u/Grouchy-Bumblebee605

Not sure if anyone will know who I’m talking about, but I know we talked about this family on this sub once before.
A few days ago, one of John Carver’s sons took his own life. I hadn’t thought about this family in a while, but seeing that brought me back down the rabbit hole and I was honestly shocked to see that the father is still doing the same thing he was doing years ago.
For some background, they had 6 kids, all adopted from Russia and homeschooled, and they’re all adults now. Their daughter Juliana fought cancer from age 5-13 and passed away in 2015. Her father documented basically her entire cancer journey on Facebook and YouTube in great detail. There were always really strange vibes from him and the family in general, and the amount of extremely vulnerable stuff he posted was exploitative. There seemed to be a lot going on with the other kids during those years too. It always felt off.
One of them ran away multiple times as a teenager and the dad would post all about it on Facebook. I believe at least one of the kids is estranged from them now, they have custody of one of their grandchildren. One of the daughters had a very noticeable jaw issue that went untreated for years. There was definite favoritism towards Juliana and when she passed it seems like they just didn’t care about the rest of their children’s wellbeing.

Did anyone follow them back in the day? I’m curious if anyone else saw the news about their son.

I have a 2 year old who recently started in my class. The parents boasted about her never crying and being so easy like it was a good thing but I honestly think it’s a bit concerning, on top of other delays I’m observing in this child. She does not have many words, mostly echos and repeats what she hears other kids or adults say. The first time she was dropped off she did not cry, and in the eight weeks since she’s started I’ve never seen her cry. She does not react to pain. She fell backwards off a chair and hit her head, and did not react. Another time, she fell outside and scraped her hand, and it was bleeding. Again no reaction. Curious how you would approach the parents about this because I feel like she would definitely benefit from an evaluation.

We made French toast today and it one of my kids started breaking out in a rash. We called the parents immediately and they say “oh yeah, he’s been allergic to eggs since he was six months old. He has an epi-pen at home.” 🫪. No where in any of his documents, health information forms or where the form we specifically ask for allergy information does it say that. Parent was pissed off at us that we fed him eggs, but we specifically ask on a form they’re given when they first enroll for allergy information because foods we feed MAY CONTAIN EGGS AND DAIRY.
I’m so thankful it was only a minor skin reaction. They said they didn’t put it on the sheet because they wanted to wait until allergy testing was done to confirm it and forgot to tell us 🤦‍♀️

My co-parent has been taking the kids on her partners boat. Which is absolutely fine. However she posts a ton pictures and videos and they never ever have life jackets on the kids. Even when the boat is moving at high speed. I’ve googled and life jackets are legally required for kids under 13.

We have very little communication other than strictly scheduling coordination. If I bring it up to her she will make it a big deal that I’m causing issues, controlling her parenting and stalking her social media, which I’m not, we still follow each other on Facebook so I’m going to see it anyway. I’ve thought about just buying life jackets for them and having them bring them next time they go but that won’t end well either. So I guess I’m at a loss, and just hope for the best? I don’t know.

I’ve had two abortions in the last four years…about to have my third (I’m getting my tubes tied after so this stops happening). I do not want a biological child as I have a genetic condition that has a 50% chance of passing down, and don’t want to risk that. I did want these babies, and do want children through maybe adoption or egg donor in the future. But I also don’t feel any sense of loss from them. When I see people posting about being devastated from a miscarriage or holding and naming and having funerals for their stillborn fetus, I just get really triggered and angry/annoyed for some reason that they make it like a big deal. I don’t know why and I feel bad I feel that way, but I just do. Does anyone else feel that too? I want to bring it up with my therapist but I don’t want to be judged.

My center has a very strict no outside food policy that extends to staff as well because they want us to model eating what the kids eat, and also because our break area is also an area where children go, so they are concerned about allergy exposure. If we have any outside food we have to eat in outside or in our car. I don’t like most of the food they serve…it’s almost inedible, (and I’m not usually a picky eater) I sometimes bring a sandwich and eat it in my car, but can’t do that in the summer or winter because I don’t want to waste gas to use the heat/air conditioning. So most days I just don’t eat all day, and end up with a huge headache and dizzy by the end of the day. I understand the need for the policy but it’s frustrating sometimes.

Edit: this question got brought up a few times.
Our break room is in a room that is also used as a holding area for the kids for bus pickup/drop off during the morning and dismissal for the UPK. There’s no kids in there when breaks are going on. But yeah, it’s a weird concept, so I get why people are confused by that, and I’m also now researching the legalities of all of this in my state, so thanks for advice!