Mother-in-law moving in
Rant! But any advice on this living arrangement is welcome!!!
My husband(38) and I(32) just purchased a house in his mother’s(68) town. It’s large, more space than we require for our family. Since my Father-in-law’s passing three years ago her loneliness and depression has gotten unbearable. We offered to have her move in and turn the walk out basement into her home. She is selling her home and paying for remodeling the downstairs into her apartment with future needs (handicap accessible).
She just told my husband’s siblings and it is not landing well they are not happy for her or us. My brother in law is especially upset. Now when his family goes to see her we “will always be there” taking away from grandma time. I know he is jealous of the whole situation but he goes to see her maybe twice a year, she is always driving to their town to share in events and such. At one point he suggested that she move closer to us, not him…. He actually asked her if she is paying our mortgage. She is solely paying for her remodeling and a third of the utilities.
She is upset now because she was hoping for a nicer reaction. I’m just annoyed and not surprised with them but that’s nothing new, they treat her like trash, constantly guilting her into things that she doesn’t want to do.
This is a new journey for us, we love each-other and get along. I know there will be challenges, especially as her health declines (cancer and refused treatment). But what could have made this transition easier for her is if they kept their vindictive opinions to themselves instead of making her feel like shit.