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I (18f) grew up with my mother and only her. My dad walked out and he came in and out of my life often. My mother since growing up has used physical abuse as punishing when I would do normal child mistakes- my mother got pregnant with my two siblings when she was 15 and never got to go to school or any of that she has no job and relies heavily on the government . Growing up I normalized all of the abuse and I always said to myself she doesn’t know better. But that was until this year.
I have 3 jobs and I’m top of my class going into a prestigious university, I’m not a bad kid. I don’t even go out with friends. But I got a boyfriend, and I tried my best to make her get along with him or even try- even if it’s just a teenage relationship I still wanted her to try, and she showed me she couldn’t change. She would slut shame me everyday threaten me to tell his parents and school stuff about me and overall continue the abusive behaviour. I was trying to be understanding until she hit me so hard it left a huge scar. I went to school and the teachers reported it and next thing you know I’m telling Cps The truth about my whole life and they are giving me funds to move out.
A week ago I left my mother behind, I tried to say goodbye and she wouldn’t say anything. A few days before I left we got into an argument and I yelled harsh things and she started crying and she also said how now that she won’t get benefits or funds from me she will be homeless or extremely poor (my two siblings support her too but I was the biggest money maker for her from the government) and she said she’s fallen back into depression and wants to kill herself. I felt extremely guilty and horrible. But I know that I shouldn’t. I moved out and haven’t looked back and she even stated that even if I regret it and come crawling back- she wouldn’t accept me. I have her email since I was the one who sent all her emails and did stuff and before I logged out I saw she has a prescription for a number of depression medicine as well as therapy appointments, she told all family friends she does not want to hear or see from me in any way.
I feel alone and guilty, I’m still with the boyfriend by the way but even though she doesn’t understand, this was never about him but instead of the abuse that never grew or changed.
My teachers are my biggest supporters right now and they are even giving me gently used clothes or groceries and are sweethearts. I’m still doing really well with work, school and all of it. I even run charity events when I’m the one who also really needs charity. But I often miss her and I saw a picture of her and she looked awful. Dead in Real life, all her friends say the same. I feel a huge heavy feeling of guilt.

I was crying loudly and having a meltdown and I’m kinda embarrassed lol I can sometimes hear footsteps from upstairs and heard the guy yelling but that was quite it

Me (20f) and my partner (20m) of 2 years went last night to a wedding of a old friend of his, I was very excited and anxious because lots of former classmates from our high school was going to be there and I was excited to see some friends but nervous to see people as I wasn’t really popular in high school. I got excited and ready because after all it was a wedding with cool music and food! And I wore a beautiful dress and when he picked me up he looked like a mess. He was genuinely just wearing a wrinkled suit shirt with stains and it was untucked and with dirty sneakers and dress pants (the dress pants were the only thing that fit dress code I guess) and even then I was the only one who complimented him first, he just said “you look good” not to be cocky but this was one of those days where I swore I looked my best I’ve looked in a while so beautiful or gorgeous would’ve sufficed. But anyway we get there and he immediately starts complaining that there’s no open bar or anything and he can’t be around these people sober (he barely ever drinks so this was weird) and he kept complaining and complaining about how long the ride was and about the randomest things- not only to me but to everyone at the table who he then just made feel awkward and annoyed. I was wanting to dance after the bride and groom did their first dance and all and everyone went on the dance floor and he tried for a second and just cringed out. He then made us leave as soon as he noticed people could be able to leave, which whatever I was tired but he made the whole night about himself- and you know what while he was doing all his bickering he said how it was also due to seeing his old buddies he had a huge falling out with having a blast at the wedding (the groom was closer to them as well) and he felt embarrassed considering the groom left him to go be with them and he was alone half of the time (with me though), and so on. I kind of looked at those guys and thought “they look so fun” or “why can’t he just be positive for once” and I also kind of just cringed at the thought that everyone else caught on to this party pooper energy.. he’s going through stuff so I feel guilty to be this type of girlfriend and I get being around certain people can do this. But he’s ALWAYS negative and it’s really sad but I don’t want him to be like this at our wedding if there ever were one.. Yikes
Edit: forgot to mention but while he was busy whining I was chatting with this guy who was a friend of a friend and he was so funny and sweet I was genuinely thinking to myself why can’t my
Partner this way as he once used to be; then I felt like the monster. But this sweet guy made my night and he asked this lonely girl out to dance and I thought it was a gentleman move

UPDATE!!!!

WOW thank you so much guys! I never thought I’d get so much attention on this. I broke up with him this morning when he slept over and I made breakfast from the niceness of my heart and read these comments when I felt like his mother… not even a thank you for making breakfast. He’s a mess, he throws my blankets and expensive duvet on the floor when he rolls around so safe to say watching him be messy in my much neat house was enough for me to add all these things up and have the talk with him. He just said to me I wasn’t ready for a relationship- hell maybe that’s true but if I’m not he isn’t even CLOSE to being. He left hours ago and took his few things he had. Thanks everyone much love to you all!

So, I recently moved into my basement Apartment alone and I’m a pretty fearing person. I avoid watching any creepy stuff now that I live alone, last night I kept hearing a creaking noise which was obviously coming from the upstairs neighbours and I even checked all my rooms and confirmed it when I heard my neighbours loudly laughing. I go to sleep, think I wake up and try to move… next thing you know I’m in a sleep paralysis moment and that creaking noise was a monster/shadow person that opens my room door and comes towards me and says “nobody is here to save you” and some other creepy stuff. I recently cut ties with my family and my mother used to be the one I’d call to and yell to help me, so it felt like I really was going to die. Then I kept trying to move and move and felt out of breath and after what felt like forever I woke up. Safe to say I didn’t sleep that night and I am sleep deprived at work. I’m very used to having these sleep paralysis and I’ve had them a lot more frequent but it’s been really rare now. But now that I live alone it’s a different sort of fear.

Me(19F) and my partner (19M) have been together with eachother for around over a year and more now, we have always been really
Open and loyal to eachother about showing eachothers stuff and we don’t usually go through stuff but if we did it would be okay. We broke up a few months ago a few times and had a rough patch but obviously got back together within a week or so and everything has felt good, not perfect but good. My partner is dealing with mental health issues and he told me how much he wastes away his life on his phone so he decided to delete social media like TikTok/Instagram since it’s full of slop and he tends to really procrastinate (I notice this) However, he decided to keep Instagram on his computer and says it helps him check it less. Since we broke up a few months ago neither of us put back profile pictures or posts of eachother (no particular reason tbh I just haven’t.) and it makes me suspicious. Why have Instagram on computer but not on phone? He still actively checks it? What’s the point. We follow eachother and stuff but I haven’t see him follow anyone new or anyone suspicious. I noticed we went to sleep the other day and his phone was left in the living room where we were last talking before we went to bed, so I checked it. There was nothing, but I find it so odd it even was in the living room but perhaps if he was hiding something he would’ve wanted to keep it close, instead in the living room where we last where before going to watch movies in my room show how much he doesn’t need his phone. He goes hours without it and seems to be fine without it so maybe it’s helping him. But I can’t help but feel like there’s something weird. I checked his phone when it was in the living room (I felt guilty I know) I didn’t find anything at all I went through 3 apps and there wasn’t anything. I don’t know, I just feel like he’s been a bit distant but he’s also had alot on his mind. BUT Here’s a key note \\\*\\\*he’s really worried and suspicious about me and has been wanting to check my dms and stuff\\\*\\\* which makes me beyond even more suspicious of where his conscious is.