Update on the “Does your partner give you all the time in the world or does he give you a specific date when he will text you?”
So I {18F} and my so called partner {22M} talked about the situation and this is what he told me.
Him:
As for my side of the story, I really needed a good bit of time to step back. It wasn’t just for my studies or for work, but I needed mental space. Coping with the ashes of one relationship, and the trials and tribulations, and turbulence, of ours, at the same time, it’s a lot emotionally for me to handle. I want more than anything to give you the entire world, everything you could ever need, and make all of our dreams come true. When I said I couldn’t make any commitments, it’s because I don’t have the mental strength to provide a new relationship everything it needs to be stable, or healthy, at the moment. Everything was fine when we first started out, because I had an emotional anchor. I had something to keep me grounded and happy in the moment. Ever since I found out she cheated on me, I’ve been fighting war after war inside of my head. I took it out on her, day after day, after day. Remember.? You saw all of those chats. But looking back on that, it didn’t help. Revenge didn’t help. Being mad didn’t help. I’m still shaken up and not whole yet. I remember reading your chats with the guy you talked to, who said, why would it take someone this long to get over it. The thing is. The relationship was a long time, my entire soul was devoted to it even though it was destroying me slowly. I gave it 100% of my effort. But that one moment destroyed my soul. Every year of my life being a waste with it, every year being fruitless. Knowing that, knowing I can’t get my time back, knowing I’m already grown up, knowing that I could’ve done so much more with my life. It’s a lot of regret to deal with. A lot of anger to control. A lot of depression to cope with. I’m in the process of healing. I’ve wanted more than ever to have you as my emotional anchor, the thing that grounds me and brings me back to earth. The person who makes me whole. But so much that has happened between us only pushed us both apart from each other. I’ve been divided, scared, confused. I’m blind, and I don’t have a cane. None of the things that happened between us during this relationship, was ever your fault. In fact, I think the blame belongs to both of us, and there are a lot of lessons to be learned from it. A lot of ways we both could’ve done better. I know for a fact you gave it your all, I can’t be more grateful, I can’t be more appreciative. Honestly? Thank you for everything you’ve ever done for me. I hope this helped to explain my side of things. Let me know what you think and how you wanna go about it from here honey. Just know I do love you, I want to find a way. It’s just… it’s hard for me. I know you have a lot more experience with break ups than I do. If anything, you’re probably the best person to come to and seek solace with. I love you dear.
And he said that he would give me check ups every now and then but he’s only done it once, ever since then I’ve been expressing how much it is effecting me and he is now brushing me off but being proud of me?? I just found about this when we had that deep talk. So I’m sorry for not bringing it up earlier to you guys I appreciate all of the comments you guys have left it’s really been helping me out throughout what ever I’m going through.
Let me know what I should do in this situation.