u/GuiltySubject25

So we're a suspected OSDD 1B system with a lot of shared memories. Usually this shows in a way of feeling disconnected from them or them feeling fuzzy and not remembering details. We've never had the third person thing when someone else fronts but i just realised we kinda of do.

First of all, to understand this, y'all need to understand out peculiar way of storing memories. Basically, for me (i go by R) I'm always co conscious and when someone else is fronting, it feels like I'm the one experiencing what happens but not in control in a way. Sometimes i get blurry vision and other stuff like that sometimes i don't. What's different is my memory recall after. Even though it feels like i was there, i usually don't remember them properly or feel like i need to push through fog to access the memories.

With that being said, I've never had the 3rd person perspective thingy actively when someone else was fronting, but i just realised that in most memories in which our little was fronting, i remember almost everything I'm 3rd person, even if at the time, i didn't have the feeling of 3rd person while she was fronting.

I don't know if this makes sense or not, but have a good day <3

So I've considered myself asexual for a few years now because when i thought of sex, I felt disgusted or repulsed. Thing is, i never had a problem with this before being SAed.

I know there's other terms for it like sex repulsed or sexually aversive but can i still be considered asexual if it stems from trauma and being uncomfortable with it due to trauma?

Have a good day!

So I've been going through a stressful time and i split. Question is, i can't tell if it's just a fragment or an alter. He has fronted like twice and it's been a couple weeks. I'm gonna definitely wait it out but i wanted to have some differences in mind if anyone was willing to explain. Thank you <3

So I've suspected me (R) and the other host (D) have been fusing for some time because we've felt less separate for a while now but it was kind of slowly but surely. We've been feeling less and less separate and I'm not sure but i do think we're fusing.

I'm not sure what to think about it. I find it a positive thing but in a little frightened especially since i don't know if I'm ready to like... "not exist" anymore and i wonder how it's gonna be with only 1 host (we've had 2 hosts since we remember). Then again there might be the possibility to still have 2 hosts and have the old host now protector step up as host again and i don't know what to think about that either.

I'm also scared of the kind of... "loss of identity" of myself. I love my name so much and it took so long to figure out my gender and i don't know how fusing with D is gonna affect that. I'm aware this is a good thing but I'm a little nervous.

If any of you have had fusions before, how'd it go? Are my fears irrational or not? Thank you for reading and have a good day everyone <3

So i just wanna list some steriotype that a lot of people even in the queer community believe that i really think people should stop enforcing, normalising, or believing

- "non binary people have to be androgynous" . Non binary is literally not wanting to be put in a box yet at this point, it's just another, 3rd social box to put yourself in. Non binary people or people of any gender don't have a designed way to look. They can look how they want to which brings me to my next point

-"trans FTM femboys and trans MTF tomboys aren't valid or aren't actually trans" . People can express their gender and identity however they want. I know trans FTM femboys and they're handsome af. I don't see why there's this expectation that when you're trans you NEED to look like the opposite gender. I know it makes most people more comfortable and if that's what they want, they should go for it, but again, you don't have to look a certain way to be trans

- "you need to label yourself" . You really don't. You can just say you're queer and get it over with. This steriotype is not so much IN the community but outside sometimes. People don't need to label themselves if you don't want to

- "pronouns have to match gender." Most people with certain genders prefer the pronouns that are most expect with that identity but it doesn't mean everyone has to go by those pronouns. You can be a trans guy and go by she her or an agender dude who goes by he him. It's whatever makes them everyone comfortable, there's no point in making rules and restrictions

I have a few more but these are the ones I'm going to include for now. Bye bye! Have a good day!

So I'm not gonna say which character but there's a character we have a fictive of in our system, that is mostly fandom developed, meaning he's very very sexualised in a lot of media. The fictives doesn't come from the sexualised part of the character, but from the kind of "tough guy persona" of that character. I, nor anyone in our system, still indulges in that media as its something we don't enjoy anymore and find way too over sexualised BUT i decided to give it a go again and i could hear said fictive SCREAMING from headspace to shut down my phone lol. Just a little funny story combined with a question. Have a nice day (:

It's been a good way for us to "plan out" alters and one of our littles really loves it and i think it's a positive trigger for him now lol. It also has house designing so we can do our rooms too.

I just found out what it is and omg i didn't know there was a term for that :P

Anyone else here a shell alter, if so, what's your experience and how are you finding it?

Have a good day, bye bye :D

To make it clear, first of all, i know there are other types of plurality, but I'm questioning disordered, traumagenic plurality, specifically OSDD 1b.

First of all, my question is, how do you tell the difference between normal things and alters? How do you tell the difference between normal identity shifts (I'm genderfluid) and mood swings and alters? How do you tell the difference between normal forgetfulness and amnesia?

That's all for now, if you have any questions, ask. Have a nice day <3

So hi. I'm asexual and I consider myself as panromantic. I definitely like both men and women but the thing is, i can't really see myself in the future with a man. It's not for the lack of attraction or anything, cause it's there, i just genuinely cannot imagine myself in a relationship in which I'm dating a man. Is that still pansexual or is that considered omni with a preference for uh... Non men or is that just considered as not liking men?

Bro I'm exhausted. I'm the original host and I've been a host our entire life. I'm the main caretaker and I'm always in co con and can't access headspace. Why do the others get to have nice little vacations in our head while I'm dealing with all this bullshit? I'm frontstuck rn and i had a freak out where i thought i was faking a lot and now no one is fronting and WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO MAKE ME FEEL WORSE? Do y'all even exist? And tell me why the only time we had only 1 host, it was me, and then the second host switched and neither of them had to be a host as long as me? And like i said, I'm frontstuck, and the alter that handles social interactions decided not to front and i had to handle that shit myself. I don't even know if I'm a system anymore, might just be fooling myself and honestly kinda hope i am fooling myself cause if I'm a system these guys don't know how to do their jobs 🙏