u/Gokart80

Hey everyone, I'm a 17yo guy from Germany. I can speak German, English, and Turkish, and I really want to learn Finnish. It's my dream to go to Lapland and work there over the winter. I heard I don't actually need Finnish for the job, but I'd like to learn it as an extra so I can communicate with the locals. I wanted to use Duolingo, but I've read that it's not the best way to actually learn a language. What are your tips for learning Finnish? I'd prefer not to get an online tutor or pay a lot of money. Thanks in advance :)

Hey everyone, I really need some outside perspective on this because it’s honestly driving me crazy trying to understand.
Back in middle school (from like 5th to 7th or 8th grade), I had a female best friend. We were super close, basically inseparable. Around 8th grade, she started hanging out with someone I absolutely couldn't stand. I told her how I felt, got super pissed, and let my ego and pride completely ruin the friendship. Looking back, I completely regret how I acted. I was 100% the problem here, no debate. If I were an outsider looking at how I treated her, I would’ve told her to ghost me too.
Around 10th grade, she actually reached out to talk things over. I happened to be at the airport flying to Turkey at that exact moment, so I asked if I could text her that evening. I did, but she didn't reply for a bit, and eventually told me she didn't think being friends again would be good for her mental health.
We actually tried rekindling things a bit later anyway, and for a short time, it worked. I was so genuinely happy to just have her back in my life because I care about her a lot. But after a while, she started fading out. She’d just view my Snaps without replying, completely ignored me when I wished her a happy birthday, and eventually unfriended and blocked me on Snap and TikTok out of nowhere, without any fight or explanation.
I completely respect her boundaries and her choice to protect her peace, but I still miss her a lot.
But here is the part that makes zero sense to me: She never unfollowed or blocked me on Instagram. Not only that, but I am still on her Close Friends list. She posts private stories every now and then (like her New Year's outfit, a stadium story from a football game, etc.). I know for a fact she hasn't just "forgotten" I'm there, because I always view them and I’ve liked multiple Close Friends stories, so she sees my name right there at the top.
It just feels like a massive contradiction. She told me the contact wasn't good for her and cut me off everywhere else, but she actively chooses to let me look into her private life on Insta.
I’m not complaining at all—seeing her stories gives me a small spark of hope, even if that's probably foolish. But why cut someone off completely but actively keep them on your Close Friends list? Does she hate me, or is this something else?
Would love to hear what you guys think. Thanks.