u/Grouchy-Bumblebee605

My co-parent has been taking the kids on her partners boat. Which is absolutely fine. However she posts a ton pictures and videos and they never ever have life jackets on the kids. Even when the boat is moving at high speed. I’ve googled and life jackets are legally required for kids under 13.

We have very little communication other than strictly scheduling coordination. If I bring it up to her she will make it a big deal that I’m causing issues, controlling her parenting and stalking her social media, which I’m not, we still follow each other on Facebook so I’m going to see it anyway. I’ve thought about just buying life jackets for them and having them bring them next time they go but that won’t end well either. So I guess I’m at a loss, and just hope for the best? I don’t know.

I’ve had two abortions in the last four years…about to have my third (I’m getting my tubes tied after so this stops happening). I do not want a biological child as I have a genetic condition that has a 50% chance of passing down, and don’t want to risk that. I did want these babies, and do want children through maybe adoption or egg donor in the future. But I also don’t feel any sense of loss from them. When I see people posting about being devastated from a miscarriage or holding and naming and having funerals for their stillborn fetus, I just get really triggered and angry/annoyed for some reason that they make it like a big deal. I don’t know why and I feel bad I feel that way, but I just do. Does anyone else feel that too? I want to bring it up with my therapist but I don’t want to be judged.

My center has a very strict no outside food policy that extends to staff as well because they want us to model eating what the kids eat, and also because our break area is also an area where children go, so they are concerned about allergy exposure. If we have any outside food we have to eat in outside or in our car. I don’t like most of the food they serve…it’s almost inedible, (and I’m not usually a picky eater) I sometimes bring a sandwich and eat it in my car, but can’t do that in the summer or winter because I don’t want to waste gas to use the heat/air conditioning. So most days I just don’t eat all day, and end up with a huge headache and dizzy by the end of the day. I understand the need for the policy but it’s frustrating sometimes.

Edit: this question got brought up a few times.
Our break room is in a room that is also used as a holding area for the kids for bus pickup/drop off during the morning and dismissal for the UPK. There’s no kids in there when breaks are going on. But yeah, it’s a weird concept, so I get why people are confused by that, and I’m also now researching the legalities of all of this in my state, so thanks for advice!