u/Grouchy_Finding_7801

I have a weird situation that I can't fully explain, and maybe someone here has felt the same.

There's a girl at my office. She's junior to me and works in a different department. I've liked her for a long time, but we've barely spoken—maybe 3 to 6 times in an entire year. Every time I get the chance to talk to her, my mind just freezes. I can talk confidently to almost anyone, but in front of her, I suddenly forget how to speak.

The strange part is that I don't even know if she has any idea that I like her.

For a long time, I kept imagining what it would be like to be with her. Sometimes I catch myself thinking about her way more than I should. But then there's another voice in my head that says, "Why are you doing this?"

It's not even about rejection. It's deeper than that.

That voice keeps telling me that if I can't truly make her happy, if I can't be the person she deserves, if I can't promise a future that lasts forever, then why should I let these feelings grow? Why should I involve her in emotions that I'm not even sure I understand myself?

And that's where I get confused.

Part of me wants to know her, spend time with her, maybe even build something real.

But another part of me wants to walk away before anything even starts.

It's like my heart is moving in one direction while my mind is pulling me back. I miss someone I've never really had, and at the same time I convince myself that I shouldn't even try.

I don't know if I'm scared of rejection, scared of commitment, scared of hurting someone, or just creating a fantasy around a person I barely know.

Has anyone else ever wanted someone so much, while simultaneously feeling like they shouldn't have them at all?

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Hi everyone,

I’m 26, working in an IT company in Noida. From the outside, life probably looks sorted - decent job, corporate lifestyle, weekend cafés, office parties, all that. But honestly, the reality feels very different.

I shifted to Noida almost 3 years ago for work. In the beginning, I thought life would slowly get better here. I imagined I’d make friends, build connections, maybe even find people who genuinely care. But somehow, every year started feeling more repetitive and empty.

My weekdays are mostly just waking up, traveling through traffic, sitting in front of a laptop for 9-10 hours, fake smiling in meetings, coming back exhausted, ordering food, scrolling endlessly on my phone, and sleeping. Then repeating the same thing again.

The strange part is - I’m surrounded by people every day, yet I’ve never felt this alone in my life.

Most office friendships disappear after work hours. Everyone already has their own circle, their own people, their own plans. Sometimes entire weekends pass without a single meaningful conversation. There are days when the only voice I hear after office is the Swiggy delivery guy saying, “Sir, order.”

A few months back, I realized something that honestly hurt me more than I expected - if I disappeared from this city for a week, maybe nobody would even notice.

I know a lot of people will say “go out more” or “join communities,” and maybe they’re right. But after a point, loneliness starts making you silent. You stop texting first. You stop expecting replies. You stop believing you’ll find “your people.”

Not posting this for sympathy honestly… maybe just wanted to say it somewhere because keeping everything inside gets heavy sometimes.

If anyone around Noida is also figuring life out, dealing with the same corporate loneliness, or just wants a genuine friendship, feel free to reach out. Would genuinely like to know I’m not the only one feeling this way. 😅

Hi everyone,

I’m 26, working in an IT company in Noida. From the outside, life probably looks sorted — decent job, corporate lifestyle, weekend cafés, office parties, all that. But honestly, the reality feels very different.

I shifted to Noida almost 3 years ago for work. In the beginning, I thought life would slowly get better here. I imagined I’d make friends, build connections, maybe even find people who genuinely care. But somehow, every year started feeling more repetitive and empty.

My weekdays are mostly just waking up, traveling through traffic, sitting in front of a laptop for 9–10 hours, fake smiling in meetings, coming back exhausted, ordering food, scrolling endlessly on my phone, and sleeping. Then repeating the same thing again.

The strange part is — I’m surrounded by people every day, yet I’ve never felt this alone in my life.

Most office friendships disappear after work hours. Everyone already has their own circle, their own people, their own plans. Sometimes entire weekends pass without a single meaningful conversation. There are days when the only voice I hear after office is the Swiggy delivery guy saying, “Sir, order.”

A few months back, I realized something that honestly hurt me more than I expected — if I disappeared from this city for a week, maybe nobody would even notice.

I know a lot of people will say “go out more” or “join communities,” and maybe they’re right. But after a point, loneliness starts making you silent. You stop texting first. You stop expecting replies. You stop believing you’ll find “your people.”

Not posting this for sympathy honestly… maybe just wanted to say it somewhere because keeping everything inside gets heavy sometimes.

If anyone around Noida/Gurgaon/Delhi is also figuring life out, dealing with the same corporate loneliness, or just wants a genuine friendship, feel free to reach out. I would genuinely like to know I’m not the only one feeling this way. 😅