are genuinely building a rapport again and reestablishing emotional comfort. We have only talked on social media up to this point but was given the green light to text her on her number last week. I will be moving home by the end of this year and visiting in July.

The advice I'm seeking is about whether or not I need to tell her i have feelings again. On one hand i am more that okay with being friends for an extended period of time to regain her trust. On the other it feels like I'm being deceitful because i now have different intentions than when i originally reached out. There's also the fact that we live far away from each other for the time being and how do you even build a relationship that way. There's also the fact that I'm always the one that initiates conversation, but i kind of see that as her being safe because i am the one who hurt her. Yea id love some advice.

TLDR: I am back in contact with my long time ex. She said she wanted to be friends a few months ago. I caught feelings again. Am I being deceitful by continuing the friendship knowing that my intentions are different than when we began?

I am a 23 year old man I live in Georgia but am from the Bay Area. I dated a Woman for a majority of my high school life and we recently got back in touch. We broke up soon after we graduated in 2020. We have reconciled, I gave a sincere apology for my immature behavior when we were younger and she apologized as well. She said she was interested in being friends again. This was months ago. Since then, I have unfortunately caught feelings again. We talk every few weeks, the conversations aren't short or dry she truly engages. Our most recent conversation was simple but very meaningful. I believe that we are genuinely building a rapport again and reestablishing emotional comfort. We have only talked on social media up to this point but was given the green light to text her on her number last week. I will be moving home by the end of this year and visiting in July. The advice I'm seeking is about whether or not I need to tell her i have feelings again. On one hand i am more that okay with being friends for an extended period of time to regain her trust. On the other it feels like I'm being deceitful because i now have different intentions than when i originally reached out. There's also the fact that we live far away from each other for the time being and how do you even build a relationship that way. There's also the fact that I'm always the one that initiates conversation, but i kind of see that as her being safe because i am the one who hurt her. Yea id love some advice.

TLDR: I am back in contact with my long time ex. She said she wanted to be friends a few months ago. I caught feelings again. Am I being deceitful by continuing the friendship knowing that my intentions are different than when we began?